Shift Your Self-Esteem
Most of us get our self-esteem from our jobs, because we subscribe to a Calvinistic work ethic, which dictates that hard work is central to a person's calling. We Americans are a tad obsessed with work. Men's self-definition, especially, is wrapped up in their job, so any demotion or pink slip is a major blow to their ego and self-esteem. David Burns describes three levels of self-esteem in his book, "10 Days to Self-Esteem:" conditional, unconditional, and "non-existent self-esteem." The last is reserved for evolved souls like Mother Teresa and Gandhi. But if we can work toward a place where our self-esteem isn't as dependent on people, places, and things (and especially our work), we experience a kind of unmatched freedom.