{"id":1411,"date":"2014-12-15T05:24:13","date_gmt":"2014-12-15T05:24:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/?p=1411"},"modified":"2014-12-19T15:54:06","modified_gmt":"2014-12-19T15:54:06","slug":"how-to-finally-change-your-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/2014\/12\/how-to-finally-change-your-life.html","title":{"rendered":"How to finally attract what you want (VIDEO)"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_1412\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1412\" style=\"width: 300px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.louieskids.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/01\/new-years-resolution.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-1412\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/304\/2014\/12\/new-years-resolution-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"Don't wait! \" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-1412\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Don&#8217;t wait!<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>\u201cDo not wait: the time will never be &#8216;just right&#8217;. Start where you stand, and work whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along.\u201d<br \/>\n\u2015 Napoleon Hill<\/p>\n<p>As of the time of this writing, New Years is around two weeks away.\u00a0 Soon, people all over the world will be making their New Year\u2019s resolutions\u2026lists of changes they intend to make, that quite frankly won\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n<p>But why?<\/p>\n<p>Why is it that we set these huge goals that we don\u2019t reach, and more importantly, how can we make sure this year is different from all the ones that came before?<\/p>\n<p>On a recent episode of All About You with B. Dave Walters\u2014the BEST show about *you* on the internet!\u2014we talked about mastering change:<\/p>\n<p>Why you aren&#8217;t attracting what you want, and how to change it, and how to make this coming year the best of your life! I also tell you how I managed to make more progress in 2014 than in the last few years combined!<\/p>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"All About You with B. Dave Walters #86 Mastering Change\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/cUbmuvOjvKI?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<p>Now we\u2019ve talked before about <a title=\"Q&amp;A: I STILL don\u2019t know what to do with my life\u2026HELP!\" href=\"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/2014\/08\/qa-i-still-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-lifehelp.html\" target=\"_blank\">what to do if you don\u2019t know what to do with your life <\/a>, and <a title=\"What to do to have your breakthrough\" href=\"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/2014\/10\/what-to-do-to-have-your-breakthrough.html\" target=\"_blank\">what to do to have your breakthrough<\/a>, so here in this article I want to talk about why most people\u2019s resolutions fall flat.<\/p>\n<p>Because you don\u2019t <em>really<\/em> want those things; not REALLY.\u00a0 We make resolutions at New Years because we are \u2018supposed\u2019 to.\u00a0 And more than becoming the dream shopping list from the Universe that our goals should be, they end up turning into an opportunity to beat up on ourselves.\u00a0 I feel fat, so I \u2018should\u2019 work out.\u00a0 I feel broke, so I \u2018should\u2019 make more money.\u00a0 I feel lonely, so I \u2018should\u2019 get out there and meet people.\u00a0 But any \u2018should\u2019 is never going to happen; only our MUSTS happen.<\/p>\n<p>Now it\u2019s true that all human action is based on one of two things: To gain pleasure, or avoid pain.\u00a0 And as such, there can be some value in setting goals to move away from what you don\u2019t want, but it\u2019s less effective than moving towards what you DO want.\u00a0 For instance, let\u2019s say you set that goal that pretty much everyone has of getting into better shape.\u00a0 If you make it about running from \u2018feeling fat\u2019 and whatever negative judgments \u00a0you have associated with that, then any time you miss a workout or fall short on your diet, you\u2019ll use it as ammunition to beat up on yourself and feel even worse.<\/p>\n<p>However, if you make the goal about what you are trying to achieve, such as how good it will feel to get back into your old jeans, how fantastic it is to be able to do something that you once couldn\u2019t, how great it is to feel confident and strong\u2026and the ego boost of turning heads when you walk by, then working out and sticking to your diet becomes easy, and when you fall short, you\u2019ll just get up and get back on track.\u00a0 No drama required.<\/p>\n<p>As a side note, if you do plan on getting into better shape\u2014which you should, since there\u2019s no greater investment than you can make in your own health\u2014I <em>highly<\/em> recommend BeachBody\u2019s programs. You can change your life in 30 minutes a day, but like anything, they only work if you do!\u00a0 If you have questions or need help getting started, shoot a message to my good friend Coach John Tantillo and he can help you get started. http:\/\/johntfitness.com\/<\/p>\n<p>Another reason why people\u2019s goals don\u2019t manifest is they don\u2019t give themselves permission to want what they want.\u00a0 They feel guilty for dreaming big, or worry about what other people will say, to which I tell you: It doesn\u2019t matter what anyone else thinks.\u00a0 What matters is that you look in the mirror and like what you see.<\/p>\n<p>Who cares if the entire world approves of your life, if you are unhappy with it?<\/p>\n<p>And finally, the biggest reason people\u2019s goals don\u2019t manifest is because they don\u2019t DO anything to <em>make<\/em> them manifest!\u00a0 Remember the Law of GOYA: Get Off Your A! Nothing changes until you do, and if you\u2019ve set the right goal, one that makes you feel 60% excited and 40% terrified, then putting in the work becomes easy.\u00a0 But remember, do something every single day that gets you closer to what you are trying to be, do, or have.\u00a0 Every day\u2026no exceptions!<\/p>\n<p>Losing a pound a week might not seem like much, but that\u2019s 52 pounds in a year.\u00a0 Writing one page a day is a novel in 6 months.\u00a0 Running another mile a week is a marathon in around 7 months. Slow and steady wins the race, so don\u2019t quit.<\/p>\n<p>And above all else: Don\u2019t wait!\u00a0 Don\u2019t wait for January 1, show the Universe you are serious by starting NOW! 6 Months from now, you\u2019ll wish you started today, so get to it; trust me, you\u2019ll be glad you did.<\/p>\n<p>What do you think? 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