{"id":797,"date":"2012-03-06T00:49:21","date_gmt":"2012-03-06T00:49:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/?p=797"},"modified":"2012-03-06T01:16:20","modified_gmt":"2012-03-06T01:16:20","slug":"qa-why-do-good-girls-love-bad-boys","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/2012\/03\/qa-why-do-good-girls-love-bad-boys.html","title":{"rendered":"Q&amp;A: Why do Good Girls love Bad Boys? (VIDEO)"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_799\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-799\" style=\"width: 300px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.heartbait.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/05\/jerks-300x248.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-799\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/304\/2012\/03\/jerks-300x248.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"248\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-799\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Your &#039;bad boy&#039; may just be a plain ol&#039; jerk<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Question <a href=\"http:\/\/formspring.me\/bdavewalters\">submitted via Formspring<\/a> (many, many times):<\/p>\n<p>Why do Good Girls love Bad Boys?<\/p>\n<p>This is one of those issues that has come up so many times that I covered it both on a recent episode of my radio show: <a href=\"http:\/\/dl.dropbox.com\/u\/14981816\/bdavewalters.2012-02-15.005945.mp3\" target=\"_blank\">Rise UP with B. Dave Walters<\/a> as well as did a video dedicated to the topic.<\/p>\n<p>In the video below, I share with you:<\/p>\n<p>Why good girls like *bad boys*<br \/>\nGirls: how to stop falling for JERKS<br \/>\nGuys: how to stop being called &#8220;too nice&#8221;<br \/>\nAnd more!<\/p>\n<p>So here today, I\u2019d like to talk about another aspect of this question: how long you should wait for someone to change.<\/p>\n<p>The answer is: not long at all!<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"All About You with B. Dave Walters Episode 80 Bad Boys.mp4\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Zs5hDPiiZ8w?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>If you are getting into a relationship based on the belief that someone will change, like \u201che\u2019d be perfect if he lost 20 lbs.,\u201d or, \u201che\u2019d be great if he could just make more money,\u201d then you are in for problems.<\/p>\n<p>Even though some change is inevitable, at the beginning of a relationship you have to ask yourself one very important question:<\/p>\n<p>If this person doesn\u2019t change AT ALL, not one tiny bit\u2026could you be happy in a relationship with them?<\/p>\n<p>If the answer is \u2018no\u2019, then don\u2019t bother getting involved in the first place.\u00a0 The reason why this is, it makes your love highly <em>conditional.\u00a0 <\/em>We talked recently about <a href=\"http:\/\/features.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/2012\/01\/getting-over-it-or-finding-unconditional-love.html\" target=\"_blank\">how to find true and unconditional love<\/a>, but the conditional type is much more common: if you only love someone based on what they might become, and not based on what they are *right now*, then you don\u2019t really love them at all.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s keep this short today so you have plenty of time to watch that video and <a href=\"http:\/\/dl.dropbox.com\/u\/14981816\/bdavewalters.2012-02-15.005945.mp3\" target=\"_blank\">listen to the radio broadcast<\/a>.\u00a0 In addition to saying more about why good girls like bad boys, we also talk all about <strong>LOVE<\/strong>; Men, women, dating, marriage, breaking the victim mentality, some AWESOME music and much, much more.<\/p>\n<p>What do you think ? Feel free to comment down below!<\/p>\n<p>You are great, and I love you!<\/p>\n<p>And if you love me back, click &#8216;share&#8217; up at the top!<\/p>\n<p>B. Dave Walters<\/p>\n<p>Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host<\/p>\n<p>Find out more about me:<br \/>\n<a title=\"http:\/\/about.me\/BDaveWalters\" href=\"http:\/\/about.me\/BDaveWalters\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/about.me\/BDaveWalters<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ask me anything:<br \/>\n<a title=\"http:\/\/formspring.me\/BDaveWalters\" href=\"http:\/\/formspring.me\/BDaveWalters\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/formspring.me\/BDaveWalters<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Pages I support:<br \/>\n<a title=\"Jesus and Buddha \" href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/jesusnbuddha\" target=\"_blank\">Jesus and Buddha\u00a0<\/a>\u00a0&#8212; Interfaith dialog<\/p>\n<p><a title=\"Gnostic Theism\" href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/pages\/Gnostic-Theism\/213600055362473\" target=\"_blank\">Gnostic Theism<\/a>\u00a0&#8212; Religion and Spirituality for the 21st Century (Join the Movement!)<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/177682155586539\/\" target=\"_blank\">Love One Another<\/a>\u00a0&#8212; \u00a0A group for the coolest Spiritual people on the Internet!<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.twitter.com\/BDaveWalters\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/image3.examiner.com\/images\/blog\/EXID4908\/images\/Button_Twitter.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"50\" height=\"48\" \/><\/a>\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/BDaveWalters\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/image3.examiner.com\/images\/blog\/EXID4908\/images\/Button_Facebook.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"50\" height=\"48\" \/><\/a>\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/bdavewalters\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/image3.examiner.com\/images\/blog\/EXID4908\/images\/Button_YouTube.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"49\" height=\"48\" \/><\/a>\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.myspace.com\/bdavewalters\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/image3.examiner.com\/images\/blog\/EXID4908\/images\/Button_MySpace.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"50\" height=\"48\" \/><\/a>\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/formspring.me\/bdavewalters\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/image3.examiner.com\/images\/blog\/EXID4908\/images\/email_button.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"47\" height=\"48\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question submitted via Formspring (many, many times): Why do Good Girls love Bad Boys? 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