{"id":758,"date":"2012-02-19T22:08:38","date_gmt":"2012-02-19T22:08:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/?p=758"},"modified":"2012-02-19T22:08:38","modified_gmt":"2012-02-19T22:08:38","slug":"qa-how-do-i-start-dating-and-learn-how-to-flirt-video","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/2012\/02\/qa-how-do-i-start-dating-and-learn-how-to-flirt-video.html","title":{"rendered":"Q&A: How do I start dating and learn how to flirt? (Video)"},"content":{"rendered":"
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If it's not fun, you're doing it wrong!<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

The video below answers these questions\u00a0submitted via Formspring.me<\/a><\/p>\n

Part 1: Hi Dave, I’m a 31 year old female, and I’ve never dated, or kissed anyone. It’s not that I haven’t ever been asked out. I am a bit overweight, but I don’t think that is it. Cont-
\nPart 2: I’ve always been a goals oriented person, and I was always focused on achieving my goals, marriage and dating was always out, because I thought it would distract me from my goals. Lately my thoughts and opinions have changed.
\nPart 3: How do I start dating and flirting now, when I never have?<\/p>\n

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I just finished college, and I’ve put dating on the back burner for a while. I know, college girls are supposed to date, I hear it all the time. Although I put my goals first. I want to get back in the dating scene, but I never really learned how to flirt?<\/p>\n

*In the video, I asked the person who submitted this question to send in more information, this is what she replied:<\/p>\n

\u201cHi Dave, This is that woman who hasn’t dated! Well,you got part of it right about my father, but I wasn’t abused, just disappointed a lot. He was or still is a workaholic, and he cheated on my mother, along with a long line of other men in my family line. My mother hasn’t left him. He told her once, then denied it again, even though I caught him one time. His father even had another family. My mothers Mother was never married, and had three kids,and won’t talk about my grandfather.
\nI’ve never had a grandfather, or any man who was trustworthy in my life.
\nSo growing up I thought I needed to protect myself. The women in my family only told me that all men are dogs and to stay away.
\nI’ve decided to change my mindset.
\nThanks Dave for all your help. I’m not a fan on any of your pages. My friend shows me your videos sometimes, and that’s how I found formspring and the flirting video. I had no idea that you’d answer in such a direct way.\u201d<\/p>\n