{"id":437,"date":"2011-12-17T19:31:10","date_gmt":"2011-12-17T19:31:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/?p=437"},"modified":"2011-12-17T19:34:31","modified_gmt":"2011-12-17T19:34:31","slug":"qa-does-the-law-of-attraction-blame-the-victim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/2011\/12\/qa-does-the-law-of-attraction-blame-the-victim.html","title":{"rendered":"Q&A: Does the Law of Attraction blame the victim?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Question submitted via Formspring<\/a>:<\/p>\n

“The Law of Attraction teaches that we create our own realities by attracting like things\/events to us based on our feelings. So does that mean that the victims of crimes are are attracting those crimes to them. It seems like blaming the victim. :(”<\/p>\n

We have talked about the Law of Attraction<\/a> before, as well as how it is only one of 7 Universal Laws<\/a>. \u00a0 This is a question that *always* comes up, especially when a person has had had a tragedy of some sort in their life that they don’t feel like they ‘attracted’ into their life.<\/p>\n

The answer has two parts…good news and bad news, as it were.<\/p>\n

The first answer is: yes, we attract everything, EVERYTHING that comes into our lives, good and bad. \u00a0This may seem like a hard pill to swallow, but it is a VERY important idea to accept. \u00a0Because I am going to let you in on a very<\/strong> important secret:<\/p>\n

Either you can change and control everything<\/strong>\u00a0in your life, or you can’t control anything<\/em><\/span>.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Think about it: if you believe you are at the mercy of circumstances beyond your control; that luck and fate determine what happens to you, then why should you reasonably expect to be able to influence the Universe enough to send you blessings, or create opportunities for yourself?<\/p>\n

However.<\/p>\n

This leads to the second part of the answer, and that is Karma<\/span>. \u00a0 Fate, chance, and the Will of God all fall under this umbrella. Now, didn’t I just say that fate and chance weren’t in control of your life? \u00a0Well, they aren’t.<\/p>\n

But, if something is truly not meant to be, it is not going to be. \u00a0Add to that those accidents and seeming tragedies may be the results of your karma from past lives, if you believe in such things<\/a>; \u00a0it may also be God\/The Universe trying to position you for something better. \u00a0Consider someone like Helen Keller, who was blind and deaf and had every reason to be bitter and angry; but she used her life and how she overcame her personal obstacles as an opportunity to bring healing and inspiration to millions.<\/p>\n

The most important thing to point out when talking about ‘blaming the victim’, is there are no victims<\/em>. \u00a0There is no power in perceiving yourself as a victim, and looking at someone else like a victim takes their power away. \u00a0Note, I am not saying don’t have compassion for someone’s suffering<\/a>, I am saying give up the idea that anything is ‘wrong’ with you, or with anyone else. \u00a0This is the hardest part of the co-creation process<\/a> to master, but it’s also the most vital. \u00a0 If absolutely nothing else, thinking of yourself or anyone else as a victim is only going to attract more circumstances for them to BE victims!<\/p>\n

You are great, and I love you!<\/p>\n

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B. Dave Walters<\/p>\n

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