{"id":352,"date":"2011-11-28T20:52:06","date_gmt":"2011-11-28T20:52:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/?p=352"},"modified":"2011-11-28T20:54:45","modified_gmt":"2011-11-28T20:54:45","slug":"why-god-why-or-letting-go-ii-video","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/2011\/11\/why-god-why-or-letting-go-ii-video.html","title":{"rendered":"Why God, Why; Or, Letting Go II (VIDEO)"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_350\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-350\" style=\"width: 205px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"http:\/\/on2ndthought.files.wordpress.com\/2009\/02\/letting-go-web2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-350\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/304\/2011\/11\/4d6a24b2c174008c34a61635f2ac1363-205x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"205\" height=\"300\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-350\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">You have to let go!<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>The Root of pain is Attachment; this is the second Noble Truth.<br \/>\n-Buddha<\/p>\n<p>As I have mentioned in the past, Los Angeles has quite a few bitter, unhappy people in it. Because for whatever reason, their goals have not manifested in the time and way that they would like.<br \/>\nAnd along with an understandable sense of disappointment, comes an inevitable desire to know &#8216;why&#8217;. Why did this happen, or why didn&#8217;t?<br \/>\nWhy has God \/ the Universe abandoned them?<\/p>\n<p>But the fact of the matter is, no such thing has happened.<br \/>\nI wrote previously about how to let go of your\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/features.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/2011\/11\/pain-is-inevitable-suffering-is-optional-or-why-things-go-wrong-and-how-to-make-them-go-right.html\" target=\"_blank\">attachments,<\/a> and the video below gives you many more tools on how to know what you need to release, and how to do it.<br \/>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"All About You with B  Dave Walters Episode 13 1 Letting Go\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/CP6IAefmwYo?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>So for this article, I&#8217;d like to talk more about how we form our attachments, how to make new and better decisions that will serve you, rather than work against you.<\/p>\n<p>I wrote previously about how to be\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/features.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/2011\/11\/depression-or-why-so-serious-video.html\" target=\"_blank\">committed without being attached<\/a>\u00a0and that is an important idea to keep in mind; that it isn&#8217;t necessary to go through life as a door mat, nor is it necessary to go through life as a control freak, either.<\/p>\n<p>The key, then, is to be consciously aware of two very important things:<br \/>\nwhat are you committed to, and what are you attached to.<\/p>\n<p>Let me explain the difference again: commitment is wanting to have a nice meal; attachment is refusing to eat anywhere but a single restaurant you have decided on. Commitment is choosing to spend your life with someone; attachment is refusing to let go of a bad situation because you&#8217;re afraid you can&#8217;t do any better.<\/p>\n<p>Here is a very simple test as to whether you are committed to something or attached: how do you feel about it?<\/p>\n<p>If it makes you feel good, and you know it is going to work out for the best, then congratulations: you are committed!<br \/>\nBut&#8230;if it feels bad, or you are filled with fear about what might happen, then you are attached.<\/p>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"All About You with B  Dave Walters Episode 13 2 Letting Go\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/ZheLyqt_iVc?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<p>So, then, how do you go about converting your unhealthy attachments, which can ONLY cause you pain, into healthy commitments, which make life uplifting and enjoyable?<\/p>\n<p>First and foremost: trust.<br \/>\nTrust God, trust the Universe, trust life, and above all else, trust people.<br \/>\nTrust that things are going to work out the best that they can.<br \/>\nNote, I didn&#8217;t say they will work out how YOU want them to, I said for the *best *.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve said before, you can\u00a0worry\u00a0or you can have faith, but not both; when you worry you are telling God \/ the Universe that they can&#8217;t handle it, so you have to. The fact of the matter is you trust God COMPLETELY, or not at all.<\/p>\n<p>Once you start to believe and accept the Universe is on your side, then it becomes easier to remain cheerful and positive no matter what, and because of that you can start\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/features.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/2011\/10\/mastering-the-law-of-attraction-or-creating-what-you-really-want-video.html\" target=\"_blank\">attracting\u00a0<\/a>better and better things into your life.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m going to cut this one short to give you a chance to watch the video below, or read what I already wrote about a step by step process for\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/features.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/2011\/11\/pain-is-inevitable-suffering-is-optional-or-why-things-go-wrong-and-how-to-make-them-go-right.html\" target=\"_blank\">releasing your attachments<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>You are great, and I love you!<br \/>\nAnd if you love me back, click subscribe over on the right hand side!<\/p>\n<p>B. Dave Walters<\/p>\n<p>Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host<\/p>\n<p>Find out more about me:<br \/>\n<a title=\"http:\/\/about.me\/BDaveWalters\" href=\"http:\/\/about.me\/BDaveWalters\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/about.me\/BDaveWalters<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ask me anything:<br \/>\n<a title=\"http:\/\/formspring.me\/BDaveWalters\" href=\"http:\/\/formspring.me\/BDaveWalters\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/formspring.me\/BDaveWalters<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Pages I support:<br \/>\n<a title=\"Jesus and Buddha \" href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/jesusnbuddha\" target=\"_blank\">Jesus and Buddha\u00a0<\/a>\u00a0&#8212; Interfaith dialog<\/p>\n<p><a title=\"Gnostic Theism\" href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/pages\/Gnostic-Theism\/213600055362473\" target=\"_blank\">Gnostic Theism<\/a>\u00a0&#8212; Religion and Spirituality for the 21st Century (Join the Movement!)<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/177682155586539\/\" target=\"_blank\">Love One Another<\/a>\u00a0&#8212;\u00a0\u00a0A safe place to come find more reasons to smile!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The Root of pain is Attachment; this is the second Noble Truth. -Buddha As I have mentioned in the past, Los Angeles has quite a few bitter, unhappy people in it. 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