From "Thank You for Being Such a Pain, Spiritual Guidance for Dealing with Difficult People" by Mark I. Rosen:

Inner work, as the foundation for healing relationship difficulties, is all too often neglected.

Still, too much attention to inner work can make one preoccupied and self-absorbed. Outside activity is necessary as a balance. Here are some simple observations about activities that can also help you in the healing process:·

  • Find activities that bring you joy; you've experienced enough pain. Think of things you can do alone or with others that bring you delight and warm your heart.
  • Get silly and have fun. Relationship difficulties can become much too serious.
  • Let your friends know that you are having a hard time, and ask for their support.
  • Spend time doing things that help you to think about something or someone other than yourself. Help a friend or do volunteer work. Serving others is wonderfully therapeutic.
  • Consider attending lectures and taking classes that enhance your learning.
  • If your lifestyle IS sedentary, start doing something that requires physical activity.
  • Pay attention to what you eat; be sure you are getting adequate nutrition and are not using food for emotional nourishment.
  • Do something completely new and different that you've never done before.
  • Find ways to express your spiritual longings and deepen your spiritual experience.
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