{"id":1111,"date":"2012-09-24T03:26:30","date_gmt":"2012-09-24T03:26:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/?p=1111"},"modified":"2012-09-24T03:26:30","modified_gmt":"2012-09-24T03:26:30","slug":"qa-how-to-know-when-they-are-not-interested","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/2012\/09\/qa-how-to-know-when-they-are-not-interested.html","title":{"rendered":"Q&A: How to know when they are not interested"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Yeah, I have some bad news for you man….<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Question submitted via Formspring<\/a>:
\n\u201cShe was really pissed that day and when I was going to propose to her.\u00a0 She said she doesn\u2019t want to hear from me anymore. She thinks I\u2019m a like a brother and friend and nothing more. Her relatives are about to beat me up. But i want to continue badly.\u201d<\/p>\n

Does that question seem a bit odd to you?\u00a0 It seemed odd to me too\u2026but that\u2019s all there is.\u00a0 I am accustomed to people sending me questions in pieces on Formspring, but this time it looks like he only sent in the second half.<\/p>\n

Luckily enough, there is enough to answer the question, and that answer is: She\u2019s not interested. Move on.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s break this question down into pieces.
\nFirst, you were going to propose to her, but apparently upset her. AKA she\u2019s not interested.
\nShe said she doesn\u2019t want to talk to you anymore. AKA she\u2019s not interested.
\nBut, she somehow still thinks you are like a brother. AKA she\u2019s not interested.
\nHer relatives are about to beat you up.\u00a0 AKA she\u2019s not interested.
\nAnd yet, you still want to continue chasing her!<\/p>\n

Read that and let it sink in.\u00a0 Not only is she not interested, she was angered<\/em> by the fact that you are interested in her. \u00a0So, the real question is not how you can win this girl, because you can\u2019t.\u00a0 The real question is not even how is it you fell in love with a girl who\u2019d given you no signs that she had feelings for you.<\/p>\n

The REAL question is why is it that you want to chase a girl who tells you she has no feelings for you, doesn\u2019t want to talk to you, and even has her family threaten you? \u00a0Why is it that you think you deserve to be treated this way, or more importantly, that you can\u2019t find someone who\u2019ll love you as much as you love them?<\/p>\n

Save yourself some trouble, and move on.\u00a0 It will hurt, but it\u2019s just going to hurt worse if you keep chasing this girl.\u00a0 Instead, focus on loving yourself first<\/a> so that you can realize you deserve better than to waste time loving someone who doesn\u2019t love you back.\u00a0 And, taking some time to find out how women really think<\/a> would be good, too.\u00a0 Since, you might want to ask a girl out on a date at least once before you propose!<\/p>\n

You are great, and I love you!
\nAnd if you love me back, click ‘share’ up at the top!<\/p>\n

B. Dave Walters Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host<\/p>\n

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