WE BOTH WILL HAVE A DOUBLE VALLEY DAYS. MICHAEL'S BIRTHDAY IS AUGUST 12TH AND HE PASSED AWAY THE ON 14TH, AND THEY ARE COMING UP. I'M KINDA HAPPY THAT SCHOOL IS OUT DURING THAT TIME BUT SOME TIMES I WISH IT WASN'T JUST TO KEEP BUSY. THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS AND I REALLY ENJOY WORKING WITH SPECIAL NEEDS CHILDREN. IT'S SO REWARDING WHEN THEY ARE SO HAPPY. WHEN THEY SEE ME THEIR FACE LIGHTS UP WITH THIS HUGE SMILE AS THEY RUN TO GIVE ME A HUG. I WILL CONTINUE TO KEEP YOU IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS. LOVE DEBBY
SORRY I DIDN'T POST RIGHT AWAY. I JUST WANTED TO SAY THANK YOU SO MUCH. I LOVE READING THE POST YOU AND EVERY ONE ELSES. I KEEP ONE OF THE BOOKS IN THE CAR SO WHEN I HAVE TO WAIT(DR'S) I BRING IT IN WITH ME TO READ. THEY LIFT ME UP JUST LIKE THE POSTS DO. I HAVE TOLD MY FAMILY BUT I DON'T THINK THEY COME ON BUT I COULD BE WRONG. THEY MAY READ AND NOT POST BUT THATS OK.
MY HUSBAND AND I BOUGHT LAND AND WE STARTED THE ROAD FOR THE DRIVEWAY AND WILL BE WORKING ON IT ALL NEXT WEEK SO I'LL BE REAL BUSY. THE ROAD IS 374FT. LONG SO WE HAVE ALOT OF WORK AHEAD OF US. AT LEAST WE CLEARED WHERE THE HOUSE IS GOING. I JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW WHATS GOING ON AND TO SAY THANK YOU AGAIN. I WILL KEEP YOU IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS.LOVE YA DEBBY
Hello Verna, (LOVE2U), so you learned how to copy and paste, that's wonderful, and is a great tool to use in fwd.'s, letters, etc. Yes, I hope all went well for Yvonne's son's wedding yesterday, and a trip down memory lane for you!
Well you'd better get down to business with you book, if Anthony wants it by year's end, :) What book is he writing?
I hope also by now that you have your computer back and it's running like a top for you! Love and prayers,
Hi Deb, nice to see you posting, I miss everyone when they don't post! I'm so happy that you read the posts and that they help you, Deb, you can probably relate to every post the same as we all can! I am SO happy that you're reading the books and more importantly that they're helping you out, that's wonderful! They sure were a Godsend for me. Well, Deb, let's hope that your family has read some of the posts, and they are more than welcome, I'd love it, if they posted a little something themselves, when they're ready.
Deb, that's so exciting, buying some land, and that is one very long driveway, if you live in 'snow' country, you'll have to have a good plough! Are you and your hubby going to live in the house, once you're built it? Yes, I can imagine that it's going to keep you very busy, but drop in here from time to time, we'll miss not hearing from you! Love and prayers to you, Debby,
YES WE WILL LIVE IN IT ONCE IT'S DONE. WE LIVE IN SOUTHERN NEW ENGLAND. IN MY HUSBANDS GRANDFATHERS HOUSE RIGHT NOW. TAKEN CARE OF THE HOUSE FOR HIM AND THE 2 BEDROOM APARTMENT DOWNSTAIRS. HIS GRAND FATHER LIVES IN FLORIDA. MY HUSBAND OWNS HIS OWN BUISNESS AND HAS THE TRUCKS AND PLOWS SO I DON'T HAVE TO WORRY. CHRIS WILL BE WITH US WHEN WE MOVE IN. HE WORKS FOR HIS DAD AND LOVES IT NOW THAT HE'S 19 AND HAS INSURANCE AND ALL THAT OTHER STUFF YOU NEED TO HAVE. I KNOW IT'S ALONG DRIVEWAY WE MADE THE PATH TODAY. WE BOUGHT 10 ACHERS FROM MY AUNTS SISTER-N-LAW.
IT'S SO PIECEFUL. HAVE A TENT,SCREEN HOUSE, AND SLEEPING BAGS AND BRING A LUNCH.
I WISH MY FAIMLY WOULD POST TOO SO I KNOW HOW THEY ARE DOING. I FINALLY HAD A LONG TALK WITH MY BROTHER (DONALD) AND WE TALK ALOT NOW ABOUT MICHAEL TOGETHER. I CAN HEAR IT IN HIS VOICE HE IS STILL HURTING AND WE END UP CRYING TOGETHER, THEN LAUGHING. MY SISTER TAMMY AND I SEE EACH OTHER ALL THE TIME AND WE ALL WAYS TALK ABOUT MICHAEL. HE WAS SO CLOSE WITH HER WHEN HE FELT HE COULDN'T TALK TO ME.
YOUR IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS.
DEAR GOD PLEASE WATCH AND PRAY FOR ALL THE MOMS WHO NEED YOUR STRENGHT, AND GUIDE THEM INTO YOUR PATH, I ASK THIS IN YOUR NAME THE FATHER, AMEN.
Hi Debby, yes, if you live in southern New England then you're used to snow, :)! Thank goodness your husband has all the equipment, you don't have to pay someone else to do it for you!
It sounds as though you're on a 'little' vacation, while you're on your property, getting it ready, yes, it must be very nice and peaceful.
I'm so happy for you that you have your brother and sister for support, so many moms don't, as you've read, so you're really blessed. Hopefully they'll post a little something in the near future!
Thank you Deb, you're in my love and prayers too! Best of luck with the new property, and don't forget us,
Our 18-year old daughter was killed in an auto/bycicle accident many years ago while finishing her freshman year at college. The Lord helps me every day to live with this loss. I can only offer the words that you will never get over it, but you will learn to live with it. At any given moment, I can break down in tears, but the Lord continues to comfort me. Bless all of you for your losses..
Hello lpSoder, thank you so much for posting your wise words here, and I'm very sorry for your loss. You're absolutely right, we will never truly get over it, but learn how to live with it, that's the place I'm in now, and it's been 3 years for me. I live with it everyday, but, like you, can break down at a moment's notice. It's just too big and painful a loss to ever fully recover from. And that's why we desperately need God's help in this, and He of course knows this and sends many blessings and graces our way. I don't know how anyone could make it without the Lord's help. May God continue to bless you, lpSoder, and comfort you also, and please know that our love and prayers are with you too, on your own Journey,
It was so great hearing from you all. It has been quite sometime since I have heard from some of you but I was just so happy to see all of you back with such nice things to express. You all have been thru so much! I don't get on as much as I would like but I am just so glad to see alot of you back on. I worry alot about the woman on here. I know how hard it is for us. But we are all here for each other. So for all you new ladies out there just remember we are here for each other. I know we can all help the new woman and the old ones. I know you all know what I mean not in age oh my I am not doing so well on my pc tonight...its Monday what more can I say. God Bless ..May he be with each of you in your time of need! Take-Care everyone. I will pray for each of you tonight...God Bless!!
Thank you for your kind and thoughtful words. You will be in my thoughts and prayers aswell. So sorry to hear you lost both your sweet boys. I know for my self it's hard to lose one but when you have lost both I can't even find the words what to say. My heart goes out to you and your family. God Bless You! Luv Debby
I would never forget any of the moms here at this site. When I first came on I had no idea what I was doing and thanks to every one here I'm more stabel now. Every one has helped me so much with the comforting words suggestions on what to read, and I feel like I've gained another family. On my valley days the post I read help me and I know I will never get over this but it's nice to know that I can come to the site and every one helps me. The moms here know what and how I'm feeling because of that I thank every one. God Bless You! Love and Prayers to you. Luv Debby
Hi Pun, gosh, it's really nice to hear from you again! We've all been through a lot, Pun, and you're no exception, losing your two boys, just post here whenever you can, we miss you when you don't! When someone doesn't post for a while, I worry about them, and wonder how they're doing. We're all here for each other, there's strength in numbers, and in prayer. God bless you for worrying about us, we are all here for each other, and that includes you too. I pray things are better with you lately, I know that May was a rough month for you.
Yes, hopefully we moms such as yourself who have been around for a while here can help out those who are new to this site, that's what this Circle was created for! May God bless you, Pun, and be with you in your times of need, and by the way, you did perfectly on your PC, :). As I said, I know you can't post all the time, but please check in every now and then, because we do miss you! Love and prayers,
Hi Deb, I'm so, so happy that this Circle has helped you out so much, God has truly blessed it, hasn't He! Sometimes it's hard to take that first step, but you did, and now you're giving back, posting to other moms, and that helps you in your own grief! We are blessed to have you here too, along with all the other wonderful moms. I'm also very happy that the books have helped you, they really did for me, so I'd recommend any books on grieving to a parent who's lost a precious child such as we all have. Yes, you've gained another family, and we're all sisters along the Journey of Grief, growing stronger every day, and learning how to live with our loss. That's so sweet of you Deb, we'd never forget you either, and I'm so happy that the posts help you in your valley days, and in your good ones. Keep posting when you can, we'd miss you terribly too if you didn't! Love and prayers to you,
Dear Everyone here at this Loving Circle of Prayer! I am so grateful to have such a wonderful place to come and be one with all of you because of our similar losses of our precious Sons & Daughters. Thank you all for being here. I love coming on and reading what each of you write everyday. It means so much to me to have this kind of support. I wish I would have had it in the early days of my grief journey. I can feel your pain as if it were my own.
I will be starting back and trying to write to everyone individually now since my busy time of preparations for our son Aaron's and his beautiful bride Brianne's wedding on Saturday. Thank each one of you for your thoughts and prayers for me and my family during this time. I truly could feel the presence of the Lord with me as could my family. The wedding was absolutely beautiful and God was the center of it all. It was so precious to see my son with tears in his eyes as Brianne walked down the isle and then his brother Bryan (his best man) with tears and his sister Sarah and her husband Jon with tears, it was at that point when I broke down and then Aaron's Dad. It was such a touching moment. I really don't think there was a dry eye in the church. The ceremony was just as touching as they both lighted a memorial candle ( one for Joe and one for Brianne's Grandpa who passed away in Feb) and as they did my daughter Sarah sang "Father's Song". That was so sad remembering Joe at that time. I am so happy for them, they will make a lovely couple forever!!! After the wedding, Bryan drove them out to the reception sight, but on their way they stopped at the cemetary to visit Joe. The cemetary was only a few blocks from the church. That ws the first time they went together since the funeral. I was truly touched that they did that. It meant so much to me and their Dad. Joe was not forgotten. Thank You Jesus! I better go for now, I will write more later, I don't want to lose this! I love you all!!! And God Bless each one!
I'm back! The reception was very nice and Bryan gave a wonderful toast to Aaron and Brianne. We were so proud of him because he was quite nervous. But it sure didn't seem like it at all. By the way, all of the dresses were really beautiful. I got alot of compliments and most could not believe that I did all of them. Maybe I will get some business from this exposure, who knows! At the present I sew for a lady in town who does country folk art crafts. I work out of my home for her. They go all over the country (mainly out east) for shows and she also sells them oversees to England and Australia. I've been working for her for nearly 13 years now and I am getting a little burned out on it, but I really liked making these dresses. Anyway, enough on that.
Oh, I almost forgot to tell you about the rehearsal dinner we put on at our home. It turned out very nice also. I made an Italian fare with lasagne, chicken fettucine alfredo and ravioli w/garlic butter sauce, bread, salads and dessert. We had it outside, it was hot but no one seemed to care too much! I'm relieved it's over with all the work involved but sad too you know?
~~~~In case anyone is interested I turn the BIG 50 today. We will celebrate with my family (Mom amd Sisters) tomorrow night with a dinner at Applebee's and then on Thursday we will spend the day with my son Bryan and his wife. I can't believe I'm 50 already, I've not been looking forward to this day, but oh well, it's part of life huh??? I actually woke up with a kink in the middle of my back this morning!!! I guess that tells my age! My daughter tells me I don't look 50 or act like it either!!! Bless her heart!!! Well now I can relax and look forward to my granddaughters soon to be born. The first (Zoe) is due August 7th, this is Bryan & Tara's child. And then (Ruthie) is due to be born Oct. 23rd, this is Sarah & Jon's child. It's a busy year for our family to say the least. I am so grateful to our Lord Jesus for all the many blessings he has given us. Speaking of Blessings, He Blessed me with a 'Dove' this morning in my 'Dove Garden' on my birthday, I know just to let me know He's still with me and Joe is too! Thank You Lord! I love you so much.
So enough about me, I hope and pray everyone is doing ok. I think of all of you all the time and like I said before I'm so grateful to have found this prayer circle. May God Bless each and every Mom and Dad and anyone else that comes here.
~~~ Dear Lord Jesus, I ask You to hold each one close to Your side and let them feel Your presence in their lives as You minsiter to their needs in their down times and their up times. Give them Your Peace that passes all understanding and Comfort their broken hearts. And help them all to rely fully on You for their strength. Bless them now Lord and grant them more good days as time moves forward and as they learn to live with their losses of their beloved children. In Jesus Name, Amen. God Bless you all!
Hello Yvonne, I was womdering when you were goimg to post with your exciting news about the wedding! It sounds like it was just beautiful, a picture perfect wedding for a lovely couple!
Now you have a new daughter, adding more to you family. It sounds so touching, everyone with tears of joy in their eyes, yourself and your hubby included, and then lighting candles for Joe and Brianne's grandfather, including them in the Ceremony. That was truly a loving gesture for them to stop at the Cemetery, to visit with Joe and have a talk with him, and I just know that he was at the wedding!
Oh, you're making me hungry, :) describing the luscious food that you prepared! I'm sure it was devoured by all and thoroughly enjoyed. You must be a wonderful seamstress, Yvonne, you made all those dresses yourself with your loving hands, and it surely showed, getting compliments on them all! I hope and pray that this does lead to something more for you. Thank God also that you had lovely weather for it, to make the day all the more special for the bride and groom, and everyone else! I bet there was a lot of picture taking and video rolling going on! I know what you mean, Yvonne, all these months of preparation for it, and now the big day is over, so it's a little sad but in a nice way.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, and welcome to the 50 club, :). I hope you have a wonderful celebration and meal for your birthday!
It's not everyday a gal turns 50, :)
You've still got many busy days ahead, with all these grandchildren on the way, so take sometime for yourself right now, rest, relax, because soon you'll be very busy once again. Oh, I'm so thrilled for you that you had a dove today, what a wonderful gift for your Birthday, what more could you ask for? Well, I'm very happy that you posted and told us all about your son and new daughter-in-law's wonderful wedding, we all know how much love and preparation you yourself put into it to make the day very special for them. God was certainly in the middle of it, wasn't He! I'm grateful that you found this Prayer Circle too, all the moms here are so wonderful, as I said in an earlier post, God has truly blessed this Circle, I can feel it! Thanks once again for your wonderful prayer that you always add at the end of your post, and congratulations to the new couple, and a very Happy Birthday to a wonderful lady! Love and prayers to you and your's,
Hello dear Moms,
I'm asking for your prayers for a mom who lost her third son and remaining child yesterday, a friend of mine, Cindys1021, who has posted here, she lost her daughter Krissy on March 15/2001, told me of this poor moms's loss. She was away at the time tending to her mother who had just had a heart attack, and then come to find out this terrible news. What a terrific blow, we who have lost one know the pain and heartache that losing one of our precious children brings, Moms like Pun and this woman, I have no idea how they do it. So I ask for your prayers for her and her family, she certainly needs them from us at this time. May God bless you all,
Hi Sandy,(shaner), I've been wayyyy down in the valley for a few days; but thanks to everyone's continued prayers and my humorous editor, Mr. A, (ha-ha), I'm well on my way back to those peaceful hilltop days. :)
A lot is going on right now. My daughger's husband was hospitalized yesterday, and she is still up there with him. He had not been feeling well and we won't know anything until later today after he sees the doctor. So, I'm baby-sitting my precious grandson and also my cute and precious little great niece, (who also calls me grand mama), and working on my book while trying not to worry too much about my son-in-law's condition. So, please keep all of us in your prayers.
I managed to make it through the first anniversary of my dear brother's death, which as you know was yesterday. I did o.k. until one of my sisters who lives in California called. :) I knew she would, and I became a bit emotional after her call. I guess I needed to because I did feel a some better later on. You know the story of his tragic death. The hard part for all of us is there is no closure. He had endured so much pain and did not want us to see him in the late stages of his cancer. He lived in another state,and he begged us not to come. The last thing on the note he left behind was, "I may see my mother," :) I don't think he ever got over our mother's death. He and his family did get a chance to come home to say good bye to her shortly before she died. So, we were so very grateful that all of us had that to hold on to. I told my sisters I can just imagine the reunion that took place in heaven that day when our mother greeted him at heaven's door! :) My other two brothers are there with her, so now, she also has her baby son there to walk around heaven with her all day! :) My mom had seven children; 3 boys and 4 girls. I am my mom's 7th child. :) The 3 boys are with her,in heaven. And,the 4 of us are looking forward to the day when all of us will be together again. :) And, I know my Diane is lighting up heaven with her radiant smile and lovely voice! Lord knows that child could sing! Someday, I will try to send you a tape of the songs she sang at Cheryl's wedding. If I do, please pay attention to the pastor's and guest's reaction to her singing To God Be The Glory! It was a glorious moment marked it time! :)
Gosh, I didn't mean to take a walk down memory lane, but sometimes it just feels so good to share some of my happier moments, too!
I will let you and the other moms know how my son-in-law is doing just as soon as Cheryl calls back.
My computer problems still exists, but as my editor told me in an email, "Into each life, some rain must fall!" :) He does have a way of lifting my spirits! :)
This is not a cut and paste so forgive all mistakes. :) I will try to post now, for the first time from this new sight. Oh yes, and I will have to wait until the service man from Road Runner comes back this week to finish installing everything, and show me how to access my email from my new email boxes. I haven't been able to find them since he began installation on 6/29! :) That's why I'm still using my AOL email address. It's no telling how much mail I have in my RR boxes! So, continue emailing me at AOL until I get help.
As you know and the other moms know, I don't know dada about computers. :)
Lord Sandy, I just came back on to read, and saw your post about the mom that lost her third and last son! :( Had I taken the time to read before I submitted my post, I would never have gone on and on about any and everything! So, please forgive me. I usually read first then post; but this time, I was so happy to find beliefnet on this new RR site, I just started typing without checking and reading all the post first.
God in heaven knows how my heart breaks for this mom. It's like you said, Sandy, we know the pain of losing one child. But, to lose two, like Pun,... and now, this mom, has lost her third and last son,...Well, I most certainly will join all in praying for this poor mom. I can hardly see what I'm typing right now, .. so I will come back on when I can. Again, I will keep this mom in my heartfelt prayers.
Love, and tears,..
Hello Verna, sorry to read that you're having valley days, they're inevitable, so just take it one day at a time. I'm also so sorry to read about your son-in-law, our prayers are with him that it's nothing serious and something very treatable. And of course the 1st Anniversary of your brother's passing wouldn't help with your mood, as you reflect upon his life and what he meant to all of you.
Yes, can you imagine losing ALL your children to death? That poor mom must be in so much pain right now, tending to her own mother who had a heart attack and then lose her last remaining child, her third son. I can't even begin to comprehend what she must be going through right now, burying all 3 of her children before herself. May Our Heavenly Father give her the necessary spiritual and physical strength at this time and surround her with good, loving, supportive people.
I know all you wonderful moms will think of her when you say your prayers.
My love and prayers to you all,
Hi Sandy and Verna: Thank you for your prayers for Melinda's friend Pam. The shock of this horrible event takes me back to my own darkness, but still thankful that our children are home, in God's care, and we will join them one day. That's what get's me through most days. Lord, bless all our children - those at home with you, and those at home with us. Amen.
IN ALL OF OUR LIVES THERE ARE TREASURES
MORE PRECIOUS THAN SILVER OR GOLD,
AND NONE OF THESE PRICELESS TREASURES
CAN EVER BE BOUGHT OR SOLD.
THE BEAUTY THAT SURROUNDS US ALL
ALONG LIFE'S THOROUGHFARE
ARE TREASURED GIFTS GIVEN BY GOD
FOR EVERYONE TO SHARE
THE SOUND OF CHILDREN'S LAUGHTER,
AND GOOD AND FAITHFUL FRIENDS
ARE TREASURES WE SHALL CHERISH
TILL OUR LIFE'S JOURNEY ENDS.
LOVE FOR OUR CHILDREN AND THEIR LOVE FOR US
IS MORE PRECIOUS THAN SILVER OR GOLD,
FOR OUR LOVE IS EVERLASTING,
AND CAN NEVER BE BOUGHT OR SOLD!
Hi Cindy, so nice to see you posting again, but under such sad circumstances.
Yes, it does bring you back to square one when you personally know of another mom's loss. Yes, God bless all children, those gone ahead of us and those still here with us, our love and prayers are with her Cindy,
Hello Deb, what a beautiful poem that you've posted! Those things are more priceless than silver or gold, and we'd never take anything to replace them, they're what life is all about, love everlasting! The real, true things in life just can't be bought, can they! Thanks for posting it Deb,