{"id":3765,"date":"2011-06-09T07:03:31","date_gmt":"2011-06-09T11:03:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/astrologicalmusings\/?p=3765"},"modified":"2011-06-09T07:03:31","modified_gmt":"2011-06-09T11:03:31","slug":"tell-me-something-good","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/astrologicalmusings\/2011\/06\/tell-me-something-good.html","title":{"rendered":"“Tell me something good.”"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>It’s human nature to seek pleasure and avoid pain. \u00a0Nobody wants to feel bad, or go through difficult situations. \u00a0I have been an astrologer for more than half of my life now, so it’s hard for me to remember what it was like before I new about planetary cycles that were likely to bring challenges that required adjustment and change, but I imagine that it is pretty confusing. \u00a0Life is going great, and then all of a sudden here comes a curve ball and suddenly I’m feeling depressed for apparently no reason.<\/p>\n

Some of you have heard me say that I have the hardest chart I’ve ever seen, and I like to think that’s so that I can bring some understanding to the table when consulting with clients. \u00a0When I talk about healing the core wound, or dealing with depression, it’s not just a concept – I’ve been there. \u00a0I know what it’s like to consider suicide. \u00a0I know what it’s like to feel that life will never get any better. \u00a0But I also know what it’s like to have moved through these horribly difficult times and come out the other side with great joy and happiness.<\/p>\n

Sometimes in a consultation the client will say “I’ve just had a terrible time but now I want to move on. \u00a0Tell me something good.” \u00a0And it would be easy to help her to forget about where she has just been and talk only about the Jupiter transits that are coming, or the fact that her Moon has just progressed into Sagittarius which will make it easier for her to avoid the pain that she’s feeling. \u00a0But my experience tells me that before we can REALLY move on, we have to understand what just happened. \u00a0Where did those feelings of despair come from? \u00a0What was happening in the client’s chart when his wife had an affair? \u00a0And perhaps most importantly, when will these bad feelings start to subside?<\/p>\n

To me, this is the magic of the astrological consultation: to take the distress of feeling bad and transmute it into an excitement over the transformation that is occurring.<\/p>\n

This may be a bad example, but I have been dieting for the past several weeks. \u00a0I gained twenty pounds when I married Rich, and I’m ready to let go of that extra weight. \u00a0At first I felt very panicky when I was hungry, so hunger felt “bad.” \u00a0It was nearly impossible to tolerate. \u00a0But when I started losing a few pounds I started to reframe that sensation of hunger and started to think of it as a feeling that is associated with losing weight. \u00a0If I’m a little hungry, I will lose weight and feel better about myself and more energetic. \u00a0I will be eating within a few hours so I won’t starve. \u00a0That sensation of hunger brings less panic now and more excitement that the diet is working.<\/p>\n

It’s the same when we are working through a deep core wound. \u00a0We know it’s a core feeling if it seems out of proportion to the event that triggered it, or if it just erupted by itself. \u00a0Sometimes this happens to me during yoga practice – all of a sudden I start weeping. \u00a0This feels “bad,” but we can reframe the experience so that it instead feels like welcoming an old abandoned part of ourself into our heart. \u00a0As we allow the ancient pain to fill our experience instead of use all of our coping skills to avoid it, we release the pain and become more integrated with abandoned parts of ourselves.<\/p>\n

So don’t worry, I’ll tell you something good. \u00a0But it might not be what you think!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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