There are two things always going on in your life that each lead to one ultimate decision you make…<\/p>\n
And it’s a decision that determines the path your life takes.<\/p>\n
These two things are…thoughts about the past and thoughts about the future.<\/p>\n
More specifically…<\/p>\n
Thoughts about where you’ve been, what you’ve done, and the different people who were involved…<\/p>\n
Along with thoughts of where you’ll be, what you’ll do, and the different people who will be involved in your life over time.<\/p>\n
As for the one ultimate decision this leads to…<\/p>\n
Well that has everything to do with what is going on now in the present moment…and this present moment can include this very second and\/or the current time period in your life.<\/p>\n
Because what’s going on in the present time for you is the very thing guiding you down the path to where your life is heading along with the events and people who become part of it.<\/p>\n
There’s no escaping this…and it’s a good thing.<\/p>\n
Yet…<\/p>\n
It still leaves you with that ultimate decision you’ll make…even if at first you don’t feel like making it.<\/p>\n
But once you make this decision you’ll know you made the right one…while looking back on it and being grateful and thankful you did.<\/p>\n
And this all starts by realizing where you are right now in your life.<\/p>\n
Which naturally leads to the question…<\/p>\n
“Where are you in your life right now?”<\/p>\n
1. New beginnings New endings-<\/strong> It\u2019s been said that there are three guarantees in life\u2026life, death, and taxes. There\u2019s actually a fourth and it\u2019s something always going on in your life in some way. This leads to a quote of mine\u2026<\/p>\n \u201cThere\u2019s always a new door opening in your life when an old one is closing. When you stop worrying about the closed doors, you\u2019ll see more of the new ones opening up for you.\u201d<\/p>\n The fourth guarantee\u2026<\/p>\n With every new ending there\u2019s a new beginning<\/p>\n \u2026And this is going on in every area of your life, especially in the different relationships you have with people.<\/p>\n These relationships include your friendships and certainly the ones that are your closest and most intimate.<\/p>\n So what does this have to do with where you are in your life right now?<\/p>\n Interestingly\u2026.everything.<\/p>\n Wherever you are in your life currently is the result of what took place in the past in these different relationships. Now of course there\u2019s likely to be events that took place that you\u2019ll always remember and those you\u2019ll certainly want to forget.<\/p>\n And strange as it may seem\u2026<\/p>\n They\u2019re all worth remembering because it\u2019s actually the spring board to the next new beginning in your life.<\/p>\n For example\u2026<\/p>\n Let\u2019s say you were in a relationship with someone that didn\u2019t work out to the point where you just had enough. Naturally you won\u2019t want to get back in to another intimate relationship for a while.<\/p>\n At first it stands to reason\u2026right? I can relate because it\u2019s something I experienced after my marriage ended in 2006.<\/p>\n However\u2026<\/p>\n This was an excellent time for new opportunities in my life, as it led me down the path to what I do today, along with the new relationships that came in to my life\u2026some of which were much sooner than I thought they would at the time.<\/p>\n And the same is true in your life.<\/p>\n Any time you have a situation like this it\u2019s nothing more than a new beginning that comes about because of a new ending.<\/p>\n Obviously I can\u2019t tell you exactly what and how that will be in your life because your situation will have different details involved than mine or someone else\u2019s.<\/p>\n But what I can tell you is\u2026<\/p>\n When you treat these types of situations (even those that don\u2019t involve relationships) as a new ending that gives birth to a new beginning you\u2019ll be surprised at how things time out\u2026even if it does have to do with getting in to a new relationship with someone that you thought at first you wouldn\u2019t at that time.<\/p>\n So whatever the situation is for you, just remember that it has everything to do with where you are now in your life because that has everything to do with what took place in the past which now gives you the opportunity to determine your own future.<\/p>\n This brings us back to what I mentioned a few minutes ago\u2026relationships.<\/p>\n 2. A life of relationships-<\/strong> There is one thing that is certain about all humans\u2026we\u2019re all relational creatures. Meaning\u2026it\u2019s been \u201chard wired\u201d into our DNA that we need to have relationships with others. Naturally this includes the different types of relationships, but especially intimate relationships too.<\/p>\n No matter how you look at it the entire human experience is a life of relationships.<\/p>\n And as you read earlier, the relationships you had in the past have led you to where you are now\u2026but that doesn\u2019t mean the result of those relationships will \u201ccarry-over\u201d on to the next ones.<\/p>\n What this all means is that your past relationships has you where you are now in your life and they\u2019re in essence guiding you to your new relationships.<\/p>\n This is a good thing even though at times it may not seem like it.<\/p>\n Now I\u2019m sure you already know the feeling of not wanting to be in a relationship with someone. This can and does mean different things to different people\u2026ranging from the mindset of, \u201cI\u2019m not interested in getting involved right now\u201d all the way to, \u201cI\u2019ve had it with (men or women) and I don\u2019t need anybody in my life.\u201d<\/p>\n Even though that\u2019s what you\u2019ll hear people say on the outside the truth is\u2026people who feel like this still want to be in a relationship with that one \u201cspecial\u201d person.<\/p>\n The reason why they say they don\u2019t is because they\u2019ve had too many past pains from their past relationships and they just don\u2019t want to go through it anymore. Once you \u201cdissolve\u201d those past (feelings of) pain, you attract that special person in to your life.<\/p>\n So why is this important as it relates to where you are now in your life?<\/p>\n Because your most intimate relationships are the ones that guide you to realizing the truth about who you are. This is the purpose of relationships.<\/p>\n This also goes back to what I\u2019ve spoken about before\u2026the idea of being yourself when you\u2019re around other people…and especially being yourself around other people (your friends and family) when you\u2019re with the person you\u2019re in a relationship with.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re able to live according to the truth of who you are—no matter where you are in your life right now—you\u2019ll set the stage for being able to go down the path you want in life. You\u2019ll in a sense determine your own destiny.<\/p>\n And it all starts by just being YOU. And one of the best ways to start being you comes from your most intimate relationships with others.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s something else that\u2019s also interesting about this\u2026<\/p>\n As important as relationships are it is equally important that you have \u201calone time.\u201d<\/p>\n Most people think \u201cbeing alone\u201d is not healthy. It is when balanced with your most important relationships\u2026even the intimate ones you have.<\/p>\n And I\u2019m sure you can relate to this quite well.<\/p>\n How many times did you just want to \u201cget away\u201d from others and be by yourself?<\/p>\n Quite often\u2026right? I know I do\u2026we all do.<\/p>\n Naturally this is important because it gives you that time to \u201cthink\u201d and as I like to say \u201cfeel\u201d about what\u2019s going on in your life. These are some of the best times to plan out your life and the path you want it to go down.<\/p>\n This is especially effective when you are in a relationships with someone. The most loving relationships you can ever be in with someone are those where the person you\u2019re in a relationship with is \u201call for\u201d you having \u201calone time\u201d or \u201cme time.\u201d<\/p>\n When someone cares about you they won\u2019t \u201cblink an eye\u201d or say a word about it. And this can also include having that \u201calone time\u201d with your friends.<\/p>\n So no matter how you look at all of this, your life of relationships—especially your most intimate ones—are there to bridge the gap from where you were in the past to where you\u2019re going in the future.<\/p>\n And since this is all taking place in the present time for you, obviously you can still do something about it.<\/p>\n 3. The sunshine of your life-<\/strong> In every important decision you make in your life the same thing is always present\u2026you\u2019ll get equal amounts of pleasure and pain, support and challenge, praise and criticism, and so on. And over time they\u2019ll be different sets of these.<\/p>\n Naturally, your situation will be different than someone else\u2019s\u2026but this is still true in every case. It\u2019s a matter of looking to see what these are in the specific areas of your life.<\/p>\n Because when you do\u2026and you see the \u201cbalance\u201d of the different things going on in your life\u2026not only are you less emotional, but you\u2019ll also start to bring in to your life many of the things you\u2019ve always wanted\u2026to include those that at first you may have been trying to avoid.<\/p>\n An excellent example of this is what you read earlier about relationships.<\/p>\n So whether it\u2019s relationships or any other area of your life\u2026when you approach life this way (to include where you are in your life right now) it will bring the \u201csunshine of your life\u201d in to your life by way of the new people you meet who become the special people in your life.<\/p>\n This is one of the driving forces responsible for taking you down the path of life you\u2019d love to go\u2026and it will include people who become (or are currently) your friends, along those who become the people that make up your most special relationships in your life.<\/p>\n And all of this emerges and grows in to you being seen as \u201cspecial\u201d\u2026not in an entitled way, but in a way that brings out what makes you the unique person you are\u2026in a way that serves the people around you and the world.<\/p>\n It bring out what makes you\u2026YOU.<\/p>\n Remember\u2026<\/p>\n There is always a point in your life that is the \u201cWhere are you in your life right now\u201d point\u2026<\/p>\n It\u2019s commonly referred to as the present moment.<\/p>\n And no matter what that moment is it makes up a piece of your life. And when you see how this moment is just as important as any other moment\u2026and how it is responsible for the path your life goes down\u2026that\u2019s when you appreciate it even more, along with the people who are part of it.<\/p>\n The bottom line is\u2026<\/p>\n Make every moment count in your life.<\/p>\n Because you never know if you\u2019ll get that chance again\u2026and even if you do you don\u2019t know how long it will last.<\/p>\n Appreciate yourself\u2026appreciate the people in your life\u2026appreciate where you are in your life right now\u2026And make sure you let the people in your life know how much you do.<\/p>\n When you do\u2026<\/p>\n People will appreciate you for the person you are\u2026<\/p>\n A person who is \u201creal\u201d and brings value to the world by just being YOU!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" There are two things always going on in your life that each lead to one ultimate decision you make… And it’s a decision that determines the path your life takes. 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