{"id":27,"date":"2011-09-30T14:47:02","date_gmt":"2011-09-30T14:47:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/amomentofchange\/?p=27"},"modified":"2011-09-30T14:54:16","modified_gmt":"2011-09-30T14:54:16","slug":"oh-where-have-all-the-good-relationships-gone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/amomentofchange\/2011\/09\/oh-where-have-all-the-good-relationships-gone.html","title":{"rendered":"Oh, Where Have All the Good Relationships Gone?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Sherry Gaba\u00a0<\/strong>LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life& Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the authorof \u201cThe Law of Sobriety\u201d<\/a>\u00a0which\u00a0uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download yourcopy of \u201cManifest Holistic<\/a>\u00a0Health<\/a>\u201d from Sherry\u2019s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at\u00a0sherry@sgabatherapy.com<\/a>\u00a0for webinars,\u00a0teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on\u00a0\u201cA Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba\u201d<\/a>on CBS Radio.<\/p>\n

Read more:\u00a0http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/thecelebritytherapist\/#ixzz1ZXaWhmHo<\/a>If you are single, divorced, just out of a relationship or finding yourself on your own you may be asking the age old questions of where the good relationships have gone. In fact, the good relationships are there, just as they always have been; rather your way of looking at those around you has changed. People that have been let down, rejected, left behind or just plain old dumped have a different way of experiencing new relationships, which is largely tainted by the negative energy from the last one. Changing your way of looking at relationships and those around you is the only way to open the door to experiencing a positive new interaction.<\/p>\n

If you think back to a time you were hurt by a lover, spouse, partner or good friend, you can probably remember every detail. You can remember the clothes they were wearing, the time of year, the place that it happened and the intense pain that you felt when you heard those devastating words. Can you also recall that for a period of time, sometimes short and sometimes long, you seemed to run into people that were also jerks? Why do you think that was? Do you think you may have been looking for these people or only able to see the flaws in those around you?<\/p>\n

One way to answer these questions is the central component in a concept known as the Law of Attraction. This law, which is known by many names around the world and throughout history, basically says that what we think about and what we dwell on is what we see in our environment. In other words if we think about people that are negative and hostile, that is what we see. If, on the other hand, we choose to think about the positive attributes we want in a date, partner, spouse or lover we are much more likely to see these attributes in the people around us. We can use our positive energy to influence our relationships and become more open to the positive energy in those that are just what we are looking for.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sherry Gaba\u00a0LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life& Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the authorof \u201cThe Law of Sobriety\u201d\u00a0which\u00a0uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download yourcopy of \u201cManifest Holistic\u00a0Health\u201d from Sherry\u2019s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at\u00a0sherry@sgabatherapy.com\u00a0for webinars,\u00a0teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on\u00a0\u201cA Moment…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":402,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[3,15,4,13,5,6,14,7,8,10,9,11,12],"class_list":["post-27","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-actors-in-recovery-addictions-addiction-specialist-agoura-hills-agoura-hills-psychotherapist-alternative-medicine-binge-eating-calabasas-celebrity-addiction-celebrity-rehab-co-dependency-diet-dr-drew","tag-being-single","tag-binge-eating","tag-dating","tag-diet","tag-eating-disorder","tag-finding-love","tag-food-addictio","tag-httpblog-beliefnet-comthecelebritytherapistwp-adminedit-phppost_typeposttagactors-in-recovery-addictions-addiction-specialist-agoura-hills-agoura-hills-psychotherapist-alternative-medici","tag-love-addiction","tag-over-weight","tag-relationships","tag-romance"],"yoast_head":"\nOh, Where Have All the Good Relationships Gone? - A Moment of Change<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/amomentofchange\/2011\/09\/oh-where-have-all-the-good-relationships-gone.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Oh, Where Have All the Good Relationships Gone? - A Moment of Change\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Sherry Gaba\u00a0LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life& Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. 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