{"id":391,"date":"2015-10-04T19:03:34","date_gmt":"2015-10-04T19:03:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/?p=391"},"modified":"2015-10-04T19:03:34","modified_gmt":"2015-10-04T19:03:34","slug":"who-do-you-care-about-most","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2015\/10\/who-do-you-care-about-most.html","title":{"rendered":"Who Do You Care About Most?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Here&#8217;s something that used to scare the heck out of me&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Not only that but this is something that was quite often on my mind, even to the point of it being a distraction.<\/p>\n<p>You see, one thing that is important to me are the special people in my life. This<br \/>\nconsists of my family, and specifically my parents.<\/p>\n<p>They&#8217;ve done a lot for me over the course of my life. In addition to my parents there was also my step father, Carl, that my mom married back when I was 7. As a result I lived under the same roof as this wonderful man for 13 years.<\/p>\n<p>Carl was my first mentor and largely responsible for what I do today, which is helping people raise their human potential so they can live a fulfilling life doing what they love.<\/p>\n<p>So what does this have to do with something scaring the heck out of me?<\/p>\n<p>Before I mention what that is, there&#8217;s something else important to bring up.<\/p>\n<p>Right now my parents are still alive and I am very blessed because of that. My mother is 75. My father is 80.<\/p>\n<p>Carl passed away back in 1992. He was 53 at the time.<\/p>\n<p>I never got a chance to tell Carl in my own words, &#8220;thank you.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>So what is it that used to scare the heck out of me?<\/p>\n<p>Not being able to tell (and show) my parents, &#8220;thank you&#8221;&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>But that&#8217;s how I felt during the time when I had accumulated the $100,000 debt.<\/p>\n<p>The reason I felt scared at the time was because I believed that time was running out on paying back my parents for all that they did for me. Even though they said that I didn&#8217;t have to give them any money, I still wanted to pay them back in some way.<\/p>\n<p>The problem was that I needed money to do that. And at the time there was no money, just a never ending sea of bills and an avalanche of debt.<\/p>\n<p>It was also during this time period that I had the revelation that all of the negative situations in my life served a purpose. And as a result I turned my life around, formed my business, and began helping others do the same.<\/p>\n<p>This led me down the path to the freedom based lifestyle I live today&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And most importantly, was able to pay back my parents in a number of ways. Yes, the money was important to have as there&#8217;s no question about that. Because after all how can you have more freedom and flexibility in your life without it?<\/p>\n<p>There are many people that say &#8220;money doesn&#8217;t buy happiness&#8221; and I find that to be half true&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Because when you really take the time to look it&#8217;s all about the freedom&#8230;the freedom and fulfillment of giving back to the most important people in your life.<\/p>\n<p>So who have been the most important people in your life? And along with that, who do you care about most?<\/p>\n<p>Have you ever told these people how much you appreciate them?<\/p>\n<p>If you still have the opportunity, contact them in some way and let them know that you appreciate all they&#8217;ve done because they may not be aware of it.<\/p>\n<p>And even if they&#8217;ve passed on do whatever you can to carry on their spirit.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s what I do regarding my stepfather. Most of my social mannerisms of being outgoing and likable are a few examples of keeping his spirit alive.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s so easy at times to take the simple things in life for granted. This is especially true when it comes to the people we care about.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, the challenging moments come up at times.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, there are moments when we feel the need to want to get away from that person&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And yes there may be times when we say certain things we don&#8217;t mean.<\/p>\n<p>But when you take the time to let someone know that you really care about them and all that they do, it makes all the difference in the world.<\/p>\n<p>Not only that but it makes all the difference in the world to you as well.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s funny, but at times the very things that can scare the life out of you are the very same things that can bring life back into you.<\/p>\n<p>And when you bring that life back into you, you&#8217;ll realize how special you are along with the tremendous amount of value you contribute to the world&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And also be sure to care about yourself too because you really do make a difference in the world.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Here&#8217;s something that used to scare the heck out of me&#8230; Not only that but this is something that was quite often on my mind, even to the point of it being a distraction. 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