Dearest Tammy, you've been through so much lately, and now this precarious, wrenching situation with your beloved grandmother. Your whole family must be beside themselves with worry. You know that our thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and your beloved grandmother at this time. Your children are already being touched by your grandmother, by the love that she's imparted to you, the impact she's had on your life, that trickles on down to your own children. Your grandmother knows how loved she is, all of you are there by her bedside, showing that love, giving back to her in her time of need. Don't be too hard on yourself, I also had a wonderful grandmother, who loved me unconditionally, but it wasn't until I myself matured that I fully understood what a tremendous treasure she was in my life. I may not have understood or showed appreciation enough to her when she was here, but I thank God all the time for putting her in my life, and I talk to her too.
I loved your beautiful poem to your grandmother, it's very touching and I can see it coming from your heart, such a loving tribute as Yvonne said! Dear Father, please guide the Doctors to discover what is the problem, give them wisdom, so that this wonderful woman is healed by You. I know You hear the many prayers of the family, and are there in their midst, please also give them the necessary spiritual and physical strength to deal with this heartwrenching situation for them all, that peace will reign in their hearts and minds, Your peace Father, a peace like no other. I ask this of you through Your Son, Our Lord and Saviour, Jesus.
Please keep us updated Tammy, we all want to know how she's doing, as well as you and the rest of your family.
Prayers and love to you,
Shanner I hope all is well with you I have missed hearing from you !!! To each of you that have posted here I know first hand the pain of losing someone you love, I lost my son Jason 3 years and 5 months ago he was 21 and my only child it has been the hardest thing I have ever had to go through but my Lord is a gracious and he has truly walked me through everything in my life since that day. We will never get over our loss and there will be days you feel you just can't deal with the pain anymore but I have found that if we stay close to our Heavenly Father we will get through it until we see those love ones again. My prayer for each of you is that God takes you under his wings and gives you strength each day to continue on and that you will always hold on to your precious memories !!! On the special days that I feel so down I go out on my deck and send balloons up to heaven and watch for the angels I have there to reach out and grab them it puts a smile on my face and I get a little peace of mind!!!! Shanner I hope you are feeling better and your truly in my thoughts and prayers!!! Dar
Hello dearest Dar! It's so nice to see a post from you here! Forgive me for not writing sooner, but I will. I know how much you miss Jason, and all that you've been through with your loss. And I also know of your great faith, that's gotten you through many a rough time. I know how much comfort you get from those balloons, seeing them go up to Heaven, and Jason there to grab them when they reach him! No, Dar, we'll never get over our losses, but you're so right, leaning heavily on God is what has brought us this far and will continue to bring us forward.
I'm so happy to see a post from you, it's been a while, and you know that you're always in my thoughts, love and prayers too. May God bless you Dar, as I know that He has,
DEAR EVERY ONE, I JUST WANT TO SAY THANK YOU FOR THE PRAYERS AND THE POEMS. THEY ARE SO TRUE FOR ALL OF US. IN RETURN I'M SENDING ALL OF YOU ONE. PLEASE KNOW EVEN THOUGH I'M NOT POSTING DAILY YOU ARE ALL STILL IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ALL WAYS. THANKS AND LOVE TO YOU ALL.
We have one Angel standing watch
above us as we sleep...
Another gathers up the hopes
and dreams we wish to keep
One Angel is the tiny voice
that whispers in our ears...
With words of love and comfort
to conquer grief and fears
We have so many Angels
with one friendship keeper too...
Another just to help us mend
the thoughtless things we do
We have a Guardian of Love
who protects our Destiny...
And helps us with our soul mate
with who we are meant to be...
We have a host of Angels
that keep us company...
In order that we may become
the best that we can be
DEAR SANDY,VERNA,TAMMY,YVONNE,AND BARB
my prayers for all of you,
Dear Father please hear my wishes,
I wish you all happiness...
the kind that is deep within your soul and shines through your eyes for the world to see.
I wish you all serenity and a sense of perspective, to calm all of you and lend all of you understanding even in our most difficult times.
I wish all of us success in every facet of our life, and satisfaction and contentment in every single thing we do.
I wish all of us sweet dreams and the promise of their fulfillment, a lifetime of extraordinary memories, and a path that leads to beautiful tomorrows.
And above all I wish that we all could see... how big a difference we make some ones life at this beautiful site, and how grateful I am to know all of you. Please some how let them know they are in my thoughts and prayers daily. I ask this in your name the Father,Amen
Dear Miss Yvonne:
I thank you so much for praying for me and my family with all that you have going on in your life. I have not been able to read back posts yet....but believe me I will and I will respond to each and every one of them (better late than never....right?).
Thank you. I wish that I could be with each and every one of you personally right now to give you the hugs and one-on-one that you all deserve. Everyone here has played an enormous part in my life and the lives of my family. My husband, John, was amazed when he collected my e-mail of all the people that cared about me that I had never even met in person. I told him that he needed to become a part of this. But, you know men.....they do not feel that this kind of communication is necessary. He can handle everything on his own. (Whatever.....)
I need you all. I need your advice, comfort, prayers, and knowledge. When I visit this site, I am complete. Even though I am behind in posts.......each one of you have become a part of my life. Thank you for giving me something to be a part of.
I pray that we all find the comfort and peace that we so need and deserve. Lord, we love you and thank you for all that you have given us. Please stand by us and touch our lives with your most precious healing and comfort.
I thank you and love you all,
Dear Sandy, ~ Thank you so much for your kind words. And you are right; I have definitely been busy. I figured I'd better get busy catching up on posting while I still have use of six fingers and two thumbs! (ha-ha)! Right now I'm laughing at myself for continuing to try to use the two fingers that quit working on me. Just now, I tried to put one over on the none working fingers. I decided to act as though they were still working. As I looked at the monitor, I saw Deaaaaar SSSSSSaaaandy! Ha-ha! For the record, its my little finger and ring finger that's laying down on the job. Because of this, my pointer finger is having to work overtime to get the job done. :) So, it's back to peck typing for me. :) Gee, it felt good to have a good laugh; even if the joke is on me. :)
I am glad you liked the poems I submitted. The first one makes me think of the happy reunion we will someday have with our children and other loved ones who will be waiting for each of us when our time comes. And the second one reminded me of the many blessings we receive from God each and every day.
I remember once, when I was very depressed and feeling as though I had nothing to live for, a very dear friend who is also a minister and grief counselor, shared a very powerful message which he was planning to share with his congregation the next day. He called it: The Therapy of Thanksgiving. One of the things he suggested was that each of us should make a list of all the people who had helped us or had a great impact on our lives. Then, he suggested that we write a letter of thanks to each person. As I began doing this, I was amazed at how much better I began to feel. Some of the people I contacted had no idea that I still remembered them; let alone remembered something they had done to make a difference in my life. Another thing that amazed me was; the more I thought about it, the longer the list became. :) It didn't take long for me to realize it would rake a lifetime to thank everyone who had an impact on my life.
In a sense, all of us who post here at this prayer circle have touched so many, through our posts, prayers, poetry, and prayer request. In my opinion, what we do here is in a sense, a powerful ministry. All the moms who post here may never know just how much they have helped some parent, or other loved one; known or unknown, at a time when they needed it the most. As you have reminded us so often, Sandy, we all are doing God's work. :)
Dear God, ~ I ask that you bless all who post here at this prayer circle. Thank you, again, for whispering into Shaner's ear and inspiring her to begin this wonderful and much needed prayer circle. Thank You, Father, for each and every person who come here to share in their own way. Thank You for watching over each and every one of us, Lord, and for giving us those precious moments of peace, and the heartfelt desire to reach out and show compassion to others, even as we, ourselves, are grieving. In Jesus' name, Amen
(self editing ...:)
... take a lifetime -- not rake! (ha-ha)
(self editing ... again!)
Dovesfromheaven, (Yvonne), ~ My grandson, Steven, weighed nine pounds, and one ounce at birth. Also, I am working on my answer to your latest post to me -- and also a few others. God willing,I should be caught up on back posts soon.
Hello Deb, nice to see a post from you, hope your exam went well this week and you finished your paper! A beautiful poem, Deb, I think Angels are all very special to us here, reminding us of our very own Angel now in Heaven. And what you wish for us, Deb, I wish and pray for you, and we're grateful that you came into our lives! Prayers and love to you,
Hello Verna, you're doing very well with your typing, I definitely would have laughed if I'd seen Dearrr Ssssandy, ha, ha! Seriously though, your typing is alright! That's a wonderful idea that your Pastor had, so many people impact our lives, and if we sat down and wrote them all out, I know that the list would be long for all of us! So many people have an input into our lives, whether they're aware of it or not, and make a lasting impression, whether it's something they've said, done, etc. I see it happening here at this Circle, God's Hand at work, and how we've all impacted each other in our own ways!
Two years ago, while I was still in that very dark place over losing Shane, a friend of mine suggested this site to me. I checked it out, and made a Memorial Page for Shane, and then realized that I couldn't possibly be the only one out here who was in pain over losing a child, and God did whisper in my ear to start this Circle, in honour of Shane, and knowing the great power of prayer, to pray along with others who had lost a child also.
And it's truly evolved into something very special, everyone who posts here is near and dear to my heart, and more importantly, in my prayers. So I would definitely add this Circle and all the magnificent moms to my own list of Thanksgiving!
A beautiful prayer at the end of your post, Verna, may God bless you in your own work with your book, and continue to give you days of peace and comfort.
Love and prayers to you,
"When God Calls Little Children" When God calls little children to dwell with Him above, We mortals sometimes question the wisdom of His love. For no heartache compares with the death of one small child Who does so much to make our world seem wonderful and mild. Perhaps God tires of calling the aged to His fold, So He picks a little rosebud before it can grow old. God knows how much we need them, so He takes but a few To make the land of heaven more beautiful to view. Believing this is difficult, still, somehow we must try, The saddest word mankind knows will always be "goodbye". So when a little child departs, we who are left behind must relize God loves children... Angels are hard to find.
Dear AngelsStandingBy, ~ My heart goes out to you in the loss of your precious little angels. I have visited the site you created for your angels and left a post for you there. I know the other moms will be praying for you even as you read this post. Please know you and your precious angels are in our thoughts, which places you in our heartfelt prayers.
Hello AngelsStandingBy, welcome to the Circle, and I'm so very sorry to read of your own loss. All of us here know the pain of losing a child, so our hearts go out to you in your own pain.
I love the little story that you posted, but yes, it is still very hard to say good-bye. Please know that you're in our thoughts and prayers, as you grapple with your own losses,
Dear Tammy, ~ I want you to know how sorry I am to read about your dear grandmother. I know this has
to be so hard on you and family. I join all the other moms in prayer for her recovery. Also, Tammy, your
grandmother knows how very much she is loved by you and the rest of your family. Your poem is so
touching! My eyes filled up with tears as I read it. I pray that God will wrap His powerful arms around
you and your entire family and give you the strength to accept His will for your beloved grandmother. He
will do whatís best for your grandmother. All of your friends here will continue praying for you and your
Dear Dovesfromheaven, (Yvonne), I can feel the excitement way down here in Louisiana. Only a matter
of days now until little Zoe arrives! August 7th is just a few days away, so I know you have been busy
finishing all the items youíve been working on. Iím sure your Bryan and Tara can hardly wait for the
precious little angel to arrive! Babies are such a blessing; I just love the little ones. I believe I remember
you saying this will be your first grandchild. If so, then youíd better get ready to discover a brand new
kind of grandmotherís love! :) Then, in just a few months, you will have the joy of doing it all over again
Oct. 23rd when Sara and Jonís little angel, Ruthie, arrives. :) Donít be surprised if you find yourself crying
a grandmaís tears of joy! Gee, you have had one busy as well as blessed year! First the wonderful
wedding, and now, not one, but two grand babies just months apart. I just know you will feel your Joeís
spirit the minute you hold each grandchild. After all, he got to see them first! :) I just bet they will have a
lot to tell you about their uncle Joe, even if you canít understand what they are saying. :) I bet Joe will be
smiling down on the whole wonderful scene, and you will feel his spirit; I just know each of you will!
Please let us know the minute little Zoe arrives; that is, ... as soon as you get the chance! :) Also, Yvonne, a late Happy Anniversary to you and your husband! I don't know how I missed your post, but I discovered it while checking back posts. :)My husband, David, and I celebrated our 42nd anniversary Dec. 24th.:)
Love and Prayers to you and family!
Dear Sandy, (Shaner), ~ As you can see by the time on this post, I'm doing it again. :) I am having a time getting my sleep schedule straight. When I go to bed early, I wake up around 4 or 5AM and can't go back to sleep. :)But, I still enjoy the quietness, so I guess all is not lost.
I'm doing well on editing my book; that is, according to my unofficial editor, Mr. A. :)So far, he seems to think I'm covering a lot of useful information that will not only help bereaved moms, but also bereaved dads as well. He also said that it will be a good read for others who have not lost a child; in that it will introduce them to what it's like for those of us who have lost a child. He feels it will help them to understand that there is a whole different level of grief that many don't know exist. I pray to God he's right, because that is one issue I have tried to cover in very vivid details. Of all the moms I've interviewed during many months of research, months of reading many helpful books on the grieving process, as well as a lot of issues we have discussed here in this wonderful prayer circle, I have tried to make others understand how to help us on our endless journey. While my main purpose is to encourage bereaved moms on their journey, if I can get others to understand how they can help us on our journey, then Chain Reaction will have achieved the ultimate purpose for which it was written. So, let's continue to pray that this comes to pass. As you and the other moms know all too well, Chain Reaction was begun as a result of a tragidy that changed my life forever, ... That is, the loss of my precious daughter, Diane. The same is true as it relates to this wonderful prayer circle that you created as a result of the loss of your precious son, Shane. What began in sorrow, has become a labor of love, Shaner, :) that has helped so many, many bereaved moms; (And now the tears), but that's o.k., because they are tears of gratitude. :) I thank God every day, for you, and for all the wonderful moms who post here. I want you all to know that each and every person who have taken the time to submit a post here, ... no matter how short or loooonnnnngggg, :), ... whether it was a prayer, prayer request, poem, or just sharing, ... a Valley day :( ... or Hilltop day! :) All have had an impact on my life, and I know that because of this,I am a much better person, than I was before. So moms, ... always remember, you are in my thoughts, which places you in my heartfelt prayers!
p.s. ... and if I lose this post while trying to submit,(This is NOT a copy and paste), I will have to call 911! :) ha-ha! God bless everyone & forgive all mistakes!
Dear Deborahpoo, (Debby)~ Oh what a beautiful poem and compassionate prayer you have submitted. Once again, you have touched my heart deeply. Your poems and prayers always speak volumes to me, (as Sandy would say.) :)Thank you so much for all you do to inspire all of us here at this wonderful prayer circle. I pray that the work you and your husband are doing on your land is coming along well. Also, I am praying that all of our courses will turn out fine. Remember, we all know you have a lot going on right now, so don't worry about not being able to post as often as you would like to. We know you will keep us in your thoughts and prayers,; just like Tammy, Barb, Cindy, and all the other wonderful moms who can't post as often as they would like to. We know all the moms still pray for us and they still read when they have the chance, and they will post as time permits.
I am still trying to work on setting up a schedule to do a certain number of post a day or week. But, if I have to have surgery on my hand like my doctor thinks I might have to, I will not be able to do as many post as often as I would like to for some time. IMy main doctor has made an appointment for me to see a specialist on Aug. 12th. But, I know all the moms will understand "if" this happens. I remember Aug. 12th is one of your special days and I will be thinking of you and praying for you also. Aug. 12th is also my son-in-law's birthday and also, my little niece, AnTone's birthday. But, my thoughts and prayers will be right there with you on both days; the 12th and 14th. And I know yours and all the other moms will be with me on my special days; Aug. 16th-Diane's birthday and Aug. 31st... "Whew!" ... As you know, sometimes it feels like yesterday! But, we know that our faith and the prayers that being prayed daily will help us get through our special days, and for that, I am so thankful, as I know we all are. As I love to say, ... Isn't God wonderful! :) God bless you, Debby, and once again, thank you for sharing the lovely poem and that wonderful and heartfelt prayer with all of us moms.:)
Good Morning One and All! Sandy, Verna, Tammy, Debby,
I don't have any news to tell you yet of any baby being born but we are sure hoping it happens very soon! Tara is very uncomfortable as all of us know all too well! She is ready needless to say! You will be the first to know, you can count on that!!!
I hope everyone is doing ok today. I pray for you all daily. I really wish we could all get together and just have a talk, cry and laugh session. Wouldn't that be great? We do have a bond that will never be broken even though we've never met and I am ever so grateful to have found this circle of prayer. I don't even remember how I found it anymore but I know the Lord led me to it. It was not by accident. Thank You Jesus!
Verna, I do remember now about your book you mentioned in a past post. sorry that I forgot. You are truly gifted in writing and you will tell it like it is for us Moms that grieve for our children. I can't wait to read it. Others that have not had this kind of loss do not understand what it's like for us and that it is an endless pain and grief. But we do get through it somehow by the grace of God. I try to journal my feelings but I am inadequate in expressing what I want to say even to myself! I still want to write about Joe's life and will when my life slows down a bit (I doubt that will ever happen!) especially now with 2 grand babies coming! Even just talking to people it's hard to relate to them you know? But I do know that my life has changed and for the better for the most part. I often wonder why Joe had to die for the Lord to get my attention? Our whole family has changed and become more sensitive to others in need. Sometimes I feel like the Lord is calling me and my husband to start a grief support group in our church but I don't really know how to go about it. I am not a leader by any means and am very quiet so it would be kind of hard for me to lead a group and maybe that's what stops me from reaching out more. I am much better one on one. Well I guess if the time is right the Lord will show me what to do.
Sandy, I hope all is well with you. I am glad the Lord wispered in your ear to start this circle. It is a place of healing I believe for each of us. Shane is very proud of his loving Mom, I'm sure. It has been your healing too. Thank you Sandy for all you do to write back to all that post here. You are a wonderful lady and God is blessing you tremendously. God be with you always Sandy!
Dear Lord Jesus, I come before You today with thanksgiving in my heart for giving me another day to love You and to praise You for all the works You are doing in the lives of all the Moms that come to this circle of prayer. I lift up each one and ask You to heal our broken hearts and to help us to move into what You would have for us to do. You have a plan for all of us so Lord show us what that is. I pray for Tammy's Grandma for the healing that You have for her today. Hold her family close to Your side as they deal with what's going on there. Thank You for being in my life and helping me to deal with my loss of my son Joseph. I love you Lord. In Jesus Name, Amen. God Bless each one!
TO ALL THE WONDERFUL MOMS WHO ARE A SPECIAL AND IMPORTANT AND TREASURED MEMBER OF THIS WONDERFUL PRAYER CIRCLE:
PLEASE KNOW THAT YOU ARE IN MY THOUGHTS,EACH AND EVERY DAY,... WHICH PLACES YOU IN MY PRAYERS!
LOVE2U ALL :)
Hi Yvonne! ~I just clicked on to submit what was to be my last post this morning, and saw your post to everyone. :) Thanks for your kind words, and also for keeping us posted on all that's going on there. Yes, I just bet Tara is ready. :) Lord, do I remember how hard the waiting was especially as it got close to the scheduled arrival date. But, as we know, only God and the little one determine when that will be, ... and, needless to say, there isn't a thing we can do to rush things along, no matter how much we wish we could; (especially for the Mom-in-waiting; & also the Dad-in-waiting, God bless them). :) Oh, what memories I have on that subject. :) I, too, wish that we all could somehow get together and share such wonderful memories, and hug and cry over the sad memories. Who can say? Maybe someday, God willing, we can find a way to make it happen. Wouldn't that be something? And I agree, Yvonne, we do have a very special bond that will last forever, thanks to our Sandy. :)
Don't forget, Yvonne, we have some very wonderful and creative people in this prayer circle, and you are one of them. :)I believe with just a little brainstorming we can find a way to make it happen, especially with all the wonderful technology that exist in our world today! If not in person, maybe some other way, you know? Anyway, it gives us something to think about.:)
Also, Yvonne, I want you to know that you are a very talented writer! You could literally write a best seller; not only on the grieving process, but also, a prayer book for bereaved moms. Those wonderful and compassionate prayers that you share at the end of your wonderful post would be a wonderful place to start. I pray that God will whisper in your ear just as He did with (Shaner):) And, please, if God does reveal the ultimate purpose He has for you in this life, PLLEEEASEZZZ... DON'T RESIST HIM THE WAY I DID! [LAUGH!] That's the main reason I haven't finished putting my manuscript in order. Once God revealed it to me [and you would not believe the way He did it, Yvonne, ...] I tried my best to convince God that I was not the one! :) I actually told God that I could not do it! That is, write this book that I still don't feel that I'm qualified to write. But, you see, God is very patient with us, Yvonne, and in the end, His will, not ours, will be done! I warn you now, there will be a lot to laugh about in the chapter about my resisting God. And all will get a kick out of the story of how God stopped me from ending my life; not once, but several times. Can you believe that? :) I don't want to spoil all the fun of you reading about it, so I'll just devote more time on finishing the book; hopefully by years end, or at least, before God gets tired of waiting on me to finish it and decides to zap me off the face of the earth! :)
I'll say this, then I'll close and try to submit this post before I lose the whole thing! Stop selling yourself short, Yvonne. Stop resisting your calling! :) I believe God has already whispered in your ear to start a grief support group at your church. I hate to admit this, but; there is no way that I would be able to get my husband close to a church except for a funeral; and then, it would have to be a family member or a very, very close friend! Ha-ha! Don't get me wrong; He is a good husband, and father, and will do anything for his family and friends except go to church on a regular basis. :) He believes in God, but says most churches today have turned into big businesses. To tell the truth, Yvonne, I don't attend as often as I should, but I have been making an effort to attend more often. My daughter, Cheryl and her husband and son, attend several times during the week, plus Cheryl is in the music ministry and they both serve in the church outreach ministry on a regular basis, and James sometimes fills in when their pastor is away or when he is called to deliver the message. James does not have his own church but hopes to once he finishes his training. Cheryl is in the process of writing a program to teach voice lessons to the youth in their church and she also in the choir, teaches Sunday School, some Sundays, to the young ones and takes turns helping out in the nursery at church.
So, as my Dear Mother use to say, whenever one of us went to her with any concern or problem, ... she would always say, "Count your blessings!" And, a friend of mine once said to me, about my book project; "If God said do it, DO IT!" Another saying my sister, Pearl, has on her pumper sticker. It reads, "God said it, I believe it, That settles it!" :) If it sounds like I'm rambling, it's because I've been up since 4:00 AM and it is now 12:40 PM, so I'd better close cause David just informed me that Cheryl, James and grandson Steven are on their way to our house to check on me and all that's going on with my hand and health, so I'd better close and go pretend I am just waking up! :) And, believe me, they both are like roving detectives when it comes to monitoring me to see that I am taking care of myself and following doctor's orders!:)
God bless you and your wonderful family, Yvonne, and remember,... God is about to send you and your family your very own wonderful DovesFromHeaven; ... one, in a matter of days, and the other is scheduled to arrive in a couple of months! Isn't God wonderful!!!!
As always, ... you and family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Good Morning All, :) ~ My prayer for all today is that your day will be filled with unconditional love,
many blessings, peace, gratefulness, inspiration, and all the joy that you can stand! I decided that I would
begin this day by sharing one of my favorite poems, which was written by Douglas Malloch. I also
like the way he introduces his inspirational poem. I think he has done an excellent job of expressing what
God expects of each of us. :)
BE THE BEST OF WHATEVER YOU ARE
[We all dream of great deeds and high positions, away from the pettiness and humdrum of ordinary life.
Yet success is not occupying a lofty place or doing conspicuous work; it is being the best that is in you.
Rattling around in too big a job is worse than filling a small one to overflowing. Dream, aspire by all
means; but do not ruin the life you must lead by dreaming pipe dreams of the one you would like to lead.
Make the most of what you have and are. Perhaps your trivial, immediate task is your one sure way of
proving your mettle. Do the thing near at hand, and great things will come to your hand to be done.]
If you canít be a pine on the top of the hill,
Be a scrub in the valley - but be
The best little scrub by the side of the rill;
Be a bush if you canít be a tree.
If you canít be a bush be a bit of the grass,
And some highway happier make;
If you canít be a muskie then just be a bass -
But the liveliest bass in the lake!
We canít all be captains, weíve got to be crew,
Thereís something for all of us hereí
Thereís big work to do and thereís lesser to do,
And the task you must do is the near.
If you canít be a highway then just be a trail,
If you canít be the sun be a star;
It isnít by size that you win or you fail -
Be the best of whatever you are!
Written By: Douglas Malloch