Shall I indulge or not, that is the question. Is it nobler to resist the temptation, and have not? Or is it wiser to just have a little?
When I was in the losing weight stage, I knew I didn’t want desserts. The extra calories from sugar and fats were too much for me to handle. So when I was dropping pounds, I dropped desserts. I substituted fruits at all times.
When I arrived at a reasonable weight, as defined by me in consultation with my wife, my doctor, and God (not by the insurance or drug company charts), I decided that I could again have some sweets. I do love them, and I had promised myself that I was going to find a way to be able to eat anything at all, in moderation, and still stay a healthy weight. After all, God gave us a bounty of foods; we might as well enjoy what we’ve been given, within limits. I began by allowing myself one dessert a week. Usually on the weekend, and only a really special, delicious one.
Of course, sugary fatty desserts are not the best thing to eat. I have trained myself to have fruits: a compote, or fruit salad, or homemade sorbet is truly wonderful. But if I just have to have something high calorie and fattening, I make sure it’s going to be really, really good, and not an "issue." (Something I’ll later feel guilty about).
I tell people I work with that if desserts aren’t a "problem" or "issue" then go ahead and have some in moderation, even when losing weight. Just keep track of them in your daily food log.
A small dessert could count as a serving or two of carbs for the day, as long as you make sure to eat less fatty, sweet things in your other foods for the day.