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\u2018Twelve adults and children were killed when a gunman opened fire\u2026.\u2019<\/p>\n\u2018Twelve adults and children were killed when a gunman opened fire\u2026.\u2019<\/p>\n
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\u2018I am leaving you for someone new.\u2019<\/p>\n
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\u2018The cancer has spread to the bones.\u2019<\/p>\n
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Life is hard. People disappoint. Bodies are designed to fail. The difficult and painful cannot be avoided. If the definition of happiness is loving what is, to be happy, you have to make peace with unacceptable circumstances.\u00a0 Grit and resilience are helpful for swimming through troubled waters but don\u2019t engender peace. Peace and happiness require a larger context; something that explains why bad things happen to good people.<\/p>\n
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Science offers little. We are born; we live; we die. It is the cycle of life where we are asked to accept our part in the perpetuation of the continuous cycle. Small comfort for the lonely and those who want to know more. Religions fill in the gaps left by science with stories and promises to sooth our anxieties and threats to control our worst impulses. Behave now and later God will reveal the plan that makes all the difficulties and pain make sense. These explanations are suspicious. What kind of God sets up an insane obstacle course full of suffering where nobody can agree on the rules?<\/p>\n
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Kindness tends to generate kindness but no amount of good behavior prevents unacceptable things from happening. Ask anyone who lives in one of the 49 countries run by a dictator. Life does not\u00a0 necessarily get better for the innocent. Only the sheltered or faithful believe everything works out in the end. Everyone else looks around and thinks, \u201cI don\u2019t think a loving God is responsible for this mess.\u201d<\/p>\n
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Yet it is possible to be at peace. If our nature is a love that endures no matter what happens to our body or the bodies of those around us, we can accept the unacceptable. We can see life not as a reaction to the whims of a capricious God but a dream where we forgot who we really are. A dream where a God is not punishing anyone. A dream of duality, as a Buddhist might say, where we are separate from the love that connects all of us. We are miserable because we forgot and feel separate from the field of love that connects all of us.<\/p>\n
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Bodies get sick and die. People will leave our shared dream and we will miss them but they are not lost or in pain. Mediums who talk to the dead consistently report they are at peace and do not wish to return, no matter how violent or premature their departure. They are not suffering.<\/p>\n
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You don\u2019t have to believe in mediums or God or the Buddhist idea that life is a dream, but to accept the unacceptable, believe in something. Something that does not suggest the crazy things that happen mean you or someone else is unloved or deserves punishment. Something that leaves nobody out.<\/p>\n
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