{"id":131,"date":"2011-10-11T04:30:45","date_gmt":"2011-10-11T04:30:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/?p=131"},"modified":"2011-10-13T01:50:14","modified_gmt":"2011-10-13T01:50:14","slug":"dealing-with-rejection-or-goodbye-steve-jobs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/2011\/10\/dealing-with-rejection-or-goodbye-steve-jobs.html","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with rejection; Or, goodbye Steve Jobs (VIDEO)"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>In the short video below, you’ll hear a wonderful story about a man named Steve, and the massive amount of rejection he endured on his way to changing the world
\n[bcvideo vid=”826099296001″ pid=”96582452001″ height=”410″ width=”480″]<\/p>\n

It\u2019s true that no one *enjoys* being shot down, but some of us are far more resilient than others.
\nAvoiding rejection, (and its twin \u2013 seeking approval) are two of the biggest obstacles to having peace and happiness in your life; probably the two biggest obstacles.<\/p>\n

So, the question is: how do YOU deal with rejection?
\nWhen you are confronted with people who don\u2019t approve of you, or something you do, how do you react?
\nDo you become avoidant, or maybe confrontational? Do you find yourself avoiding stepping out of your comfort zone because you\u2019re afraid of what other people might think?<\/p>\n

How many songs have gone unsung, books gone unwritten, and goals gone unachieved, because people were afraid that they might fail -or worse, succeed- and what other people might say when they do?<\/p>\n

But guess what? I have some good news for you: it doesn\u2019t matter what anyone else thinks.
\nYou are responsible for one person\u2019s happiness, and one person\u2019s only: the (wo)man in the mirror.
\nNote, this doesn\u2019t mean be selfish or insensitive to the needs of others; quite the opposite. We are talking about a type of \u2018Divine Selfishness\u2019, because the more you give to yourself, the more you have to give to others.<\/p>\n

Consider, how many times in your life have you gotten stressed out because you felt pulled in different directions? You probably felt like you HAD to do something whether you wanted to or not, in order to keep everyone else happy, right? Now think of a time that you worked towards something, maybe worked *hard*, but actually felt better afterwards than when you started. Maybe you prepared a big holiday meal for your family, or did a long day of work on your home.
\nWhat was the difference?<\/p>\n

In one case, you did what you felt like you had to do\u2026you reacted to the situation. In the other, you did what you chose to do, and responded to the situation.<\/p>\n

So how does this tie back into dealing with rejection? Simple: people\u2019s words (and actions) have what power over you that you give them. Once you are clear on who and what you are<\/a>, then you can act from that place and choose how you want things to be.<\/p>\n

And once you choose for yourself how things are, then you\u2019ll find that other people\u2019s rejection has no impact on you at all\u2026just like Steve Jobs.
\nDoes that make sense?<\/p>\n

P.S.: farewell Steve, it was \u2018insanely great\u2019 having you for as long as we did. Peace be with you and God bless you and your family.<\/p>\n

What do you think? Feel free to comment down below!<\/p>\n

You are great, and I love you!
\nAnd if you love me back, click subscribe over on the right hand side!<\/p>\n

B. Dave Walters
\nWriter, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host<\/p>\n

Find out more about me:
\n http:\/\/about.me\/BDaveWalters<\/a><\/p>\n

Ask me anything:
\n http:\/\/formspring.me\/BDaveWalters<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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