{"id":466,"date":"2016-03-27T15:37:41","date_gmt":"2016-03-27T15:37:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/?p=466"},"modified":"2016-03-27T15:37:41","modified_gmt":"2016-03-27T15:37:41","slug":"where-is-your-heaven-and-hell","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2016\/03\/where-is-your-heaven-and-hell.html","title":{"rendered":"Where Is Your Heaven and Hell?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>There&#8217;s something which occurs when you&#8217;re alive that most people think only happens after you pass away&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>While at the same time is thought to not happen during the time you are alive.<\/p>\n<p>In one case it&#8217;s wishful thinking.<\/p>\n<p>In the other case it&#8217;s what life is all about. It&#8217;s what makes up the true essence of living a meaningful and fulfilling life.<\/p>\n<p>Yet&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Most people try to avoid this like the plague, and then what they don&#8217;t want to happen ends up happening anyway.<\/p>\n<p>And the interesting part about this&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s something that in many cases is taught and almost never questioned.<\/p>\n<p>What I&#8217;m talking about is this idea of heaven and hell.<\/p>\n<p>When you hear these two words what goes through your mind? Are you thinking about something religious&#8230;or something completely different? What kind of questions immediately come up, and not just now but over time?<\/p>\n<p>Now there is one question that rarely if ever comes up. It&#8217;s a question that can and does throw a monkey wrench into your life and how it plays out&#8230;while you&#8217;re alive and even after you pass on.<\/p>\n<p>And it&#8217;s your answer(s) to this question that gets it all going for you.<\/p>\n<p>First the question&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Where is your heaven and hell?<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Where the hell is heaven-<\/strong> I&#8217;m sure you&#8217;ve heard and thought about what happens after you pass away. You&#8217;ll hear people say (and quite often when you&#8217;re alive as well) that you&#8217;ll go to heaven (if you&#8217;ve been &#8220;good&#8221;) or hell (if you&#8217;ve been bad).<\/p>\n<p>Now of course I&#8217;m not turning this into a religious discussion.<\/p>\n<p>However&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>First, I am posing the question of, &#8220;Where exactly is heaven?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Is heaven somewhere up in the sky? If it is, do you go 5 miles up and 30 miles over? Is it over a designated place above New York City, Tokyo, Los Angeles, or somewhere else? Are there people greeting you wearing white and have halos over their heads? Where exactly is it?<\/p>\n<p>Second, &#8220;Where exactly is the so called hell?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Is it 10 miles underground and 300 miles to the east. Is it in a central location? Is there a guy with horns and a pitchfork waiting there?<\/p>\n<p>I bring this up in a lighthearted way because what you&#8217;ll find is that typically no two people will have the same description of where heaven and hell is&#8230;after you pass away.<\/p>\n<p>Most people have been given an image of what someone said it is&#8230;but have they been there themselves? Of course not.<\/p>\n<p>Yet&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>There is a &#8220;heaven&#8221; and &#8220;hell&#8221; that you, I, and everyone have been to already. It&#8217;s those that occur during our lives. In fact, it may even be ones you&#8217;re experiencing right now in your life.<\/p>\n<p>Notice I said &#8220;ones&#8221; because they are numerous&#8230;and they do occur in specific places along with specific people who are present.<\/p>\n<p>What&#8217;s fascinating about these&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>They&#8217;re life transforming and vital to you living a meaningful and fulfilling life.<\/p>\n<p>So the question here is&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Where is your heaven and hell?<\/p>\n<p>&#8230;the ones that occur when you are alive.<\/p>\n<p>And especially, how do they contribute to your life?<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Fire and ice-<\/strong> Earlier I mentioned about something that occurs when you&#8217;re alive that most people think only happens after you pass away. This of course is the heaven and hell I spoke about a minute ago.<\/p>\n<p>Let&#8217;s now come back to the wishful thinking part I mentioned earlier.<\/p>\n<p>This is the notion that as you go through life that you&#8217;ll have more moments of &#8220;heaven&#8221; than &#8220;hell&#8221;&#8230;more moments of happiness than sadness, more moments of peace than turmoil, more moments of praise than criticism.<\/p>\n<p>These are called one sided fantasies because that&#8217;s not how the universe is designed to work.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, they&#8217;ll be moments that seem this way&#8230;moments that will leave you feeling like you&#8217;re in heaven. And with it many times will come the elation, ecstasy, and what some call eternal bliss.<\/p>\n<p>However&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>These are temporary in and of themselves&#8230;or at least they seem that way on the surface.<\/p>\n<p>The fact is&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>In every one of these moments of feeling like you&#8217;re in heaven, there&#8217;s a hidden &#8220;hell&#8221;&#8230;and ironically they serve an important purpose in your life.<\/p>\n<p>First and foremost they are there to keep you centered and true to yourself.<\/p>\n<p>An example of this is one I&#8217;ve spoken about many times&#8230;winning the lottery.<\/p>\n<p>Most people who win the big multi million dollar jackpot feel like they&#8217;re in heaven. And what usually happens&#8230;they become highly emotional in a positive way.<\/p>\n<p>This results in losing their focus&#8230;which leads to doing foolish things that leads to them &#8220;blowing&#8221; all of their money&#8230;having people &#8220;come at them&#8221; in &#8220;negative ways&#8221;&#8230;you get the idea.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>This initial heaven created their hell.<\/p>\n<p>The good news is that when you know this and how to manage your heavens and hells throughout life&#8230;you&#8217;ll gracefully &#8220;dance&#8221; (instead of limping) your way through life.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s just a matter of knowing that in every heaven there&#8217;s that hidden potential hell&#8230;just as much as there&#8217;s a hidden heaven in what you may perceive is a hell going on in your life.<\/p>\n<p>This is what makes up the true essence I spoke about earlier of what living a meaningful and fulfilling life is all about&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Because without also having those moments of so called &#8220;hell&#8221; you&#8217;ll never be able to live and appreciate the moments of &#8220;heaven&#8221; throughout your life.<\/p>\n<p>You can also see this as experiencing fire and ice in your life&#8230;they&#8217;ll be moments when you&#8217;re on fire and everything seems to be going your way (heaven)&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And they&#8217;ll be moments when it&#8217;ll seem like it&#8217;s cold as ice and nothing is going your way&#8230;even to the point of it feeling like you&#8217;re living in hell.<\/p>\n<p>The way you effectively deal with these moments&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Look for an equal amount of positives and negatives (heavens and hells) in the different moments you experience throughout your life.<\/p>\n<p>You see, it&#8217;s the &#8220;addiction&#8221; to the one sided fantasy of always trying to live in &#8220;heaven&#8221; that ends up attracting the so called &#8220;hells&#8221; you&#8217;re looking to avoid.<\/p>\n<p>But when you see the divine beauty&#8212;the loving balance&#8212;in these different moments, not only will you appreciate life more, but you&#8217;ll experience a life transforming event.<\/p>\n<p>What that event is will be based on your specific situation and occur on different levels&#8230;again, depending on your situation.<\/p>\n<p>This leads to the most important part of all for you&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Finding the direction of your life-<\/strong> There&#8217;s a beauty to the heavens and hells you experience throughout your life because they&#8217;re testing you.<\/p>\n<p>How?<\/p>\n<p>They&#8217;re testing you to see what you&#8217;re willing to go through in pursuit of what you say your dreams are.<\/p>\n<p>Far too many people say that they want to have _______ but then give up. And as a result attribute it to some reason other than what it really is. People give up on what they say they want because they weren&#8217;t willing to go through the heavens and hells&#8230;they in essence wanted things to be quick, easy, and positive most of the time.<\/p>\n<p>Tied in with all of this is what the true blessing is of all the heavens and hells you go through in your life&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>They&#8217;re getting you to be true to yourself&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>To get clear on who you are&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>What your purpose in life is&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And in the process getting you to stand up for yourself.<\/p>\n<p>This is what I said earlier about there being a &#8220;hidden hell&#8221; in every moment that you feel like you&#8217;re in heaven.<\/p>\n<p>These &#8220;hidden hells&#8221; are guiding you to find direction in your life&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>The direction that leads you down the path to realizing what makes you unique&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>What makes you special in a way that brings value to the lives of others&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And to do so in a way that is heartfelt while helping you discover the truth of who you are.<\/p>\n<p>This is why you were put on this earth&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>To bring the magnificence, brilliance, and authenticity of who you are to others&#8230;so they can do the same and pass the torch on to others.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There&#8217;s something which occurs when you&#8217;re alive that most people think only happens after you pass away&#8230; While at the same time is thought to not happen during the time you are alive. 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