Prayer Circles

birdwoman5, I'm very sorry to hear of your loss of your beloved son. Thank you for posting your thoughts and prayers here, you're among good company. Yes, with God's help we carry forward, and lean heavily on Him sometimes, but He's always with us!

I pray for Peace for your family. My beloved daughter was killed in a car accident 3 years ago. Her 5 year old son and 2 year old daughter were with her at the time. They were injured but survived. Those kids are what keep me going. When they told me that Veronica had died, I immediately heard God telling me that she was with Him and that she was at Peace. I hold tight to this knowledge. I know Veronica is ok. She is with God. It's her children I try to minister to now. I know God will bless them and fill the empty space that their Mom's death has left. This third year has been the hardest. I pray to Veronica all the time to help us. I never thought I could survive the loss of a child, but I must go on for the grandchildren's sake. The boid looms so large, especially at holidays. Lord, I raise up all who have lost a child this Easter bring them the Peace and Understanding of the Resurrection to their lives. In jesus name, Amen

VeronicasPeace, I'm so sorry to hear of your own loss of your beloved daughter. You are now fulfilling both mother and grandmother roles for them, and I ask God to bless you. It is a big role you have taken on, but one for love, I know. Thank God that you have your daughter's children, in them you can see her, and know that she is shining down on you all. I wish my son had had children, but he did not. Yes, holidays are still so hard, there is always our beloved child missing and things will never be the same. But with Our Heavenly Father's help we will carry on and hold dear to us the memories that they gave to us and the love between us that never dies. God Bless you.

SHANER THANK YOU FOR YOUR ENCOURAGEMENT THERE ARE DAYS THAT I JUST FEEL LIKE THE DEVIL IS TRYING TO DESTROY ME AND MY HUSBAND I CAN'T SEEM TO LET GO OF THE ACCIDENT AND I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS HAS REALLY HAPPEN !! THERE ARE TIMES WHEN I JUST WANT TO GIVE UP BUT GOD PICKS ME UP AND GETS ME THROUGH ANOTHER DAY.

Shaner,
Thank you for your kind words. They really uplifted me. Yes, Holidays are difficult. Easter, I need to concentrate on the risen Christ. I know he will bless us and help us. Thank you for reminding me that the love that Veronica and I have for each other never dies. I miss her so much at times. We talked all the time. I do hold her memories dear and I try to share them in a positive way with the children.
When Veronica died a Social Worker at the Trauma Hospital gave us some very good advice. She told us to make copies of every video tape we have of Veronica, especially the ones with her with her children. Save these for the children. So far I have been able to do her wedding and her funeral. But it makes me too sad to do any inbetween. But I do have them put aside and maybe I'll ask a friend to do that for me. For both children, but especially for the two year old, to see how her Mom moved, to hear her voice, to see her Mom holding her and playing with her. These will be so precious. Even better than the photo albums I've made them.
I still talk to her every day and in my heart I hear her answer.

David John Fuga
December 5, 1982 - Dec 5, 2000
Tragically killed by a car on his 18th birthday.

CarolFuga I'm so sorry for your loss I know how devistating this is I've
gone through it for 2years and the pain will not go away. I will pray every night that God will give you some kind of peace and ease the pain. God is the only thing that has got me through Jason's death and I now that if I didn't have him I could not get through a day. I know the pain is unbearble but God will find a way to carry us. I ask God to put his arms around you and to see you through this valley. God bless.

CarolFuga- My heart goes out to you and your family; your loss is so recent and your wounds so new. May God guide and protect you,give you comfort and strength. And shaner thank you for starting this prayer circle. May God bless you.

Carol, Know that your beloved David will always be with you and when it's your time to go to God, Jesus and David will be there to help you cross over.
I often think that my Veronica went first because she was so fearless. And so in touch with God. I used to be afraid to die, but now she has made it easy for me. I pray that you can sleep at night in God's hands with your boy in your arms.

TaterTots 47,
Everyone told me that the first year would be the worst. I think I spent the first 2 years in denial. This third year has been the hardest for me too. I'm so afraid people willj forget Veronica. I make memorials to her everywhere. I donate books to the library with her name in them. I have adopted a child overseas in her name. I give to the Heifer Project in her name. I have taken on a little part time job so that I can have the money to do these things. Sometimes I think Only I, her mother, will remember her. How fast the world forgets. How fast the young ones forget. One of the saddest things is that Veronica was my only adopted child. I often think that I wasn't there at her birth and I wasn't there at her death. I so wish I could have been there with her when she died. She must have been so scared. But then I remember that God was with her, her guardian angel, was with her and that must have been the way God wanted it because that's the way it was.
I was there for her all of her life. I am there for her now with her beloved children. I think this is what God and Veronica would have wanted. Only you can ask in your heart for God and your son to tell you how to best remember him. I also do volunteer work in her name. I work in a pregnancy crisis center and I tell the young girls that want to abort about Veronica. I show them her beautiful picture with her children and how happy she was. I tell them if her mother had aborted her we would never have had her for a daughter. And we would never have had our beautiful grandchildren from her. I hope to live to see their children. So that generations are affected by someone's actions good and bad. I also believe that Veronica was abused as an infant in her foster home. She was just 6 weekes old when we got her but she had a bad burn mark on her knee exactly the size of a cigar. I told my Doctor. But back then, no one did anything. Now I do volunteer work as a Court Appointed Special Advocate to an abused or neglected child. We stand for the child, we watch over, protect, and testify for the best interest of the child. My very first case and the first case to go to court in our small city was an abandoned newborn baby girl.
Don't you know that she was meant for me. I know God gave me the chance to step in for her in a way I was not able to do for Veronica. Pray and ask God where he wants you to step in. If you are like me you have extra time now and if you stay busy you have a goal. A heavenly goal for the Father. God Bless You.

A poem by Rumi:
Whoever finds love beneath hurt
and grief
disappears into emptiness with
a thousand new disguises.

I hope this will resonate its message of love to all who are suffering the worst kind of grief one could ever know.
Love has no name nor any faith it is free as the wind, it may fade abit but it never really dies..... love & light

suzimaner, what a wonderful and beautiful poem to share with us, it speaks volumes of what we feel and know, our love for our children will never die, for love never dies! And love is free as the wind, and filled with such light that to see it, we would be blinded by it, it is so strong! Thank you for posting here.
Luv Shaner

Jem2199, I am very happy and humbled that my words were of encouragement to you, that's why I started this circle, to try to help others who were going through the same experience as I/we have gone through. Please be gentle with yourself right now, it has been so recent, you need lots of time! Also know that men and women grieve differently, so although your grief might be different from your husband's, you both grieve in your own ways. I could not function at all the first year, and now during the second year there are still times when I can't believe my beloved son is gone, sometimes I feel like I am on 'autopilot' and other times I can recall some very good memories that I hold onto dearly. As you yourself will. You are going through your own 'nightmare' right now and your world as you knew it before has been turned upside down. I attended a Support Group for other mothers who had lost their children for a year, and it was a great emotional support. You may not feel up to it right now, but please consider going to one when you are ready. And you can always write me anytime you want. Losing a child is the worst thing that can happen to a parent and I hope you have some good friends around you and others that you can lean on. Cry whenever you want, and pray, God knows of the awful pain you are going through. I know that my prayers, which seemed empty at times and also the prayers of others have carried me and my husband this far and will continue to do so. I am praying for you right now, as are others in this circle. God Bless you.
Luv Shaner

VeronicasPeace, I am also happy and humbled that my words were of comfort to you also. I know exactly what you mean about keeping your child's spirit alive. We also give of ourselves in our son's name and it makes us feel better also. You are very lucky to at least have videos of your beloved Veronica to look at and to show her own children to keep their mother's love and spirit alive for them! They will grow up knowing how much their mother loved them and how she held them, talked to them etc.! And just as our son's life and death have changed us, some for the better because I am more giving because of his spirit and keeping it alive, so to your beloved Veronica has helped you to reach out to others and help! Just look at what good has come from her death! She was so loved by you and our son so loved by us that we are reaching out to others, helping them in the name and love of our child's spirit! Keeping it alive! What a wonderful gift our children have given us! I am not minimizing the pain we still feel, because we always will feel that and we will forever miss them, that ache that only parents, especially mothers know.
God Bless you for keeping your daughter's spirit alive, I would suggest that to all mothers, make scrapbooks, treasure videos if you have them and another good suggestion given to me was to write a 'letter' to my son, pouring out my lonliness and feelings to him. Do what you feel is right for you. Ask God, as you say, to steer you in the direction He wants for you. Keep your child's memory alive anyway you can think of and in whatever direction God sends you. We will never forget them and talk about them with other people. God Bless you also, VeronicasPeace, if you ever feel like talking, write me also. You are in my prayers!
Luv Shaner

CarolFuga, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved David, so young also. You are in my thoughts and prayers and I pray that this Easter will not be too hard on you. Keep praying, Our Heavenly Father will help you along on this journey of grief.
Luv Shaner

Shaner,
I read your background, we have so much in common. Please drop me a note and let me know how I can reach you. Anyone else who would like to can email me also. My email is: mb@jam.rr.com and my first name is Maureen. This prayer circle has been a real blessing to me. Thank you God.

Thank You, Our Heavenly Father for planting the seed in my mind to start this Prayer Circle, I know through sharing and praying for one another we will learn to live with this ache and grow stronger in our love for You. May God bless each and everyone who posts at this Circle!
Luv Sandy

Shaner - I thank God for people like you who are so willing to help others when they have been through so much themselves!! You will truly be blessed someday and I hope to see you in heaven one day. How old was your child you lost? I don't think that the grief will ever leave but I do believe that God will give us strength and ease our pain .My worst time is at night I don't sleep and by the time I get home from work all I do is cry. Holidays are the worst they will never be the same because all our holidays were so special. I want to thank you for starting this prayer circle it truely does help us to know that our feeling are normal even though at times we feel like we are going crazy. Jason was such a wonderful person he touched so many lives and I want his memory to live on, I don't want anyone to forget him. People think you should just go on with your life and start over that is very hard for me to do. I have very good friends that see me through alot especially my sister-in-law who has just be sent from God to watch over me. But sometimes there is nothing they can do only my Lord can be my strength and he has been there everyday. Write to me about how you are doing with your grief and what gives you strength. Love Dar

JEM2199-Dar, Thank you for your kind words and I want to write to you, but I don't know if you have an e-mail acct. here at Beliefnet. Please write me at sewhalen@yahoo.com, and give me your e-mail address. I decided to start this Circle about a year after my son, Shane, passed away because I knew I was not the only Mother to ever lose a child and I knew of the awful pain that I had and still do sometimes go through, so in honour of my son's spirit I decided to reach out to others and together we could all help each other. I know that Prayer is very powerful, that is the only thing that has helped me and strengthened my faith since my son passed away, and also other's praying for me. Sometimes, when the pain became too bad, I would look at my Shane's picture and ask him to pray for me also, to help me ease the pain. Attending the Mother's Bereavement Group also taught me that I wasn't alone and that what I was experiencing was very normal, just as what you're going through is also normal. I, too, have had people expect me to be 'over it' by now, but only Our Heavenly Father knows of the ache that we carry around. I lean heavily on Him and Our Lord and they never let me down. Our Father knows of the pain that we experience and He loves us very much and helps us when we call on Him. One day, when it is our turn, we will see our children again! And I hold onto that thought! But when I feel like crying I do, you have to let it out. Our Easter started off sad, knowing our Shane wouldn't be with us again, but after attending Mass, I felt much better. I know that holidays are very hard on us and now we have Mother's Day coming up next month. That too will be hard, but God will see us through it. Just keep praying, Dar, and I'm so happy that you have your sister-in-law there for you for emotional support, God bless her! You will never for get your Jason, so his memory will never die, talk about him to others, as you have done here. He sounds like he was a wonderful person! And so was our Shane. He was 24 when he died. Too young, but we all have our times to be called back home and it was his. My heart still aches for him and most of all I miss his physical presence, as you do your Jason's. I hope I have helped you, lean heavily on God, and He will help you for only He knows of what you are really going through. And please write me anytime!
Luv Sandy

I would like to pray for all of us who have lost a child. Thank you lord for all the healing that you do for us. All of us have suffered. Thanks to you we are able to go on with life. It still hurts and never goes away. But keep are children in peace until we can see them again. Amen. My thoughts are with all of you who have lost children so tragically. I to lost my son last year to a suicide. Josh was only 15. God has kept me going at times when I did not realize he was even with me. Thank you Lord Keep Us Strong.

Birdwoman5, thank you for your kind words again and your prayers. I and the others will also include you in our prayers! Losing your son at 15 to a tragic death must be devastating also! You know that Josh is in a better place now and all his pain in gone. May Our Heavenly Father pour His graces down to you. God bless you,
Luv Sandy

My heart goes out to you for losing your young son.I pray for you and your family in a time of grief.I had a best friend (17) pass away a few years ago, then her brother (24) passed away a year later.Their father is diagnosed with brain cancer and isn't expected to live much longer.Their mother is distressed over the death of her only babies and the sickness of her husband that she has turned to alcohol.She spent her Easter in jail due to an accident after she had been drinking.Thankfully she only had minor scrapes and bruises.I pray that she can regain her composure and find trust in the Lord.

When I lost my 30-year-old daughter seven years ago to a horrendous death, I was unable to work for two years and discovered the angel was a mysterious and powerful source of comfort to me. I must have read 50-60 books on grief. I know that my daughter wanted children very much but it wasn't to be.(I don't know if it's appropriate to post the following situation here, but I need a prayer circle so much.)

Now her younger sister is abandoning her children to their father, and has not allowed me to see them for over a year. My granddaughter was born one year after her aunt died and she became the closest thing on earth to me. Her mother didn't want her, took copious drugs during the pregnancy and talked about putting her out for adoption. My daughter is leaving her current husband (who adopted my granddaughter who was conceived in another marriage but not by her husband) for still another man and there is a slim chance that the adoptive father will let me take the granddaughter (he's hoping they'll reconcile). I would take her in a heartbeat, and would give anything to care for her. But most of all I pray for this beautiful little girl who doesn't deserve this kind of rejection. She & I adored each other, she lived with me for 18 months, and she spent every weekend with me for five years; she was devastated when her mother wouldn't allow her to see me anymore (the reasons are unclear but she had started seeing other men, it appears). I just don't know what to do except ask for your healing prayers.

I'm admittedly so confused about why a daughter who wants children doesn't have them and one who doesn't want them does. Or why one who is a faithful wife dies and the other who isn't goes on and on, leaving a pathway of destruction. I would so appreciate your sage advice. Thanks, Elizabeth

CarissaAnne, I'm very sorry to hear of your friend's death, and that of his other brother and father. I pray also for the mother, that her grief will be consoled by Our Lord and not by external and temporary things. She is in much pain, and is trying the only way she knows how at the moment to cope, but I pray that she turns to God instead and let Him help her with her grief. I'll/we'll pray for all of them. God bless.