When asked, many of us would say that we could be really free "if only we did not have to ...", or "if only we had .." However, all of these wishes have little to do with real freedom. This is because they leave us hooked to a specific outcome, and so we remain trapped, waiting for that outcome to materialize, which, of course, may never happen.
Freedom, from the Toltec wisdom tradition, is not escaping from your current life, or waiting for life to give you a better break, but is instead an attitude of mind. This attitude of mind instills in you the certainty that whatever your life's circumstances, you can take charge of them. Our social conditioning may tell us that we are victims of our circumstances, but by freeing ourselves from the debilitating effects of social conditioning, we are able to take full responsibility for our life, and so experience true fulfillment. It is never possible to be happy if we believe that we are victims in one way or another.
However, most people look upon their birth as having been beyond their control, and believe that their lives are simply the product of their environment, social status, culture, religion, education, etc. In other words, most people do see themselves as victims of circumstance, and so are never free.
This notion is most prevalent politically today for people everywhere seem to be questioning whether the political establishment of any particular country has at heart the interests of its citizens, or whether its only aim is to serve the interests of a powerful minority. Although it is good to question, for this is indeed the first step towards achieving freedom, we should realize that merely to question is not good enough, unless we are also prepared to take action in terms of bringing about the changes necessary to ensure freedom for everyone. Yet although most people will readily agree that, as individuals, they have the power to change themselves and their own personal circumstances, when it comes to taking larger action, they all too often succumb to a sense powerlessness, and once again submit to the belief that they are the victims of larger institutions. But is this really true?
Powerlessness is never the result of "Big Brother" having become too powerful to be challenged, but rather that people are far too separate and self-centered to work together unless they are forced to do so. Therefore, the key to freedom lies in understanding in what way each of us supports and upholds isolation, and how we can change this into an approach that is inclusive, allowing the individual, as well as the people as a whole, to take charge of their own futures instead of having to conform to the dictates of others.
1. Acknowledge your shortcomings and learn to use them.
Although it is generally accepted that none of us is perfect, the reality is that very few people are willing to own their shortcomings. Most try their best to hide these - even from themselves. However, if you deny your shortcomings, you can never become, whole, fulfilled and happy. This is not only because our shortcomings are an integral part of us, but also because they are in fact our undeveloped potential. Therefore by not owning our shortcomings we do not accept our own potential, and when we fail to develop our potential, it is not surprising that we end up feeling powerless and unhappy.
How does this work in practice? Take the shortcoming of being stubborn. Stubbornness is really undeveloped tenacity and perseverance, which are most valuable assets. The difference between the shortcoming and the potential lies in how we use them. For example, if you feel inferior to others, and your habit is to use your stubbornness to try to prove that you are always right, then this is not an asset, but a very real shortcoming, which will do nothing for your relationships. On the other hand, if you say to yourself, "I don't want to come across as a bigot, so I am going to persevere in overcoming my feelings of inferiority," then you are truly using your stubbornness positively, and to your advantage. If you tenaciously keep holding onto the belief that you do have value, and that you are not inferior to others, you will in time begin to see and to prove this to yourself, simply because you are not prepared to give up on yourself.