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Sex is rarely 'just sex'<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Question submitted via\u00a0Formspring.me<\/a>:
\n\u201cIs it OK to have sex with someone you don’t love?\u201d<\/p>\n

A great question!
\nThe answer, is kind of complicated though; since what do you mean by \u201cOK\u201d?
\nPeople have different moral and religious views on sex<\/a>, so let us look at it directly:
\nIs it fine for two consenting adults to have sex if they choose to?
\nAbsolutely.<\/p>\n

The number one issue, however, is that you both be on the same page about what is happening. For instance, if you are both in love, it’s fine. If you are both in it just for the sex that’s fine, too.<\/p>\n

But if one of you is in love, and the other person is just in it for the physical thrill, you are going to have a problem. \u00a0The way women experience sex<\/a> is often quite different than the way men experience sex<\/a>. \u00a0Make sure you aren’t making love with someone who’s just having sex!<\/p>\n

So to answer your specific question: if this person is in love with you, but you’re NOT in love with them, then no you shouldn’t have sex with them since they are only going to get hurt in the long run.<\/p>\n

And you must be feeling some guilt already, or you wouldn’t have posed this question now, would you?<\/p>\n

Keep us posted on how it turns out.<\/p>\n

What do you think ? Feel free to comment down below!<\/p>\n

You are great, and I love you!<\/p>\n

And if you love me back, click ‘share’ up at the top!<\/p>\n

B. Dave Walters<\/p>\n

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host<\/p>\n

Find out more about me:
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Ask me anything:
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