Hi Phyllis, you're very welcome for the prayers and support, and that's what this Circle is all about! Phyllis, everything you're feeling and experiencing right now is very normal, it's all part of the grieving process, so don't feel badly. I'm happy for you that the fellow you spoke with gave you such good advice, I just know that God put him in your path for you! We do the same thing as he suggested you do, we have our Shane's pictures all around, and on special occasions we light a candle at the table, to honour his life and love, and include him in our day. We cry, we laugh, and we remember all the memories each of us has about him, all the joy and happiness he brough into our lives. So I agree with the fellow advising you doing that for Michael, I think you'll find it very helpful!
I attended a Support Group for parents who had lost a child after our Shane passed away, and it was truly a Godsend, I prayerfully hope you do find one in your neck of the woods, but if not, you can post here whenever you feel like it and just talk about how you're feeling, we all understand. May God continue to bless you, Phyllis, love and prayers to you,
Dear Verna, tomorrow is your daughter Diane's Anniversary, and we all know how these very special days affect us, laughter remembering the good memories, and tears when we remember the pain of losing our child. My prayer for you tomorrow is that the good times you recall outnumber the painful ones, but if you want to have a good cry, you go right ahead. It'll no doubt be a mixed day for you emotionally, as you recall Diane and the wonderful legacy of love that she left for you and your family, and still continues to do so! Diane is your bright, shining star in Heaven, and is shining on you and your family all the time! I hope you do something special to mark the day, perhaps making it a little easier for you, and honouring Diane also.
You know you have the love, support and prayers of this Circle not only as you mark Diane's Anniversary tomorrow, but every day, as do all the moms. And I pray that the support and love helps you as you come up on tomorrow and the days ahead. Peace, love and prayers to you dear Verna,
hi every one,
i'm doing ok with these two special days so close. i want to thank you all for the prayers and comforting words. it felt so good to read the special poems and prayers you left at his memorial. now i can go back and read them all the time. thank you so much. my husband i didn't get home till the evening time on monday. i felt so bad for not putting something in the paper for michael's 21st. birthday so i went down the very next day to make sure something was in there for wednesday. with a belated birthday wish for him. then i went and bought baloons and flowers and brought them to his stone. today when i went i sat down and cried while reading some of the things that his friends i brought when they visited him. i think it finally hit me. i was doing so well. i know it had to come out sooner or later. . i was hoping later then sooner. the same people brought things did last year too. i took some of the stuff for i'm doing a scrape book for michael's daughter when she gets older. i'm working with the lawyer so i can see her. i need to see a part of michael. besides his brother she is all that there is.
dear father i ask that you help me pray for these wonderful people who have so many wonderful things to say to help me and other moms during there different stages of grieving. and i pray that the strenght you give to each and everyone of us will last forever, i ask this in your name the father, amen.
Your Love is a precious Love one that can encapsulate the entirety of existence. You know the completeness of Your will and Your intention for us when you create us. You are touched by the fillings of our infirmities and You are a God of true compassion. You honor Your Word and You fulfill Your promises. It is for this reason that I have found, that I can TRUST You. Your faithfulness is everlasting and Your mercy upon me is eternal. So, I choose now to Trust that you know what I feel. You search the completeness of my heart and You identify every wrinkle, crease, crack, and break that exist. There is no pain that you can not feel, No hurt that you can not heal. I choose to rely on You and You alone to comfort me, hold me, talk to me, console me, lead me, secure me, and let me know Your Spirit is real and that You are concerned about me and what I am facing at this time. By FAITH, I believe You hear me and Your word says, I can have confidence that because You hear me, I KNOW that I have what I request of You. I thank You Lord and I Love You...Forever Amen
Hello Miss Sandy,
Thank you for your prayer for my mama, Verna.
I wrote a letter to my sister today it is her birth day.
I tried to post it at her memorial but for some reason it did not go through.
Would you be so kind to see to it that she get's this... Thank you and everyone in this cirle that prays for our family. Love, Cheryl
What's up Dee!
Girl~ it is your day today!
I don't have to ask you, what you are doing I know, you are worshiping and praising our Wonderful Savior.
I know you wish you could tell me, all about Heaven and I wish I could hear the beautiful sound of your voice, as you rock the universe with your songs of praise.
Life for me is good. I know you like James... he has a lot of your personality traits... and he loves me with that same kind of protective & personal love, that you had for me as your little sister. We spend a lot of time talking and laughing, as I share with him how you always protected me and encouraged me to..." stop being so spoiled." He does me like you did!!
He let's me have my time to cry and he picks up the peices and says, "I still love you."
He told me, He feels like he already knows you even though he never got the chance to met you in the natural... He says, he knows you by your spirit! That is who we truly are anyway.
Girl life is good, I am singing on sunday at church and I know, I can count on you to give me that confidence I need... I just pretend that I am you when I am singing. WOW! Imagine that... Me singing like you!?!?Laugh!
You would be so amazed at how my voice has changed. I know you would be proud and you would be there everytime I sing...saying..."That's My Little Sister!" So, I just close My eyes and imagine you sitting on the front row! Sometimes I feel like you are singing through me. [strange]
Well, You know you need to pray for our moma,!!!$###Laugh!!!#!!! Girl-[smile] She is still moma! She has been getting a little serious in her later years. I think she is growing closer to God.
She has a prayer circle that she loves to share with on-line. You and I know that Moma has always had a way with words and now she is speaking and writing those words to the glory of God. I think that is great.
But Diane...I need to ask you something on the serious side....
I just want to ask you, to let moma go...You know what I mean... She went with you when you left and I know she had to make sure you got there safe...that is what any mother would do. It is just that, we need her here and I don't know how much longer she will be down here with Me and little Steven and James... You know how she use to love to teach children...well, most of that is gone now and you know how you and I
use to love to hear her poetry or just to hear her read a story to us when we were growing up....
well she mostly reads to herself now... You remember, how we use to say that "We know we have the best mommmy in the whole world" and we wanted to have children so we could be like her... and how we wanted our moma to keep our kids...we talked about how our children would have the best grades, because their grandmother was a teacher and she would always be there to help us teach out kids..? "Well, when you died,~~~~ it was like eveything changed for us and I am just asking if you would give moma back to us for the time she has left, so that we can do somethings togather...James and I talk often about taking her with us on a trip and just relaxing and laughing and getting her out of the house...
You know daddy is still daddy.
So, we would like for her to come to church with us sometimes and maybe meet some new lady friends that might have some thing in common with her.
One lady named, Sis. Webb, She is moma's age and has a husband kinda like daddy, I know she would love moma, but.. I can just imagine them talking and sharing like...you remember how she and Miss Moch use to do!
Since she has a hearing loss, she has withdrawn and dosn't like to exsert the energy to relate to people.
I know you understand. What I am trying to say is... I miss you and I know that, is normal, because you are not here in the physical... But would you belive, I really miss moma... But she is not gone and I can not reach her to share with her, the true pain that I feel when I seem to get on her nerves because... "Yes!" "You are right, I am too scary to tell her the truth."
I don't have the right words to just say...or I tend to say tooo mannnny woords and never communicate the disappointment I feel... that life has not quite turned out like we talked about when we were kids.
Well, when she goes to sleep at night, you know how, you guys meet in her dreams.... would you talk to her and reveal to her, what your little sister is feeling... "I don't want to do it" ... You do it Diane... You know you are the oldest, she will listen to you... to her... I am still just the baby girl.
Well, say hello to Mother Dear for me and let her know that I am still praying for my moma, just like she told me to do and I will keep my promise to live for God like she asked me to.
Praise God one time for me!!!
Hello babygirlcc, (Cheryl), it's so nice to see you posting here, and I hope today is a peace-filled one for you also, as you remember your sweet sister Diane.
That's strange that these posts wouldn't go through Diane's Memorial Site, or your beloved mother's two prayer circles, but, no matter, she WILL read them here! We all hope and pray that she's doing alright today, as well as you and the rest of your family, these 'special days' can be very hard on us grieving moms. I know she has a wonderful daughter in you, and you'll be there for her, and we'll be here for her in love, support and prayer too. May God bless you Cheryl in whatever way He knows you need,
Hi Deb, it's so nice to see a post from you, I know these past few days have been very hard on you! Our love, prayers, and thoughts were with you on your special days too.
That was a wonderful way to honour Michael and his life by bringing balloons, flowers, and putting a lovely verse in the newspaper. It must have been very difficult for you to do so, God love you! That's wonderful that Michael's friends visited his Site, and left loving reminders behind, what a sweet thing for them to do. I always love it when I see Shane's friends, and we talk about him, and they tell me their own memories of him. It's nice to know, isn't it, that they haven't forgotten. That's lovely that you're making a scrapbook, it'll be a labour of love for you.
Our prayers are also with you that you will soon be able to see your grandaughter, she's a part of Michael, and you will make a wonderful grandmother, and will also keep her Daddy's memory alive for her! Let us know Deb, how that goes for you. Prayers and love to you,
Hello to all my wonderful friends! Just writing to announce the birth of my first Granddaughter~~~Zoe Aidyn Hanson~~~ Born this morning August 16th at 1:37 A.M. She weighed in at 8lb.7oz. Mom, Dad & Baby Zoe are doing great after 60 hours of intense labor. She was delivered safely and normally with no complications. She is absolutely beautiful of course!!!!!!! Zoe means "Life"! Isn't that wonderful? She will bring much joy and life back into our hearts once again. The Lord promises us that our joy will return after our days of sorrow and I'm standing on that promise! Thank You Jesus! Grandma is exausted too. I'll write more later, but I told you Id write and let you all know as soon as possible. Thank you all for the prayers for me and my family and I'm praying for all of you as well! God Bless you!
Hello Yvonne, and CONGRATULATIONS!!
That's the most wonderful news, little Zoe making her entrance into the world!
And a good, healthy size too! Praise Our Lord that she was born healthy and is a joy to her parents and her grandparents! I always liked the name Zoe, but I wasn't aware that it meant 'life, isn't that wonderful!
That's a long labour, Mommy must be tired, but very happy! I'm so happy for your family Yvonne, you deserve to have some happiness, joy, as you said in your post. Thanks so much for posting it here and letting us all know, the best of wishes to you all!
Now rest and enjoy your brand new grandaughter! Love and prayers to you and your family,
Hello Yvonne & also congradulations!!I have 3 grandaughters & one grandson. What blessings from God. I was in devivery with 2 of my grandaughters, and what an experience!! So different from giving birth yourself. My precious son, Michael, who left us on June10, this year, was with me when his daughter, Morgan, was born. He looked at me when she was born and said "Well, Mama, we've done just about everything together now". I'll never forget that day or those words. Morgan is four now and stays with me about half the time or more. She's in pre-school, her mother works, so she spends the night with us on the nights before I take her to pre-school. I still have a 12 year old daughter at home, and she is so good with her. She became an aunt for the first time at age 3 and 1/2, so she's experienced at it now. My oldest grandaughter is 8, the next one, Morgan is four, MacKenzie is 3, and Ryan, the baby, will be three in September. They all live within 7 or 8 miles from me. I know this is what keeps me going as I felt like Diane's mom, I wanted to be left alone and my daughters have said that they still need me so much and have been afraid I would lapse into such a deep depression after Michael died, because I have always suffered from depression even as a child. But, with God's help, I am able to be there for them now & always. I don't really enjoy big crowds of people, or even going to the grocery store, but I go and do what I have to. My two oldest daughters have changed, too. None of us are the same people we were before this happened. But, hopefully, with God's Grace and Power, we will all come out of it. It's still so new for us. There is such a void there without Michael.
To BabyGirlcc, Cheryl, you are more to your mother than just the baby girl. I'm sorry she's having trouble communicating with you. But, you are just as important to her as Diane, just be patient with her. My girls are 33,31 and 12, and they all feel the same way at times. But, we are all close, talk through our feelings every day, and I am trying so hard. I also have Michael's wife, Tina, age 22. She is my daughter, too, and I treat her the same way I treat my own. I've had her since she was 14 years old, so I do love her and feel like she's mine. I try to encourage her and give her advice like I do my own daughters without interferring with her life. It's hard and it's a full time job. Just know your Mother is so hurt and it may just seem to you that she's slipping away, but she's a mom, and she'll come around with your encouragement. Just don't push too hard. That's what holds me back with my girls when they say negative things about me and try to make me do things I really don't feel like doing. God is looking out for you & your Mom, so hang in there, it will get better for you & her. I will have you in my prayers as I ask everyone to continue praying for me and my family. Much love, Phyllis
Thank you for your prayers. I do tend to push hard. I think it is because I feel helpless and I have never faced this before.... so I just try to make the best of it. I pray for my mother and I have no dought in my mind that she LOVES me and that I am her treasure here on the earth. I just need to let her be who she is Now and cherish the memories of who she use to be. Thanks for your encouragement.
IF WE BELIEVE.....
IF WE BELIEVEIN DREAMS COME TRUE
IF WE CAN SEE THE ROUGH SPOTS
IF WE CAN DANCE AMONGST THE RAIN
IF WE CAN SING SONGS OF JOY THROUGH
THEN WE CAN LIVE TO SEE THE DAY
THE SUN WILL SHINE AND MELT AWAY
THE ICY WALLS THAT ONCE HELD US
CRUMBLING AWAY AS WE BEGIN
TO BUILD A LIFE SO FULL OF TRUST
SO FULL OF LOVE AND ALL THAT IS JUST.
-----JAMES ROBERT ROWE---
TO ACCOMPLISH GREAT THINGS WE MUST NOT
BUT ALSO DREAM, NOT ONLY PLAN, BUT ALSO BELIEVE.
If we have faith and love
That we are in God's care,
Then we can believe His angels
Are with us everywhere.
Guardian angels have been sent
To protect us from any harm,
And to teach us about love and peace,
And keep our spirits calm.
You're so very special to me
Each and every day,
That I asked the angels to bring
A little more love your way.
Hi Deb, those are nice inspirational poems that you've posted, thank you! I believe in Angels, and I know that your's is with you too. Isn't it nice to know that Our Heavenly Father has given each of us a Guardian Angel, to guide and protect us. And I pray that your's brings more love your way too!
Hello Everyone! Monday, the start of a brand new week, and I pray that it's peace-filled and blessed for each and everyone of you. Verna is experiencing computer woes again, but says she is still keeping everyone in her prayers and hopes to be back soon. She says that Diane's birthday was easy on her this year, so that's wonderful.
Could I also ask for another Mom and Dad who've just lost their little 2 year old Amber yesterday, we can all well imagine how they're feeling right now. They used to be neighbours of ours and little Amber was much wanted by them, her Mom underwent surgery so she could get pregnant. Thank you Moms, and may the peace of Our Lord be with all of you,
FOR THE PARENTS OF LITTLE AMBER AND HOW EMPTY LIFE SEEMS WITH OUT THEIR LOVED ONE.
LORD PLEASE HELP THEM FILL THERE EMPTINESS WITH BEAUTIFUL MEMORIES THAT THEY CHERISH AND GUIDE AND GIVE THEM STRENGHT TO GO ON BY HEALING THEIR SPIRITS AS THEY TAKE DAY TO DAY TO CONTINUE, I ASK THIS IN YOUR NAME THE FATHER, AMEN.
I'M SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS LITTLE GIRL. DO LET THEM KNOW I WILL HOLD A SPOT IN MY PRAYERS FOR THEM.
THANK YOU FOR THE PRAYERS. I HAVE BEEN PRAYING ALOT AND READING THE BIBLE. I'M HOPING IT WILL GIVE ME THE STRENGHT I NEED. ON SEPT. 10TH I WILL ME MEETING WITH THE PROSACUTER AND WE WILL BE TALKING ABOUT THE GIRL WHO TOOK MY SONS LIFE. I FOUND OUT IN JUNE HER CASE CAME AND WENT AND I WAS NEVER TOLD ABOUT IT. SHE GOT 2 YEARS PROBATION FOR TAKEN MY SONS LIFE. THE WHOLE FAMILY IS VERY UPSET. SO I HAVE BEEN DOING ALOT OF READING. I'M OVER THE ANGRY PART BUT STILL AM VERY CONFUSED ABOUT THINGS.
I GUESS I HAVE ALOT OF UNASNSWERED QUESTIONS I NEED TO HAVE ANSWERED. I HOPE THINGS ARE FINE WITH YOU AND I WILL KEEP YOU AND THE OTHER MOMS IN MY PRAYERS. LUV DEBBY
Hi Deb, that was a beautiful prayer that you posted for little Amber's parents, they really need them now, as we all know ourselves.
That's wonderful Deb, reading the Bible and praying more, you'll find joy and receive many blessings from your reading and your prayers!
I know it will give you the strength that you need with the Prosecutor in Michael's case, that's wonderful that you're over the angry phase, and now hopefully with this meeting, you'll get the answers to all of your questions and find some much needed peace, to replace your confusion. Our love and prayers are with you that this happens.
Thanks again for your prayers,
For we all know an angel!
Here is an inspirational poem for all.
Angels For Everyone
Angels coming out to play, Angels touch our life each day. Though we may not know they're there, There are angels everywhere.
Angels can cause a heart to sing. Angels give our spirits wings! An angel's touch brings God so near.
An angel's smile can dry a tear.
Have you felt a tug on your heartstrings? Chances are 'twas caused by angel wings. They flutter softly in the light, Shimmering with edges of gold so bright.
We mere mortals to earth are bound. Angels trod on holy ground. So next time you are feeling low
Remember--angels are there...wherever you go!
Know that your all in my thoughts and prayers daily.
You can write whatever message you would like,
As you can see I copy and paste this for we do know a very special angel.
Hello Deb, yes we all surely do know a 'special' Angel! May your special Angel be with you today, thanks for the post, love and prayers,