{"id":191,"date":"2011-12-22T01:34:12","date_gmt":"2011-12-22T01:34:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/amomentofchange\/?p=191"},"modified":"2011-12-22T01:38:51","modified_gmt":"2011-12-22T01:38:51","slug":"forgiveness-of-self","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/amomentofchange\/2011\/12\/forgiveness-of-self.html","title":{"rendered":"Forgiveness Of Self"},"content":{"rendered":"<p align=\"center\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/amomentofchange\/files\/2011\/12\/forgive.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-194\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/307\/2011\/12\/forgive-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a>One of the worst things that we all do is to constantly play<br \/>\nthose old memories of all the mistakes we have made over and over in our minds.<br \/>\nThis is particularly true if there have been preventable mistakes that may have<br \/>\nbeen driven by an addiction that was not being addressed or even recognized.<br \/>\nThere is hurt on the part of the person that was harmed, but there is also a<br \/>\nlot of blame, negativity and even loathing towards oneself.<\/p>\n<p>Being able to let go of these negative movies that are playing<br \/>\nover and over in our heads is one of the first steps in being able to forgive<br \/>\nourselves and move forward into a more positive energy and space. This is not<br \/>\nalways an easy task and for most people the help of a counselor or addiction<br \/>\nrecovery therapist is required to get rid of the negativity and open up the<br \/>\npossibilities of bringing in the positive energy from the world around us.<\/p>\n<p>One of the techniques that I discuss in my book, &#8220;The<br \/>\nLaw of Sobriety&#8221; is the use of physical item to get rid of those negative<br \/>\nthoughts and mental pictures. Start by making a list of all the negative<br \/>\nthoughts, imagines and ideas you have about yourself. Write them down, in as<br \/>\nmuch detail as possible, on paper. The more details you provide the better the<br \/>\nexercise will work. Once you have all the negative thoughts that are blocking<br \/>\nthe positives in your life down on paper go to the store and buy a metal box.<br \/>\nThis can be cash box or any type of small metal box and it can have a lock if<br \/>\nyou want, but it has to be seen as strong, durable and solid.<\/p>\n<p>Imagine each of the negative thoughts on your paper being<br \/>\ntransferred from your mind to the box. Feel the negativity leaving your body<br \/>\nand entering that strong, solid, impenetrable box. When all the thoughts are<br \/>\nstored in the box place the paper inside and lock the box up; never to be<br \/>\nopened again. Take the box to a dump and throw it away, riding yourself forever<br \/>\nof the negative energy in the box and opening up your life to the positives<br \/>\naround you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of the worst things that we all do is to constantly play those old memories of all the mistakes we have made over and over in our minds. 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