{"id":172,"date":"2014-05-11T22:02:15","date_gmt":"2014-05-11T22:02:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/?p=172"},"modified":"2014-05-11T22:02:25","modified_gmt":"2014-05-11T22:02:25","slug":"is-your-truth-an-offense","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2014\/05\/is-your-truth-an-offense.html","title":{"rendered":"Is Your Truth An Offense?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s strange&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And even though it obviously benefits humanity&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>At the same time it actually offends certain people&#8230;even the same people who can be helped by the very thing that&#8217;s offending them.<\/p>\n<p>Also included with this&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>You have the different situations in your own life when you deal with people in a way that helps them.<\/p>\n<p>Yet&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Often times they&#8217;ll be offended by you as well.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ll come back to this in a minute.<\/p>\n<p>First and foremost&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>What does this all have to do with?<\/p>\n<p>Being truthful to others.<\/p>\n<p>And this brings up the question:<\/p>\n<p>Is your truth an offense?<\/p>\n<p>And what I mean by your truth is&#8230;being your true self whether it&#8217;s in your business, your family, friends, and any part of your life.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s an example from my world&#8230;the personal development\/self help industry:<\/p>\n<p>There are fellow colleagues who I know are offended by what I teach.<\/p>\n<p>Why?<\/p>\n<p>Because as you know from reading and listening to what I talk about&#8230;that I come from a two sided perspective.<\/p>\n<p>You won&#8217;t see me promote how you can live a happy and positive life&#8230;or that you can live in a state of sustainable happiness and bliss&#8230;or everlasting joy.<\/p>\n<p>And the reason is because you&#8230;just like myself&#8230;and every human being in the history of man and womankind were not designed to live that way.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, you&#8217;ll have moments of happiness&#8230;positive experiences in your life&#8230;moments of joy and &#8220;bliss.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>However&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>These are temporary.<\/p>\n<p>And they have its complimentary opposites&#8230;sadness, negativity, and sorrow.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s wise to be aware of that and know that BOTH sides are necessary for you to realize your truth&#8230;your authentic self.<\/p>\n<p>Yet&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Some colleagues are still promoting the one sidedness while trying to live a fantasy driven life.<\/p>\n<p>And what happens when we come into contact with each other?<\/p>\n<p>Someone&#8230;in this case one of my fellow colleagues gets offended.<\/p>\n<p>Now of course these are wonderful people.<\/p>\n<p>However, are they living the way they&#8217;re saying you can live? Of course not because they&#8217;re also part of man and womankind.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m sure you get the idea of what I mean here&#8230;and why my truth offends certain people.<\/p>\n<p>Now let&#8217;s come back to what I mentioned earlier&#8230;and look at this as it relates to your life&#8230;the situations you come across with people.<\/p>\n<p>Think of the different moments when you knew with certainty that you could help someone being true to yourself&#8230;while being &#8220;straight up&#8221; with someone in a respectful and loving way.<\/p>\n<p>It could have been a friend, your children, a coworker, or even an acquaintance.<\/p>\n<p>And despite lending your helping hand they either &#8220;snapped back&#8221; at you&#8230;said they didn&#8217;t need your help&#8230;and possibly even ignored you altogether.<\/p>\n<p>As a result did this leave you &#8220;shaking your head&#8221; and possibly second guessing yourself?<\/p>\n<p>So what can you do the next time this comes up?<\/p>\n<p>You have two choices.<\/p>\n<p>One, either stand up for who you are&#8230;while being true to yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Or two&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Follow what everyone else does&#8230;the &#8220;sheeple mentality&#8221;&#8230;just so you don&#8217;t &#8220;rock the boat.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Because when you go against who you really are&#8230;especially when it involves trying to live that one sided &#8220;fantasy&#8221; life&#8230;just to please others&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>You end up lying to yourself and give up who you are.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>It is wise to offend others in a &#8220;healthy&#8221; way.<\/p>\n<p>And what I mean by this is to provide an equal amount of support and challenge&#8230;praise and criticism&#8230;while also being nice and mean.<\/p>\n<p>While doing this also keep in mind&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>How else can you help others and humanity?<\/p>\n<p>How else can you truly love someone?<\/p>\n<p>And if the other person is &#8220;offended&#8221; by it&#8230;if they call you &#8220;negative&#8221; or say you don&#8217;t &#8220;resonate&#8221; with them&#8230;or that your &#8220;energies don&#8217;t match&#8221;&#8230;so be it.<\/p>\n<p>Because no matter how true to yourself you are&#8230;no matter how much of a two sided perspective you come from&#8230;you&#8217;ll still come across people who want you to placate their one sided fantasies.<\/p>\n<p>This is what I was saying earlier about dealing with colleagues within the personal development and self help industry.<\/p>\n<p>I also deal with it outside of the industry.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>If you find yourself in a situation that by being your true self will possibly offend someone&#8230;mostly because they are looking for a one sided fantasy&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Then you want to stand your ground&#8230;and be &#8220;your truth&#8221; so to speak.<\/p>\n<p>And this goes back to something I&#8217;ve said many times&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You never have to give up who you are to appreciate and love yourself&#8230;just as much as you never have to give up who you really are to be appreciated and loved by others.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And sometimes things will go your way&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes they won&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>In either case what matters is that you stay true to who you are&#8230;even if others are offended by it.<\/p>\n<p>Because no matter what happens one thing remains and that is&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re a special person with so much to offer the world through the uniqueness of who you are.<\/p>\n<p>Offensive or not&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>This is the truth of your magnificence.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s strange&#8230; And even though it obviously benefits humanity&#8230; At the same time it actually offends certain people&#8230;even the same people who can be helped by the very thing that&#8217;s offending them. Also included with this&#8230; You have the different situations in your own life when you deal with people in a way that helps&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":556,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-172","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v23.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Is Your Truth An Offense? - Because This Is Your Life<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"noindex, nofollow\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Is Your Truth An Offense? - Because This Is Your Life\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"It&#8217;s strange&#8230; And even though it obviously benefits humanity&#8230; At the same time it actually offends certain people&#8230;even the same people who can be helped by the very thing that&#8217;s offending them. Also included with this&#8230; You have the different situations in your own life when you deal with people in a way that helps&hellip;\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2014\/05\/is-your-truth-an-offense.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Because This Is Your Life\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2014-05-11T22:02:15+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2014-05-11T22:02:25+00:00\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"cweiner\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Is Your Truth An Offense? - Because This Is Your Life","robots":{"index":"noindex","follow":"nofollow"},"og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Is Your Truth An Offense? - Because This Is Your Life","og_description":"It&#8217;s strange&#8230; And even though it obviously benefits humanity&#8230; At the same time it actually offends certain people&#8230;even the same people who can be helped by the very thing that&#8217;s offending them. Also included with this&#8230; You have the different situations in your own life when you deal with people in a way that helps&hellip;","og_url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2014\/05\/is-your-truth-an-offense.html","og_site_name":"Because This Is Your Life","article_published_time":"2014-05-11T22:02:15+00:00","article_modified_time":"2014-05-11T22:02:25+00:00","author":"cweiner","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2014\/05\/is-your-truth-an-offense.html","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2014\/05\/is-your-truth-an-offense.html","name":"Is Your Truth An Offense? - Because This Is Your Life","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/#website"},"datePublished":"2014-05-11T22:02:15+00:00","dateModified":"2014-05-11T22:02:25+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/#\/schema\/person\/dc068d817ad3b80d6dd5dd37f7fcd8ea"},"breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2014\/05\/is-your-truth-an-offense.html#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2014\/05\/is-your-truth-an-offense.html"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2014\/05\/is-your-truth-an-offense.html#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Is Your Truth An Offense?"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/","name":"Because This Is Your Life","description":"Beliefnet Voices - Chaney Weiner","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/#\/schema\/person\/dc068d817ad3b80d6dd5dd37f7fcd8ea","name":"cweiner","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/author\/cweiner"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/172","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/556"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=172"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/172\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":173,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/172\/revisions\/173"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=172"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=172"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=172"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}