How to Forgive and Forget
A stepfamily came in for help after the parents had a screaming fight that ended badly. The mother’s teenage son stepped in to protect his mom, leading to a shouting and shoving match with his step-dad. The fight didn’t result in any scratches or bruises, but everyone’s feelings were pretty raw. Fortunately, this family had the resources to heal the rift. The step-dad shared sincere and heartfelt apologies with his stepson, who apologized in return.
Forgiveness is a fundamental element of happy, loving families; learning to forgive and forget rather than holding on to grudges. Given that all of us are human and make mistakes, there are inevitable upsets in families. Healthy families don’t have fewer interpersonal challenges. They have better tools for repair. Here are some helpful ideas and steps to keep in mind.