{"id":559,"date":"2012-01-13T02:04:28","date_gmt":"2012-01-13T02:04:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/?p=559"},"modified":"2012-01-13T02:04:28","modified_gmt":"2012-01-13T02:04:28","slug":"qa-why-is-it-hard-for-men-to-say-i-love-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/2012\/01\/qa-why-is-it-hard-for-men-to-say-i-love-you.html","title":{"rendered":"Q&A: Why is it hard for men to say I love you?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Let him know you need to hear him say 'I love you'<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Question\u00a0submitted via Formspring<\/a>:
\n\u201cWhy is it hard for men to say i love you back ??\u201d<\/p>\n

For a real man, it isn’t!<\/p>\n

Los Angeles is probably one of, if not the most, superficial cities in the world, so it’s not uncommon to find guys with difficulties expressing themselves. Add to that, that many guys ANYWHERE have difficulties expressing themselves! Somewhere along the way, people started to believe that ‘tough’ guys don’t have any feelings; even though the toughest guys around are very open with their feelings. Why wouldn’t they be?
\nThey don’t care what anyone else thinks!<\/p>\n

In this case, step one would be: DOES he love you?
\nHis words may not be what you want them to be, but are his actions?
\nDoes he listen to you, do things to show he values and cares about you?
\nIn the end, words lie but actions tell the truth; as long as he ACTS like he loves you, you are off to a good start.<\/p>\n

If you’re sure he feels it but isn’t communicating it properly, I’d look at his relationship with his own father, and his father’s relationship with his mother. If his dad didn’t say it often, he probably never learned to, either.
\nHave you tried *asking * him to tell you? He may not even realize anything is wrong,\u00a0since guys are a lot different then women<\/a>.<\/p>\n

And worse come to worst: make sure he knows that\u00a0women are a lot different then men, too<\/a>!<\/p>\n

Keep us posted on how it turns out.<\/p>\n

What do you think? \u00a0Feel free to comment down below!<\/p>\n

You are great, and I love you!<\/p>\n

And if you love me back, click ‘share’ up at the top!<\/p>\n

B. Dave Walters<\/p>\n

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host<\/p>\n

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