{"id":500,"date":"2016-06-26T15:26:07","date_gmt":"2016-06-26T15:26:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/?p=500"},"modified":"2016-06-26T15:26:07","modified_gmt":"2016-06-26T15:26:07","slug":"what-are-the-details-of-your-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2016\/06\/what-are-the-details-of-your-life.html","title":{"rendered":"What Are The Details Of Your Life?"},"content":{"rendered":"
How can something at times be the messiest thing you\u2019ll ever see\u2026<\/div>\n
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While at the same time is one of the most important and neatest things in your life?<\/div>\n
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And not just during different moments throughout your life\u2026but all throughout your life?<\/div>\n
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Along with this\u2026<\/div>\n
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How can this very thing also be the source of uncovering the truth in every one of these moments you experience?<\/div>\n
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Not only that\u2026<\/div>\n
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But once you see how this works you\u2019ll be in total control of your life, regardless of what your situation is right now.<\/div>\n
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What I\u2019m talking about are the \u201cdetails.\u201d<\/div>\n
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That is\u2026getting the specifics\u2026the details about the different situations you deal with throughout your life.<\/div>\n
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Because this is what\u2019s necessary to live the type of life you want. And even though you usually won\u2019t see or hear anyone talk about it\u2026it\u2019s the driving force behind the success you see people having.<\/div>\n
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And it\u2019s also one of the main driving forces behind discovering the truth.<\/div>\n
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So the question is\u2026<\/div>\n
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\u201cWhat are the details of your life\u201d<\/div>\n
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\u2026and how can they be used to transform your life?<\/div>\n
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1. Specific is terrific-<\/strong> It\u2019s subtle and seems so innocent at first. Quite often it starts out looking very easy and simple and then over time quietly has people giving up…while having the person attribute the reason to something other than what it really is.<\/div>\n
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This is what commonly happens when you get information from someone\u2026especially the type of information that you\u2019re looking for to help you in some way.<\/div>\n
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For example\u2026<\/div>\n
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How many times have you seen someone make a promise that you can transform your life in some way. They\u2019ll make it seem so easy, fast, and simple. And they\u2019ll even have other people claim that it was that way.<\/div>\n
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Yet\u2026<\/div>\n
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You\u2019ll almost never see the \u201cspecific details\u201d of what it took them to get there.<\/div>\n
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I\u2019m quite familiar with this because I see it all the time in the personal development industry\u2026but you\u2019ll see this just about anywhere you look.<\/div>\n
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You\u2019ll get general information from people but how often do you get the specifics of how they got those results?<\/div>\n
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Rarely…unless you ask\u2026and you still may not get a straight answer.<\/div>\n
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Well guess what?<\/div>\n
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This is the same type of thing that is running your life unless you get down to the \u201cnitty gritty\u201d of it all\u2026getting the specifics\u2026because it\u2019s these \u201cdetails\u201d that are the driving force of the results you and every other person gets.<\/div>\n
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And it\u2019s the absence or consistent presence of them that\u2019s necessary if you want to live the type of life you\u2019d love to live\u2026whatever that is for you.<\/div>\n
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There\u2019s a saying that goes\u2026<\/div>\n
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\u201cUnless you plan the details of your life, someone else will plan them according to the way they want, and you\u2019ll be living their life instead of your own.\u201d<\/div>\n
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And unless you make it a daily habit of paying attention to the details, you\u2019ll end up
\nliving the details of someone else\u2019s life.<\/div>\n
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It\u2019s all about the \u201cdetails\u201d and it starts by getting the \u201cspecifics.\u201d And even though it may seem messy at first, the specifics are terrific because they bring with it the many rewards you seek in your life\u2026with one of these being the truth.<\/div>\n
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However\u2026<\/div>\n
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There\u2019s something to be aware of when it comes to this.<\/div>\n
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2. Truth be told-<\/strong> There\u2019s something fascinating that takes place when it comes to discovering the truth. In fact, it\u2019s actually a paradox. People want the truth but at the same time they don\u2019t want to hear the truth unless it plays into their fantasy.<\/div>\n
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And the fantasy I\u2019m referring to here is that of a one-sided result\u2026such as wanting more happiness than sadness, more pleasure than pain, more praise than criticism, and so on.<\/div>\n
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This is not the truth because the truth involves seeing both sides equally\u2026rather than more of one side than the other.<\/div>\n
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So what does this have to do with knowing the specific details?<\/div>\n
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It\u2019s in the \u201cspecifics\u201d\u2026the \u201cdetails\u201d\u2026 is where you get both sides equally. There\u2019s no escaping this\u2026but most people try by dodging the \u201cdetails\u201d and craving the \u201cgeneral.\u201d<\/div>\n
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This is what happens when you have someone marketing and trying to sell you something. They\u2019ll sell you the \u201chope\u201d (in the form of general information) of what can be achieved rather than the specifics of what it really takes.<\/div>\n
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Why?<\/div>\n
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Because it makes it seem \u201ceasy\u201d, \u201cfast\u201d, \u201csimple\u201d and therefore dodging the equal amount of both sides you\u2019ll get along the way of what those who succeeded actually went through.<\/div>\n
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Therefore\u2026<\/div>\n
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The details won\u2019t be mentioned because most people want the one-sided fantasy rather than embracing the details and the fact that you\u2019ll always get both sides when paying attention to the specifics and details. Because if most people get the details of what it takes they\u2019ll have a high probability of giving up.<\/div>\n
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This is the thing to be aware of that I spoke about earlier.<\/div>\n
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So the obvious question here is, \u201cWhat can you do to change this? What can you do to want to crave the details and specifics so you can take control of your life?\u201d<\/div>\n
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First, always make it a point to ask what the \u201cspecifics\u201d and \u201cdetails\u201d are that\u2019s involved. This way you get the full picture and the truth of what it takes.<\/div>\n
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For example\u2026<\/div>\n
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Let\u2019s say you\u2019re currently struggling financially. Finally after looking around you come across a program you feel can help you. While checking this program out you see all the testimonials of others who got the results they wanted. As a result, you decide to sign up.<\/div>\n
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Now unless you make it a point to question those results by asking for the specifics\u2026the details\u2026of what else was involved and contributed to how people got those results, you won\u2019t get the full picture and have a high probability of not getting the same type of results.<\/div>\n
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The second thing to be aware of is\u2026are you willing to go through whatever it takes?<\/div>\n
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Because again, you\u2019ll get both sides along the way\u2026the praise and criticism, the people liking and disliking you, the pleasures and pains of what\u2019s involved….equally.<\/div>\n
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And this involves loving whatever it is you\u2019re looking to accomplish.<\/div>\n
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When you can say \u201cI love\u201d doing this, \u201cI choose\u201d to be doing this, and \u201cI\u2019m inspired\u201d by doing this, instead of saying \u201cI have to\u201d, \u201cI\u2019ve got to\u201d, or \u201cI\u2019m supposed to\u201d be doing this\u2026you\u2019ll then embrace both sides equally and be willing to go through the specifics and details involved.<\/div>\n
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As a result\u2026<\/div>\n
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You get to see the neatest part of all\u2026a lifetime of rewards\u2026and two in particular.<\/div>\n
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3. Ruler of your life-<\/strong> Let\u2019s revisited the quote I shared earlier\u2026\u201cUnless you plan the details of your life, someone else will plan them according to the way they want, and you\u2019ll be living their life instead of your own.\u201d<\/div>\n
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This brings up what happens as a result of paying attention to the \u201cspecifics\u201d and \u201cdetails\u201d\u2026<\/div>\n
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The lifetime rewards you get<\/div>\n
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\u2026and there\u2019s two of them.<\/div>\n
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The first one I spoke about earlier\u2026discovering the truth.<\/div>\n
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The second one is secretly contained in the quote you just read. I\u2019ll now reword it for you\u2026<\/div>\n
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\u201cWhen you plan the details of your life, you plan them according to the way you want and you\u2019ll be living your life instead of somebody else\u2019s.\u201d<\/div>\n
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This is what allows you to be the ruler of your life.<\/div>\n
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And it all starts here\u2026<\/div>\n
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Because all of the different lifetime rewards you get\u2026whatever those mean for you\u2026centers around you planning out the way you want your life to be. And it all starts by paying attention to the \u201cspecifics\u201d and \u201cdetails.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Your relationships\u2026your financial destiny\u2026your career\u2026your physical health\u2026your mental state of mind\u2026and even the people you choose to associate with\u2026ALL have to do with planning out the details.<\/div>\n
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Now I understand this may sound like a lot of \u201cwork\u201d at first\u2026<\/div>\n
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But the most inspiring and fascinating part of it all is\u2026even though at first it may seem like it takes more time and work\u2026that upfront effort you put in actually saves you far more time overall than if you were to try and take the so called \u201cquick\u201d, \u201cfast\u201d, and \u201ceasy\u201d way out.<\/div>\n
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Not only that\u2026but it can and does add more quality time—years—to your life.<\/div>\n
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Yes, I realize that at first you may be asking, \u201chow\u201d\u2026\u201dHow do I know what the details are of the way I want my life to be.\u201d<\/div>\n
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This goes back to something I\u2019ve said many times\u2026<\/div>\n
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\u201cWhen you have enough \u2018whys\u2019 of what you\u2019d love to have, the \u2018hows\u2019 take care of themselves.”<\/div>\n
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This is what allows you to steadily and consistently plan the details of your life.<\/div>\n
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And once you get into the habit of doing this the more natural it becomes for you because when it comes naturally for you\u2026<\/div>\n
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That\u2019s when it\u2019s heartfelt\u2026that\u2019s when it\u2019s real\u2026and that\u2019s when you know you\u2019re living your truth instead of a lie that is really disguised as someone else\u2019s truth.<\/div>\n
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And this is the most meaningful of those lifetime rewards I spoke about earlier\u2026<\/div>\n
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Because it allows you to be real\u2026<\/div>\n
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It allows your uniqueness to be seen\u2026<\/div>\n
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It allows you to shine\u2026<\/div>\n
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And it gets you to show the world how valuable of a person you are\u2026while helping others do the same in their lives.<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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