{"id":1092,"date":"2012-09-17T05:22:26","date_gmt":"2012-09-17T05:22:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/?p=1092"},"modified":"2012-09-17T05:28:08","modified_gmt":"2012-09-17T05:28:08","slug":"qa-how-to-find-happiness-and-feel-real-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/areasontosmile\/2012\/09\/qa-how-to-find-happiness-and-feel-real-love.html","title":{"rendered":"Q&#038;A: How to find happiness and feel real love"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><figure id=\"attachment_1098\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1098\" style=\"width: 300px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/_Ku6xCHVqAGI\/TDCo0-n7lnI\/AAAAAAAAAHA\/_gktbjc8dHU\/s1600\/forgiven%5B1%5D.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-1098\" title=\"forgiven[1]\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/304\/2012\/09\/forgiven1-300x221.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"221\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-1098\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Happiness comes from within<\/figcaption><\/figure>In my <a href=\"http:\/\/about.me\/bdavewalters\" target=\"_blank\">coaching work<\/a>, the number one question I get is: How can I be happy?\u00a0 Inevitably, the second question is: How can I find true love?<\/p>\n<p>A common mistake people make is believing that the solution to their problems lies outside of themselves.\u00a0 Or, that the circumstances going on around them is the cause of how they feel inside, but nothing could be further from the truth.<\/p>\n<p>The reality is, true happiness and real love both come from <em>within<\/em>, not from without.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">In a recent episode of All About You with B. Dave Walters, we talked about: How to feel happy in an instant, how to feel real, true, and lasting, LOVE, and how to tap into the one real source of power in the Universe.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"All About You with B  Dave Walters Episode 84 Real Love\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/GTMQYVvTVBY?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>So here, I would like to talk about the love we can find in another human being.\u00a0 First, realize something important about people: <a title=\"Making sense of things, Or, lucky number 13\" href=\"http:\/\/features.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/2012\/01\/making-sense-of-things-or-lucky-number-13.html\" target=\"_blank\">everyone is doing the best that they can<\/a>.\u00a0 We are all at the mercy of our own baggage and unresolved traumas from the past, and everyone makes mistakes.\u00a0 We have talked many times about <a title=\"Getting rid of baggage; Or, how to change in an instant (VIDEO)\" href=\"http:\/\/features.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/2012\/02\/getting-rid-of-baggage-or-how-to-change-in-an-instant-video.html\" target=\"_blank\">how to get rid of past baggage<\/a>, but until we do it is all too easy to get hung up responding to what happened in the past, rather than what\u2019s happening now.\u00a0 For instance, if the last guy you dated cheated on you, and this one hasn\u2019t returned your phone call for a couple of hours, you might find yourself getting needlessly upset.\u00a0 There are 100 reasons why someone wouldn\u2019t call you back in an instant; maybe he\u2019s in a meeting.\u00a0 Or at lunch, or asleep, or his cell phone battery died, or\u2026anything!<\/p>\n<p>The number one thing that blocks us from giving or receiving love is our own fear of getting hurt.\u00a0 And the only reason we fear getting hurt, is deep down inside we feel like we aren\u2019t really good enough to receive to receive love. This is why <a title=\"Emotions, Or, you\u2019re great, and I love you!\" href=\"http:\/\/features.beliefnet.com\/areasontosmile\/2012\/01\/emotions-or-youre-great-and-i-love-you.html\" target=\"_blank\">truly loving yourself<\/a> is so important.\u00a0 Remember, you cannot love anyone, or let anyone else love you, more than you love yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Make sure you watch that video to learn how to feel happy in an instant, and how to anchor yourself in something bigger than yourself. \u00a0Once you have true and lasting love in your heart, then you\u2019ll be able to freely share it with everyone around you.<\/p>\n<p>You are great, and I love you!<br \/>\nAnd if you love me back, click &#8216;share&#8217; up at the top!<\/p>\n<p>B. Dave Walters Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host<\/p>\n<p>Find out more about me:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/about.me\/BDaveWalters\" data-cke-saved-href=\"http:\/\/about.me\/BDaveWalters\">http:\/\/about.me\/BDaveWalters<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ask me anything:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/formspring.me\/BDaveWalters\" data-cke-saved-href=\"http:\/\/formspring.me\/BDaveWalters\">http:\/\/formspring.me\/BDaveWalters<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Pages I support:<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/jesusnbuddha\" data-cke-saved-href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/jesusnbuddha\">Jesus and Buddha<\/a>\u00a0&#8212; Interfaith dialog<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/pages\/Gnostic-Theism\/213600055362473\" data-cke-saved-href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/pages\/Gnostic-Theism\/213600055362473\">Gnostic Theism<\/a>\u00a0&#8212; Religion and Spirituality for the 21st Century (Join the Movement!)<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/177682155586539\/\" data-cke-saved-href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/177682155586539\/\">Love One Another<\/a>\u00a0&#8212; A group for the coolest Spiritual people on the Internet!<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a title=\"http:\/\/klout.com\/#\/bdavewalters\" href=\"http:\/\/klout.com\/#\/bdavewalters\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"icon_64x64\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/304\/2012\/08\/icon_64x64.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" \/><\/a><a title=\"http:\/\/www.twitter.com\/BDaveWalters\" href=\"http:\/\/www.twitter.com\/BDaveWalters\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/image3.examiner.com\/images\/blog\/EXID4908\/images\/Button_Twitter.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"50\" height=\"48\" \/><\/a><a title=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/BDaveWalters\" href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/BDaveWalters\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/image3.examiner.com\/images\/blog\/EXID4908\/images\/Button_Facebook.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"50\" height=\"48\" \/><\/a>\u00a0<a title=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/bdavewalters\" href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/bdavewalters\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/image3.examiner.com\/images\/blog\/EXID4908\/images\/Button_YouTube.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"49\" height=\"48\" \/><\/a><a title=\"http:\/\/www.myspace.com\/bdavewalters\" href=\"http:\/\/www.myspace.com\/bdavewalters\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/image3.examiner.com\/images\/blog\/EXID4908\/images\/Button_MySpace.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"50\" height=\"48\" \/><\/a><a title=\"http:\/\/formspring.me\/bdavewalters\" href=\"http:\/\/formspring.me\/bdavewalters\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/image3.examiner.com\/images\/blog\/EXID4908\/images\/email_button.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"47\" height=\"48\" \/><\/a><a title=\"http:\/\/klout.com\/#\/bdavewalters\" href=\"http:\/\/klout.com\/#\/bdavewalters\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"icon_64x64\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/304\/2012\/08\/icon_64x64.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In my coaching work, the number one question I get is: How can I be happy?\u00a0 Inevitably, the second question is: How can I find true love? 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