Type A Personality, or Merely Stressed?
Seven steps to help determine the difference.
Reprinted with permission from Dr. Miller.com.
If your reactions to the constant pressure, demands, and continual threats of your external environment are producing chronic stress and persistent muscular tension, you need to learn how to de-stress. If your nervous system is interpreting your current social situation as an immediate threat to your survival, you need to learn to relax, even if the clock is ticking in front of you and there are deadlines ahead.
In my book "Deep Healing" I wrote, "I help my patients see that an exaggerated degree of tension is harmful and inappropriate. Actually, relaxation is not about something we do; it is about something we don't do. It is what is left over when we allow ourselves to stop doing everything we didn't really need to be doing in the first place. Like the stars in the sky, that are invisible when the sun is out, the relaxation state is always there beneath the turmoil."
When we feel we are in danger or believe we have to respond to some demand, an inner pressure to perform arises within us. The tension of our bodies, the anxiety of our emotions, the obsessive racing of our minds, are all futile attempts to solve problems which are either imaginary, long past, or not yet present. One is reminded of the quote by Mark Twain: "I'm an old man and have known a great many troubles, most of which never happened!"
Seven Steps to Help You Relax and Let Go
. For one moment, become aware of the fact that at this instant there isnowhere to go, nothing to do, and no problem to solve
. Recognize thattime is on your side
; it is your friend. Start with a relaxation tape like "Healing Journey," "Letting Go of Stress," or "Relaxation and Inspiration". These tapes will lead you to a profoundly different experience of time. You will learn the secrets of relaxing body, mind, and emotions and how to come completely into the moment. Practice this on a regular basis.Next, you must carry this altered perception of, and relationship with, time along with you