{"id":12,"date":"2011-09-25T18:29:49","date_gmt":"2011-09-25T18:29:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/amomentofchange\/?p=12"},"modified":"2011-09-25T18:33:52","modified_gmt":"2011-09-25T18:33:52","slug":"im-listening","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/amomentofchange\/2011\/09\/im-listening.html","title":{"rendered":"I’m Listening."},"content":{"rendered":"

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life
\n& Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author
\nof \u201cThe Law of Sobriety\u201d<\/a> which
\nuses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your
\ncopy of \u201cManifest Holistic
\nHealth<\/a>\u201d from Sherry\u2019s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at sherry@sgabatherapy.com<\/a> for webinars,
\nteleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on \u201cA Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba\u201d<\/a>on CBS Radio.<\/p>\n

A lot of people are talking today; it seems they have a lot to say. Enter
\nreality television, talk shows and blogs galore (yes, I\u2019m aware of the irony of
\nthat last example). And while there is nothing wrong with putting your ideas out
\nthere, the other side of the equation \u2013 listening \u2013 often gets lost along the
\nway.<\/p>\n

Meredith Watkins, MFT, a psychotherapist in San Diego, states, \u201cOne of the most valuable
\ngifts you can give people is genuinely listening to them. It\u2019s amazing to me how
\nsimple, yet effective that can be in helping others heal. One of the most
\nfrequent comments I get from clients is, \u2018I feel so much better just talking
\nabout this.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

But active listening is a skill. Eleanor Roosevelt wrote about how to become more
\nproficient at listening in her book, You Learn By Living<\/em>:
\n\u201cIf you approach each new person you meet
\nin a spirit of adventure, you will find that you become increasingly interested
\nin them and endlessly fascinated by the new channels of thought and experience
\nand personality that you encounter…
\nIf such a search is to be successful, however, you will need two qualities which you can develop by
\npractice. One is the ability to be a good listener. The other is the imaginative
\nability to put yourself in the other person’s place; to try to discover what he
\nis thinking and feeling…I used to think that the reason my husband’s
\nfireside chats were so successful was largely that he had learned to state
\ncomplicated questions in a clear and simple way so that no one could fail to
\nunderstand him.\u201d<\/p>\n

This, I believe, is no small point. Is it possible that
\none of the most respected and beloved president in recent history was successful
\nbecause he listened and empathized with those he met? And made the effort to
\ncommunicate in such a way that the listener would truly understand? This is
\nsomething any of us can do at any time.<\/p>\n

Acknowledge those around you: look them in the eye and let them know they are seen and respected, simply for
\nbeing.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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