From "Thank You for Being Such a Pain, Spiritual Guidance for Dealing with Difficult People" by Mark I. Rosen:
Inner work, as the foundation for healing relationship difficulties, is all too often neglected.
Still, too much attention to inner work can make one preoccupied and self-absorbed. Outside activity is necessary as a balance. Here are some simple observations about activities that can also help you in the healing process:·Find activities that bring you joy; you've experienced enough pain. Think of things you can do alone or with others that bring you delight and warm your heart. Get silly and have fun. Relationship difficulties can become much too serious. Let your friends know that you are having a hard time, and ask for their support.
Spend time doing things that help you to think about something or someone other than yourself. Help a friend or do volunteer work. Serving others is wonderfully therapeutic.
Consider attending lectures and taking classes that enhance your learning. If your lifestyle IS sedentary, start doing something that requires physical activity. Pay attention to what you eat; be sure you are getting adequate nutrition and are not using food for emotional nourishment. Do something completely new and different that you've never done before. Find ways to express your spiritual longings and deepen your spiritual experience.