{"id":1326,"date":"2014-03-08T05:10:14","date_gmt":"2014-03-08T05:10:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/?p=1326"},"modified":"2014-03-08T07:22:29","modified_gmt":"2014-03-08T07:22:29","slug":"its-okay-to-not-be-okay","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/2014\/03\/its-okay-to-not-be-okay.html","title":{"rendered":"It\u2019s okay to not be okay"},"content":{"rendered":"
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We all fall down<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

\u201cDifficulties strengthen the mind, as labor does the body.\u201d
\n\u2015 Seneca<\/span><\/p>\n

On a recent episode of Rise UP with B. Dave Walters: Simple Answers to Life’s Hard Questions<\/a> we talked about getting up after falling down:\u00a0Being true to yourself, why we have difficulties, how to trust, how to forgive, how to create what you want in life, and much, much, more.<\/p>\n

One of the things we talked about was the fact that it\u2019s okay to not be okay.\u00a0 There\u2019s an idea floating around in some members of the self-development \/ Law of Attraction<\/a> community that you can never have a bad day. That even admitting that you are feeling anything other than wonderful is some sort of mortal sin.\u00a0 To which I would respond with:<\/p>\n

36 Then Jesus went with his disciples to a place called Gethsemane, and he said to them, \u201cSit here while I go over there and pray.\u201d 37 He took Peter and the two sons of Zebedee along with him, and he began to be sorrowful and troubled. 38 Then he said to them, \u201cMy soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me.\u201d<\/p>\n

39 Going a little farther, he fell with his face to the ground and prayed, \u201cMy Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will.\u201d
\nMatthew 26:36-39 (NIV)<\/p>\n

This passage is important for at least three reasons: First, if Jesus Christ, one of the greatest spiritual teachers of all time can feel down, *anyone* can.\u00a0 Second, if he can admit it to his closest confidants, *anyone* can. And third, notice what he does next.<\/p>\n

Does Jesus keep whining, moaning, complaining, or feeling sorry for himself?\u00a0 No.\u00a0 He turns it over to God and releases it.\u00a0 He does all that he can, and trusts that everything will work out for the best.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s an important distinction: Things may not work out how you want them to, but that doesn\u2019t mean they aren\u2019t working out for the best<\/i>.<\/p>\n

So when you are having what may not be your best day, just remember: Admit it, vent if you need to, release it and keep moving forward; ever forward.<\/p>\n

What do you think? Feel free to comment down below!<\/p>\n

You are great, and I love you!
\nAnd if you love me back, click ‘share’ up at the top!<\/p>\n

B. Dave Walters Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host<\/p>\n

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