There’s an unseen blessing going on in your life right now…<\/p>\n
And one that most people are not aware of.<\/p>\n
Over time some people realize what this blessing is…most do not.<\/p>\n
Those that do, find out something special along the way that most people unknowingly avoid like a plague…because it involves someone else who has every intention of making sure you never discover this unseen blessing.<\/p>\n
Not only that but far too many people are also taking what this unseen blessing is for granted\u2026even when they discover it.<\/p>\n
What I\u2019m talking about here is being your true self\u2026being the unique and special person who has been put on this earth to make a difference\u2026to matter in this world.<\/p>\n
And this begins by knowing who you are.<\/p>\n
There\u2019s a quote that says, \u201cYou are who you are when no one is looking.\u201d<\/p>\n
Meaning\u2026<\/p>\n
It\u2019s easy to appear and act one way in public, but when you\u2019re \u201cbehind closed doors\u201d and no one—except for perhaps your spouse or close friend—is around you act completely different\u2026quite often the opposite.<\/p>\n
Now what about when you\u2019re around other people in a social setting? What about when you\u2019re in a relationship (or friendship) with someone and you\u2019re with them around other people? Who are you then?<\/p>\n
This brings up a quote of mine\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cYou are who you are when everyone is looking.\u201d<\/p>\n
For most people this quote at first seems anything but true because they\u2019re being and\/or trying to be somebody they\u2019re not when they\u2019re around other people (to certainly include someone they may be in a relationship with)\u2026and in many cases just to please others.<\/p>\n
And in the process they\u2019re giving up who they are.<\/p>\n
How many times have you been in situations like this? If you\u2019re like me\u2026at least one and most likely several. In fact you may even be in one right now.<\/p>\n
In any case it still comes down to the same thing\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cAre you being yourself when you’re around other people\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2026and if you\u2019re not what can you do to recognize this and then change it?<\/p>\n
1. Identity crisis identity blessings-<\/strong> Whenever it comes to being yourself around other people thoughts of two possible scenarios come up\u2026being yourself around a group of people and being yourself around another person such as someone you may be in a relationship with.<\/p>\n In either case the following quote by Nietzsche comes to mind:<\/p>\n \u201cThe individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.\u201d<\/p>\n And this is right at the center of whether you\u2019re being yourself around other people.<\/p>\n In both scenarios you\u2019re dealing with a \u201ctribe\u201d\u2026either the group of people or that one person you may be in a relationship with. It may sound strange that one person can actually be a \u201ctribe\u201d\u2026<\/p>\n But when it comes to being your true self around a person you just can\u2019t seem to \u201clet go of\u201d in a relationship, it can seem like a tribe\u2026especially when it comes to being with this person while hanging out with your friends and\/or family.<\/p>\n Think about it\u2026<\/p>\n How many times have you been with someone in a relationship where you found yourself doing things that you never thought you would\u2026that before you met this person \u201cswore\u201d you\u2019d never do?<\/p>\n Or how about this\u2026<\/p>\n How many times have you been in a situation where you and the person you were in a relationship with were hanging out with your friends and\/or family and you were not being who you really are\u2026while trying to be someone other than yourself just to please your partner? How uneasy of a feeling was it?<\/p>\n If this sounds familiar to you\u2026was it because you worried about what your partner would think about you if you were actually being yourself around your friends and the special people in your life?<\/p>\n This is certainly challenging and a situation we\u2019ve all been in.<\/p>\n And isn\u2019t it interesting that no matter how much you tried to please this other person\u2026that it really didn\u2019t make a difference anyway.<\/p>\n The fact is\u2026it never will make a difference\u2026because you\u2019ll never change anyone or how you want them to act towards you as long as you\u2019re giving up who you are. And this certainly includes those situations when you\u2019re around the special people in your life.<\/p>\n Remember\u2026<\/p>\n If this other person has an issue with the people you love being around\u2026it\u2019s their issue. They\u2019re the ones that want you to give up who you are\u2026to give up what\u2019s most important to you just so you can please them\u2026which you\u2019ll never be able to do anyway.<\/p>\n And this brings us back to the unseen blessing I spoke about earlier\u2026and the person it involves who has every intention of making sure you never discover it. This is the person I was referring to and they come into your life for a reason\u2026to \u201ctest\u201d you to see if you\u2019re being your true self versus being someone you\u2019re not.<\/p>\n It\u2019s what allows you to go from having an identity crisis to realizing your identity blessing\u2026<\/p>\n Because it\u2019s getting you to discover the truth of who you are.<\/p>\n 2. Truth of who you are –<\/strong> There is a domain of the Earth that has been in existence since the world was formed. It\u2019s called the journey of truth. The same is true for you and it involves discovering the truth of who you are.<\/p>\n This is put to the \u201ctest\u201d in your life by way of the people you come into contact with throughout your life\u2019s journey. This goes back to what you read earlier.<\/p>\n The truth of who you are is consistently being tested in the relationships you have with others\u2026especially in your intimate relationships and (if it applies) your marriage.<\/p>\n And in either type of relationship the same thing applies when you\u2019re around other people\u2026are you being yourself?<\/p>\n The bottom line here is\u2026<\/p>\n If the person you\u2019re in a relationship with cares about you and loves you then they won\u2019t have an issue with you being around other people.<\/p>\n This is part of you being loved for who you are\u2026and involves you living according to the truth of who you are.<\/p>\n And if they do have an issue with you\u2026so be it. Then they\u2019re not the person for you because no relationship is worth being in if it involves giving up the magnificence of who you are just to please someone else\u2026who isn\u2019t likely to appreciate you either way.<\/p>\n Remember\u2026<\/p>\n It\u2019s all about being truthful\u2026to yourself and other people.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re around someone (to sometimes include a group of people) and you\u2019re not being yourself, you\u2019re not being truthful to yourself. And when you\u2019re not being truthful to yourself how can you be truthful to someone else (and the person you\u2019re in a relationship with)?<\/p>\n Let\u2019s face it, we\u2019ve all been there\u2026I\u2019ve been there.<\/p>\n And I just knew in these types of situations that the person I was with wasn\u2019t the one for me\u2026whether it was in an intimate relationship situation or a friendship situation.<\/p>\n And in every case it was the same thing…I was worried (at the time) because I thought the person wouldn\u2019t love me for who I was.<\/p>\n At times it even got to the point where my friends spoke up and told me, \u201cThis person isn\u2019t the one for you\u201d\u2026and they were right.<\/p>\n And even though I really \u201cknew it\u201d to be true I still stayed in the relationship thinking it would \u201cpass over\u201d\u2026which of course it never did.<\/p>\n What did happen was the relationship ended\u2026but with it came another part of that unseen blessing that at the time I wasn\u2019t aware of.<\/p>\n 3. Being your beautiful self-<\/strong> There is one thing that is true with ALL humans no matter what anyone may say or tell you….every person wants to be respected, loved, and appreciated for who they are and all they do. It\u2019s in our DNA as humans.<\/p>\n And this is also at the heart of being yourself around other people\u2026<\/p>\n Because when you\u2019re being yourself around other people they\u2019ll pick up on your \u201crealness\u201d\u2026your authenticity\u2026the \u201cinner glow\u201d of your soul.<\/p>\n Also remember\u2026<\/p>\n Life is about relationships\u2026the relationships you have with your family, friends, yourself, and of course the intimate relationship with the one special person in your life.<\/p>\n Along with this, you\u2019ll always have new relationships come into your life while others will go out of your life. It\u2019s similar to the saying I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard, \u201cAs one door closes a new one opens.\u201d<\/p>\n It\u2019s the same with the intimate relationships you have. As one ends a new one (with someone\u2026and someone you may not even know yet) is being birthed somewhere.<\/p>\n Why am I bringing this up?<\/p>\n Because if you\u2019re currently with (or have been with) someone in a relationship and you found yourself not being yourself around other people when with this person\u2026then it may be time to \u201cshed that branch\u201d in your life.<\/p>\n You deserve to be the person you were put in this world to be\u2026to shine\u2026and to do it in a way that is \u201creal\u201d\u2026while being truthful to others and yourself.<\/p>\n When you do\u2026that\u2019s when you\u2019re being your beautiful self\u2026and the people who care about you most will appreciate and love you for it.<\/p>\n And these will be the people you\u2019ll feel comfortable around. These will be the people who appreciate your company. These will be the people that take up a special place in your heart.<\/p>\n You owe it to yourself to discover your beautiful self.<\/p>\n Far too many people are running away from who they are while trying to please others\u2026and in the process are going against the very nature of what makes them the beautiful person they are.<\/p>\n You are that beautiful person\u2026<\/p>\n You are that person who matters\u2026<\/p>\n You are that person who has so much to offer the world\u2026<\/p>\n And you are the person who has the right to do it in a way by just being YOU!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" There’s an unseen blessing going on in your life right now… And one that most people are not aware of. Over time some people realize what this blessing is…most do not. 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