We all have big changes in our lives that are more or less a second chance.
From "How to Be Happy, Dammit: A Cynic's Guide to Spiritual Happiness" by Karen Salmansohn:
It doesn't matter how fast you get there, if you're heading in the wrong direction.
So...you must slow down and see where you are going, buddy!
Though you should think instead of calling it "slowing down" it should be called "slowing up" because when you take your time, you save time.
"Slowing up" means you do not live in the past (with old habits), nor in the future (with not-so-great expectations), but here, in the moment-where the true you-and your true power-and the answers to your problems-can all be found.
You remember back to a dance class you took in your gym. The teacher showed you this complicated dance that you were expected to learn by hour's end. You remember thinking: "Yeah, right, lady." But then she slowed down the music-played it at a much slower tempo-so you could see the steps weren't so mindboggling-or feetboggling. And sure enough within 60 minutes you were a regular Fred Astaire.
You know the same approach works for the complicated fancy footwork it takes to switch out of a bad relationship or a bad career. At first glance it looks like so much effort. Then when you relax you can see what the Buddhists see.the 1,000 mile journey begins with 1 step.