{"id":155,"date":"2011-10-20T05:04:55","date_gmt":"2011-10-20T05:04:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/?p=155"},"modified":"2011-10-20T05:11:12","modified_gmt":"2011-10-20T05:11:12","slug":"qa-one-minute-hes-in-love-then-he-just-wants-to-be-friends-video","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/2011\/10\/qa-one-minute-hes-in-love-then-he-just-wants-to-be-friends-video.html","title":{"rendered":"Q&amp;A: One minute he&#8217;s in love, then he just wants to be friends (VIDEO)"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_157\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-157\" style=\"width: 300px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/files\/2011\/10\/rsz_break_up.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-157\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/304\/2011\/10\/rsz_break_up-300x157.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"157\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-157\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">If he &#039;just wants to be friends&#039;...LEAVE HIM<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>(Unedited) Questions\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/formspring.me\/bdavewalters\" target=\"_blank\">submitted via Formspring<\/a>:<br \/>\n\u201cBeen dating this man who has been living with me for 8 months. One minute he is talking about the future with me &amp; next he is saying he is not in love with me and he just wants to be my friend. We still kiss, hug &amp; hold hands. What should I think or do.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>This one is complicated, since you live together; so things are probably going to get messy whatever you choose.<\/p>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"All About You Episode 35.1 Relationships.mp4\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/bMZeg9d2J2c?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<p>This guy is obviously confused, which means 1. there is someone else, 2. he has commitment issues, or both.<\/p>\n<p>Think about it: the line between \u2018oh my God, I am so in love with you\u2019 and \u2018hey buddy\u2019 is pretty clear; so if he can\u2019t choose there is something else at work.<\/p>\n<p>My suggestion is back off; back waaaaay off, and do it fast!<br \/>\nDon\u2019t necessarily try and have the \u2018what\u2019s going on with us\u2019 talk, since if he says the wrong thing there will be a lot of tension in the house. Just stop acting like his girlfriend, and let him pursue you; don\u2019t try to get him to spend time with you, don\u2019t initiate contact; let him do all those things.<\/p>\n<p>He\u2019ll either realize you are slipping away and get himself together, or whatever is really going on with him will be revealed.<\/p>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Episode 35.2 Relationships.mp4\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/3h-vuGDq47g?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<p>Don\u2019t just keep going like you are going now, though; it will only lead to a bad place as you get more and more attached and he gets more and more indecisive. Remember: words lie, but actions tell the truth; you don\u2019t have to confront him, since what he does will reveal how he feels.<\/p>\n<p>What do you think they should do? Feel free to comment down below!<\/p>\n<p>You are great, and I love you!<br \/>\nAnd if you love me back, click subscribe over on the right hand side!<\/p>\n<p>B. Dave Walters<br \/>\nWriter, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host<\/p>\n<p>Find out more about me:<br \/>\n<a title=\"http:\/\/about.me\/BDaveWalters\" href=\"http:\/\/about.me\/BDaveWalters\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/about.me\/BDaveWalters<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ask me anything:<br \/>\n<a title=\"http:\/\/formspring.me\/BDaveWalters\" href=\"http:\/\/formspring.me\/BDaveWalters\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/formspring.me\/BDaveWalters<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(Unedited) Questions\u00a0submitted via Formspring: \u201cBeen dating this man who has been living with me for 8 months. 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