Get Back to the Present
No ruminating about mistakes happens in the present. All of this torturous activity takes place when we are concentrating on the past or projecting about the future. Again, pay attention to your inner dialogue. Catch the “if onlys …” and bring it back to the present. If your thoughts wonder back to the past or start to project into the future, try not to judge yourself, and simply bring your attention back to the present moment.