{"id":1380,"date":"2012-10-04T10:18:18","date_gmt":"2012-10-04T14:18:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/awakeintheworld\/?p=1380"},"modified":"2012-10-04T10:18:18","modified_gmt":"2012-10-04T14:18:18","slug":"energy-etiquette-school-how-do-you-relate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/awakeintheworld\/2012\/10\/energy-etiquette-school-how-do-you-relate.html","title":{"rendered":"Energy Etiquette School: How Do You Relate?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Someone needs to teach energy etiquette. Many of us have been versed in social etiquette about how to be polite, but underneath if the energy isn\u2019t aligned with the actions then it\u2019s ineffective. I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve had the experience of being in a public place, say a coffee shop or a restaurant and become aware of someone staring at you. It\u2019s a subtle shift in energy, but most of us know when someone is looking in our direction and we look up to take note and sometimes even to glare back to say \u201cget out of my space.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Pets often give us good, healthy energy.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

As many of us become more sensitive, intuitive, and aware the interplays of energy between people become more apparent \u2013 if we take the time to become aware of them. As I sat at a coffee shop working on a book, a woman came in and sat down about ten feet away. The feeling of the space shifted. At first I tried to ignore it, then I decided to pay attention. I checked in to see if I was energetically demanding attention and I felt pretty zipped up and self-contained. As I continued to work, the demand felt stronger and I recognized that the woman tugged at my solar plexus. Her energy felt like that of a spoiled child who DEMANDED that I pay attention to her. When I recognized this demand on my energy\/attention, I held up my hands at the level of my solar plexus and blocked the demand. Though she sat with her back turned to me she certainly felt the shift because within seconds she got up and left.<\/p>\n

Some people try to hook in and connect through touch. They initiate connections with us by brushing against our arm or touching our hand or through hugs. A friend I care for hooks into my solar plexus if I\u2019m not careful, so I asked her to stop hugs and physical contact. For the less aware (like her) confronting them with what they\u2019re doing will only cause denial and confusion. But for those of us who are becoming increasingly intuitive, sensitive, and aware we\u2019re no longer willing to allow others to invade us energetically. We take care of keeping our own energy clean and clear.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re around others who have no energy etiquette, then you may want to read Barbara Brennan\u2019s book, \u201cEmerging Light\u201d which illustrates how we relate to others energetically including some defense patterns that we use. A good way to protect against people who leak energetically and ooze into others is to use Deena Spear\u2019s \u201cZip Up\u201d exercise. Deena Spears is an author and Barbara Brennan School graduate who tunes instruments and people energetically. You\u2019ll find her exercise at her website www.singingwoods.org<\/a>. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Bio:<\/strong> Debra Moffitt is the award winning author of Awake in the World: 108 Practices to Live a Divinely Inspired Life<\/a> and \u201cGarden of Bliss: Cultivating the Inner Landscape for Self-Discovery\u201d (Llewellyn Worldwide, February 2013). A visionary, dreamer and teacher, she\u2019s devoted to nurturing the spiritual in everyday life. She leads workshops on spiritual practices, writing and creativity in the U.S. and Europe. More at http:\/\/www.awakeintheworld.com<\/a> and on Facebook at: http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/DebraMoffittAwakeintheWorld<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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