{"id":109,"date":"2011-11-09T23:41:26","date_gmt":"2011-11-09T23:41:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/amomentofchange\/?p=109"},"modified":"2011-11-09T23:49:16","modified_gmt":"2011-11-09T23:49:16","slug":"love-addiction-when-caring-becomes-dangerous","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/amomentofchange\/2011\/11\/love-addiction-when-caring-becomes-dangerous.html","title":{"rendered":"Love Addiction: When Caring Becomes Dangerous"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>To many people the idea of a love addiction seems far
\nfetched or something that is just made up to explain irrational behaviors. However,
\nlove addiction is not a new concept. Early literature and history are full of
\nreferences to people, often very powerful and famous people, which allowed
\ntheir dependence on another person to cause their downfall or even death. Why some
\npeople become so dependent on another is largely a factor of emotional needs
\nthat are not met through positive relationships but are somehow met through
\nnegative and destructive relationships.<\/p>\n

Love addiction is more than just an emotional need that
\nisn’t met, there is a potential for serious injury and even death because of
\nthis behavior. When a person continues in a relationship that is abusive,
\neither physically or mentally, there is a very real danger. Women and men are
\nabused in relationships, and unfortunately death by an intimate partner is a
\nvery real concern in today’s society. Knowing when love has become an addiction
\nstarts by asking the following questions:<\/p>\n

    \n
  1. Have I been hurt, physically or emotionally, by my
    \npartner?<\/li>\n
  2. Do I make excuses or rationalize the abuse?<\/li>\n
  3. Do I tend to choose partners that are
    \nemotionally distant or do I have a history of being in abusive relationships?<\/li>\n
  4. Is there a give and take in this relationship or
    \ndo I give and give but seem to get nothing or very little in response?<\/li>\n
  5. Can I leave this relationship and move on in my
    \nlife?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Answering these questions honestly is the first step in
    \ndetermining if you may have an addiction to love that is potentially harmful or
    \ndangerous. Most people need help with this very serious issue and greatly
    \nbenefit from talking with a therapist or counselor that specializes in
    \naddictions and addiction recovery.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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