It is supposed that autonomy entails freeing oneself from all relations except those freely chosen, while the language of gift continues to encourage dependence. Yet, for the Christian autonomous freedom can only mean slavery to the self and the self’s desires. In contrast, it is the Christian belief that true freedom comes by learning to be appropriately dependent, that is, to trust the one who wills to have us as his own and who wills the final good of all. …For the Christian to be perfectly free means to be perfectly obedient. True freedom is perfect service.