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Sometimes, no means no.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Question\u00a0submitted via Facebook<\/a>:<\/p>\n

“Mr. Walters, I hope you can help me: There is this guy whom I really like. I told him about my feelings but he says that he\u00a0doesn’t\u00a0want to get into any relationship right now. I have been using the law of attraction but not so well; sometimes I feel that he may be the one for me and I must wait. But sometimes I feel that I\u2019m too attached to him and this is not too good for me, and i must forget him. What do I do?”<\/p>\n

If he doesn’t want a relationship, then he doesn’t want a relationship!<\/p>\n

The question, then, is: are you willing to accept what he’s giving you now, or not?\u00a0Does he still want the sex without the attachment<\/a>, or is he not open to any sort of romantic connection?<\/p>\n

Using the Law of Attraction<\/a>\u00a0is all well and good, but remember it can not override another person’s free will; you can not MAKE him do anything, you can only create the space to make him want to choose you.<\/p>\n

The best advice, is to move on and look for a new guy. There are plenty of other men out there who would LOVE to be with someone like you; there is no reason to keep chasing someone who isn’t going to give you what you want.<\/p>\n

If you insist on chasing this guy, then the first thing is:\u00a0Learn how men think<\/a>. For the most part, men don’t want to be chased; make him chase *you *. The best way to do this is to start dating new guys, and let him know you are doing it; once he knows you aren’t sitting by the phone waiting for him, he’ll automatically start paying you more attention.<\/p>\n

Also, if you know there are certain T.V. Shows or sports he likes, start watching them and mentioning them to him. If his favorite fighter gets interviewed online, email him a link. If he looks good one day, tell him; but mention it in passing like it’s no big deal.<\/p>\n

DO NOT bring up how you feel about him again, unless *he * brings it up to *you *; you don’t want to make him feel guilty, that is just going to make him start avoiding you.<\/p>\n

So, to be clear: move on, he isn’t worth chasing.<\/p>\n

And if you insist on chasing him, then take the time to\u00a0turn yourself into his Mrs. Right<\/a>\u00a0and let him come to you.<\/p>\n

Keep us posted on how it turns out.<\/p>\n

What do you think she should do? Feel free to comment down below!<\/p>\n

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