{"id":124,"date":"2014-02-09T19:54:32","date_gmt":"2014-02-09T19:54:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/?p=124"},"modified":"2014-02-09T19:54:32","modified_gmt":"2014-02-09T19:54:32","slug":"can-you-be-perfect-and-still-be-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2014\/02\/can-you-be-perfect-and-still-be-yourself.html","title":{"rendered":"Can You Be Perfect And Still Be Yourself?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>How many times have you heard any of the following:<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I&#8217;m not perfect&#8221;, &#8220;Nobody is perfect&#8221;, &#8220;Be your true self&#8221;, &#8220;It is important to be your authentic self.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Or perhaps even this one&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You don&#8217;t have to be perfect to be yourself&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>How many times did you ever question each of those statements and really take a deeper look at how they affect your life?<\/p>\n<p>While it is important to be your true self, how about the importance of being perfect and your true self?<\/p>\n<p>With that said here&#8217;s the question to think about&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Can you be perfect and still be yourself?<\/p>\n<p>Most people will argue for their own limitations and say that you can&#8217;t be perfect and still be yourself.<\/p>\n<p>I certainly differ on that because you can be perfect and still be yourself.<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. The one sided fantasy-<\/strong> The reason why most people say that\u00a0 no one (or the world) isn&#8217;t perfect is because their definition of perfection involves just one side&#8230;the positive side.<\/p>\n<p>In other words, their view of being perfect means always being nice, kind, honest, and any positive trait.<\/p>\n<p>Then when the opposite shows up, in this case mean, cruel, dishonest, and any of the negative traits in someone (or an event) they&#8217;ll quickly say, &#8220;no one is perfect&#8221; or &#8220;the world isn&#8217;t perfect.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Understand this very carefully&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>When you look at someone or something as trying to be one sided, always positive or more positive than negative, that&#8217;s not perfection.<\/p>\n<p>The perfection is that every human being and event in the history of man and woman kind is two sided.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore any time someone is looking for perfection in a one sided manner, they&#8217;ll never find it, because it doesn&#8217;t exist.<\/p>\n<p>This is when you&#8217;ll hear someone say. &#8220;no one is perfect.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>So the next time you hear someone say that no one is perfect you&#8217;ll get a greater appreciation of what that means.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Mistakes or lessons-<\/strong> Speaking of getting a greater appreciation of things, here&#8217;s something else to take a closer look at. How many times have you said that you made a mistake? We&#8217;ve all said it and &#8220;thought&#8221; that we made a mistake or mistakes in our life&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>But do we really?<\/p>\n<p>The only way that someone can make a mistake in their life is if they&#8217;re trying to live a one sided life while not living according to their highest values, or the things most important to them.<\/p>\n<p>How can you know this?<\/p>\n<p>Easy&#8230;because when you are doing things that are truly most important to you while understanding that we all live in a two sided world, you&#8217;ll embrace both sides, the perceived positives and perceived negatives&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And as a result you&#8217;ll know that no matter what happens on your life&#8217;s journey are lessons that are helping you realize the magnificence and brilliance of who you are.<\/p>\n<p>These are not mistakes, they are blessings.<\/p>\n<p>This is where being perfect and still being yourself comes in.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Love is perfection-<\/strong> When I speak of love, what I&#8217;m referring to is that there is an equal balance of both the positive and negative and that they occur simultaneously.<\/p>\n<p>Most people are not aware of this. However, when you look closely enough you&#8217;ll see &#8220;the divine perfection&#8221; of it every time&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And along with it you&#8217;ll see that you can be perfect and still be yourself.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, when you&#8217;re being your true self you are being perfect, because you&#8217;ll be aware that you are both a positive and negative person and that you need both.<\/p>\n<p>Take a look at the different moments during the course of your life.<\/p>\n<p>How many times did being positive help you and others? How many times did being negative help you and others?<\/p>\n<p>The same can be said for when being positive and negative didn&#8217;t help you.<\/p>\n<p>The point is that there will be moments in your life where you&#8217;ll need to use any of your positive traits and there will be moments where you&#8217;ll need to use any of your negative traits.<\/p>\n<p>So rather than running away from half of yourself, embrace both sides of yourself and you&#8217;ll realize the magnificence of who you are.<\/p>\n<p>Remember&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>You never have to get rid of half of yourself to love yourself and you never have to get rid of half yourself to be your true authentic self.<\/p>\n<p>So instead of arguing for your limitations and saying you&#8217;re not perfect, welcome the fact that the both sides of who you are contributes a tremendous amount of value to the world.<\/p>\n<p>This is what makes you the amazing person that you are.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How many times have you heard any of the following: &#8220;I&#8217;m not perfect&#8221;, &#8220;Nobody is perfect&#8221;, &#8220;Be your true self&#8221;, &#8220;It is important to be your authentic self.&#8221; Or perhaps even this one&#8230; &#8220;You don&#8217;t have to be perfect to be yourself&#8221; How many times did you ever question each of those statements and really&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":556,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-124","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v23.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Can You Be Perfect And Still Be Yourself? 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