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\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u201cI have always had a special bond with Shobani,\u201d Roger said, offhandedly to his sister, Darby.\u00a0 When Roger reminded Darby that their younger sister, Shobani was his favorite, her self-esteem plummeted.\u00a0 She wondered if she would always be the third wheel.<\/p>\n
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\u201cI don\u2019t need your help,\u201d Jack snapped at his mother.\u00a0 \u201cIf I want your opinion, I will ask but otherwise, stay out of my life.\u201d His mother deflated and wondered where she had failed.<\/p>\n
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\u201cIt looks like you have put on some weight,\u201d Alice said to Amy with concern.\u00a0 \u201cI thought you were on a diet.\u201d\u00a0 \u2018Yes, thank you for noticing, you sanctimonious witch,\u2019 Amy thought bitterly.\u00a0 Why aren\u2019t people nicer?<\/p>\n
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Every time someone opens their mouth, there is a chance they will say something unsettling.\u00a0 Hurtful comments, criticism and accusations are a part of everyday interactions.\u00a0 You could also be the next person fired, cheated on or mugged. Positive thoughts, a vegetable- rich diet and kind actions will increase your happiness, but will not prevent a piano from falling on your head or your mother from dying of cancer. Nobody is immune to life.<\/p>\n
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Yet somehow we think we are in control and events in our lives say something about our worth.\u00a0 Watch your thoughts and see how they attempt to manage distress. If I or he or they had only\u2026.(fill in the blank) then (fill in consequence).<\/p>\n
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If Dean wasn\u2019t so cold, Lisa wouldn\u2019t have left him.<\/p>\n
The country is in terrible shape because people are so self-absorbed.<\/p>\n
I must have done something wrong to be this sick.<\/p>\n
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The mind searches endlessly for explanations and culprits because understanding creates the illusion of providence. \u2018I am in control because I understand what happened\u2019 is a trap. If there is always someone to blame when something unpleasant happens to you, it is personal. After all, you were there. You must have done something.\u00a0 Your problems reflect you and are the consequence of the many ways you fall short or deserve punishment.\u00a0 Quick, find someone else to blame.<\/p>\n
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The truth is nothing that happens to you is personal and you are 100% responsible for your own life.\u00a0 Holding these seemingly contradictory ideas together is the key to reducing anxiety.\u00a0 Can you claim complete responsibility for your life and not blame anyone including yourself, for anything that happens to you? Responsibility without blame is true providence over life. What to take personally?\u00a0 Nothing.<\/p>\n
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Next time: Part 2- Responsibility Without Blame<\/p>\n
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