Prayer Circles

Dear Sunshine3731,I am so very sorry about the loss of your precious Stephanie Marie.I know your heart is broken and mine aches for you.It is so new and fresh and i know the pain you are going through.There is no pain like the loss of our children and we all feel it.Try to keep leaning on God,he will see you through this terrible grief.Here at this prayer circle you will find much love and compassion.We all love and care for you here.Please keep coming back.You will find comfort here.I will be praying for you and your family.With Love,Barb

Hello Tammy, thanks for posting about vik's request for the little girl. That's so heartwarming to hear she's doing so well, her poor mother must be overjoyed! It's nice to know that the collective prayers of many, including us at this Circle, helped to make a difference! The beautiful power of prayer!! Thanks for putting their address down, now we can send her and her family a nice card.
Luv Sandy

Hi Barb, (eudora), that verse that you put into the paper for Carol's Anniversary reached out and touched someone else, so that's wonderful! They used it in their own way to remember a loved one of their's, so I think that they saw your's, were touched by it, and isn't that a nice feeling, to know you've been able to reach out and touch a stranger in their grief also! Another amazing way that God works in our lives! Hope you're doing better Barb, you sound OK lately, but you know you can share with us when you're feeling down. Love ya bunches,
Luv Sandy

To all my friends here at the prayer circle ~ I want to thank each and everyone for praying for me. As
some of you know, I’ve had a lot of stress to deal with over the last couple of weeks. First, my health,
then my friends losing their 29 year old son, and as if that wasn’t enough to deal with, I’ve been told that
my computer is running out of memory! :) I told my son-in-law, “So am I!” :) We had a good laugh.:)
He has promised to add some memory to my computer as soon as he has some time off.

Health wise, I am following doctor’s orders; checking my glucose twice daily, (ouch!) :) and of course diet
and exercise; none of which I was doing.:) As most of you know, I am borderline diabetic, (type 2), and I
am learning that my doctor doesn’t play.:) She is so funny. :) When she entered the exam room, and
looked down at my swollen ankles, she said, “Now Verna, I thought we had an agreement that you were
going to stay off the cokes and salt. :) She then asked me how would I like it if she were to put me in the
hospital. :) I told her I wouldn’t like it at all. This lady has been my doctor for over 30 years. She then
replied, “Well, at the rate you are going, that’s where you’re headed; or worse the graveyard.” Of course,
you all have to know that I agreed to do any and everything she suggested. However, she still insisted on
the nurse giving me a couple of shots for the severe swelling and insisted that I go home, take my
medication, get in bed, and prop my feet up! I asked her, “Are you sure I need these shots, or are you
trying to punish me?” :) She replied, “Both!”... and walked out and closed the door!” The nurse and I
had a good laugh. :) That’s the reason I have been with her all these years. :) Then the nurse said, “OK,
jump down, turn around, and grab the table! (laugh) Enough about me.

My friends who lost their son are doing the best they can. Right now, they are where most of us have
been; only at different times. The cause of death may be different, but the indescribable grief and pain is
the same! The mother, God bless her, is shattered, but has a lot of support from family and friends. The
father, and their other son, on the other hand, are the one that we are worried about. Since this happened,
the father has kept himself busy, and like most dads, he is keeping it all inside. He told my husband that
he didn’t want to go to the family hour or the funeral; that he just didn’t want to see his son like that.
When I heard this, my eyes filled up with tears. The family hour was tonight. My doctor recommended
that I not go; but I was there in spirit and in prayer. I still share their grief and pain, just as though I was
there. All of the dads and other male friends got together and purchased the food for the get together after
the funeral, which is being held tomorrow. The moms and other ladies from our church are preparing
their special dish tonight and will take care of serving the family and friends after the funeral. [For those
of you who like chocolate cake, I have this recipe for a chocolate cake made from scratch (both the cake
and the icing) that will make anyone forget a diet! :) And it only takes a little time to prepare. So, for
those of you who would like the recipe, just email me, and I will send it to you; with love!] :)

Lord, help me, but I have to go to the funeral tomorrow. I still have a lot of swelling, but if I can get a
the swelling to go down, I plan to go. So please, everyone; just keep on praying for all of us to make it
through the funeral, as well as after the funeral. By that, I mean, our friends have another adult son, and
he really isn’t taking his brother’s death well at all. It is so sad that such little value is placed on a
person’s life nowadays. So, let’s storm heaven with our prayers! We know how devastating it is to lose a
child; but to have someone to take your child’s life on purpose, ... and then, to have to worry about your
other son, ... well, like I said, let’s keep this family in our prayers!

My love to all, and it really feels good to be able to post again. :) I have a lot of catching up to do! :) I
have spent a lot of my down time reading back posts and I can’t wait to get started on responding to each
post. I mean, I really have missed everyone! And judging from the posts I read, you all have me
thinking that you all missed me too! :) Gee, that feels good! :) Again, thank you all so much for caring,
and for keeping this family and me and family in your heartfelt prayers. May God bless each and
everyone!

My Love 2 All! :)
Verna

I think my computer is trying to tell me it's getting sleepy... It was either that or it couldn't remember such a long post!:) So I had to copy and paste 3 times! Good night all! :)
Verna
VCLAY100@aol.com

Hello Verna, it's so nice to see you posting again, BUT you must follow your Dr.'s orders! I'm a Diabetic also, and I know how important diet and exercise play in helping to control the disease.
Yes, your friend's son whose life was taken is so very sad, this culture of violence in society is too pervasive. Our prayers are with the family, and protection and safety for the other son, and our prayers for you that you'll be able to attend. Get some much needed rest, and the Circle will be here for you when you're feeling better, love to you too,
Luv Sandy

Dearest Verna,yes we have been missing you because we love you.You better take care of yourself and LISTEN to the doctor.She does know best.I pray the swelling in your ankles goes down so you can attend the funeral.My prayers are with the family also.God bless you.Love,Barb

please pray for a five month child just paased on tuesday....from SIDS,please the preants needs lots of prayers

Hello tggerme, it's so very sad to read of the baby's passing, so suddenly. I know the parents must be heartbroken and in so much pain right now. Please now that we will pray for them, God love them, and thank you for posting here for prayers for them. Let them know that they are in our thoughts, and more importantly, in our prayers,
Luv Sandy

Hello Everyone! ~ I'm just checking in to let you know that all went well yesterday at the funeral. Thank you for your prayers. The family wanted me to tell you how much they appreciate your prayers. I did get some much needed rest and I am trying my best to follow doctor's orders. :) These are stressful times! :) Cheryl's mother-in-law from her previous marriage is arriving at 7:15 pm today to spend time with our one and only grandson. She is such a sweetheart to Cheryl and our grandson, and will be my house guest for a week. So, I will post every chance I get. :) Please know that I dearly miss being able to post often! When I can't post when I want to, it really stresses's me! :) So continue praying for me and I will do the same for all of you.
Right now, I have to get dressed and go pick up my house guest. I will try to get started on submitting my individual post later tonight. I promise I will take it slow and take better care of myself.:) Until later,... love, peace and blessings to all.
Verna

Dear Sandy ~ Thank you for your prayers. I did get some much needed rest and as a result, I do feel better today. I pray that all is going well for you and your family. I also pray that God will bless you with precious moments of peace throughout the day, as well as in the days ahead.
Love,
Verna
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Dear Eudora,(Barb)~ Thank you for your kind words and for keeping me in your prayers. I am feeling much better today. I am glad to know that you liked the poem I wrote. I really prayed that God would allow you to feel His, and your Carol's spirit throughout the day. I pray that our Lord and Savior will continue providing those precious moments of peace and warm memories of your Carol throughout today as well as in the days ahead. Always know that you and Carol are in my thoughts; which places you both in my prayers.
Love,
Verna
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Dear Tammy, ~ Thank you for your kind words as well as your prayers. I want you to know that every time I sign in, I find myself hoping that you have submitted a few post. :) It doesn't matter who the post is meant for; I always read all of them. :) I was so sorry to read about your most recent loss and I prayed about it; asking God to pamper you, and give you precious moments of peace daily. You are such a blessing to all who post here. :) Thank you, also, for providing us with feedback on the little girl who was runover by her mom's truck. I continue to pray for her as well as the rest of her family; especially her mom. I asked God to remove all self blame from her thoughts. Thank you again for the update on her condition. All of us here will continue praying for the healing of this precious child. God bless you and family.
Love,
Verna

Dear tggerme, ~ I join others in praying for the precious five month old child who passed Tuesday. I also pray for the parents of this precious child. My (adult)daughter, Diane's death was sudden and without warning, so I can relate, somewhat, to what they are going through. I have often said that losing a child by any means is a parent's worst nightmare. Sometimes God gives us warnings and sometimes there is no warning. Either way, it is a parents worst nightmare! These parents are going to need a lot of support from family and friends. Right now they are in shock. They may find it helpful to seek counselling, or to join a support group in the near future. Please know that they will be prayed for here. Thank you for posting a prayer request on their behalf. May God bless you for your thoughtfulness.
Love,
Verna

Dear mej80 ~ While checking post, I read your prayer request for the parents of Derek Shelton (21 year old who died recently). I join others in praying for these parents. Being so recent, their grief has to be so heavy. I pray that God will wrap His loving arms around them today and in the days ahead. Their precious son is not their guardian angel. They will need much support from family and friends now, and in the days, weeks and months ahead. I would like to invite you read some of the back post in which bereaved moms how it makes them feel when friends and sometimes even family members don't acknowledge our right to grieve; to talk about our loss. Sometimes friends and family members seem to think they should avoid bringing up our loss in our presence; as if nothing has changed. Some try to avoid us all together. Again, read some of the back post to find out how much this hurts when others relate to us in this manner. Then, please let others know that it helps to be able to talk about our children. Tell them it's really O.K. to the fond memories or special relationship they had with our child. Tell them it's O.K. to talk about how the death of our child/children makes them feel. I can't speak for dads; other than to say that most men handle grief differently than most moms. :) However, my experience has been that most moms find it helpful to acknowledge as well as talk about our grief. Sandy submitted a poem a few pages back which expresses how not talking about our children really make bereaved moms feel. It is a poem that I pray others will find and read, so that they can spread the word on this important issue. Once again, I want to thank you for your prayer request, and please tell your friends about this prayer circle; that the moms here will most definitely keep them in our heartfelt prayers.
Love,
Verna

mej80 ~ [Woops!] (sorry about the mistake in the above post! ) I meant to say; Their precious son is now their guardain angel.]

Hello Everyone!
I'm sorry for not posting for what seems like forever! It's just that I've been extremely busy this spring with yard work and gardening trying to get our place ready for the rehearsal dinner we are hosting here for our son's wedding on June 29th. I'm also making all the bridesmaids dresses (6 in all) and 3 flower girls dresses. I just started on them! I have 10 weeks to finish them! I'm honored to be doing them for this wedding for it will be our last child getting married. Plus it's keeping me busy which is helpful when I could just get depressed about Joseph not being here with us for it. It will be a bittersweet time I'm sure. Aaron wanted to have him as his best man!
I want everyone to know that I will be reading all of your posts and will try to post from time to time. I also want you to know that I do pray for peace and comfort from our Heavenly Father for each and everyone even when I'm not posting. It hurts me to read of all the many losses here. And of the most recent ones. My heart is broken for them.
Verna (Love2u), I have been praying for your health. I'm so glad you let us know what's going on with you, it helps to know how to pray. May God continue to bring healing for you in your body as well as your spirit. I'm sorry for your friend's loss of their son. I will keep praying for them. God Bless you!
Sandy (Shaner), God Bless you for all the kind words you have for each person that comes here to share their pain. God truly is using you to reach out to us grieving Moms as you are also learning to deal with your own loss of your sweet son Shane. I believe that is how our healing will come about though don't you? You always know what to say. May God continue to uphold you and bring you peace when you need it most. God Bless you Sandy!
Tammy (hothoosiers), You are a godsend to all of us here. I'm sorry for what you've had to go through here lately, God Bless you. May God keep you in His loving arms and hold you close. Thanks for all of your kind words to everyone. Thank you also for thinking of and praying for my daughter's pregnancy. She is doing quite well and is 13 weeks along now. They've heard the hearbeat a couple of times and are very excited. My son and his wife are doing great with their pregnancy also. She is 24 weeks now and they are expecting a little girl in August. I can't believe I'm going to be a grandmother. It will be an exciting time for our family bringing new life into the world. God Bless you Tammy!
Barb (Eudora), God Bless you. I hope you are doing OK. I think of you often and wonder. It's so neat to know that your daughter Carol was your best friend. I felt that way about my son Joseph too. Out of all of my children he was the one I could relate to the most. I'm very close to all of my kids, but Joe was different right from the time he was born. My relationship with my other kids now has changed so much since our son's death. We are even closer than I ever would have imagined. I love them all so much. May God keep you in his tender care and give you peace and comfort when you need it the most. God Bless you Barb!
I started a memorial page for Joe. It's under: Joseph Thomas Hanson. Feel free to add to this, I would welcome it very much. Thanks to all! God Bless Everyone!
Love, Yvonne<><

Hello Yvonne, it's so nice to see you posting again, we've miss you! But with all that is happening in your life right now, we understand. Getting ready for your son's wedding must be exciting, and you must be a wonderful seamstress, to be making all of the bridesmaid's dresses and the flower girls!! You've got so many new changes in your life right now, and from your letter, they're bringing you a lot of joy, your son getting married, a new baby on the way! I'm so very, very happy for you and your family! I know that all of you will miss Joseph during these happy family times, but he'll be there in Spirit, watching over all of you! And I congratulate you on becoming a grandmother for the first time, I just know that this grandchild will be spoiled by his loving grandmother, and watched over very carefully and lovingly by his Uncle Joseph!
Yes, there has been more sad postings, but as you said, offering comfort hopefully to others is such a wonderful way of giving back for me, it is a way of the healing process begining.
That's wonderful that you created a Memorial page for Joseph, I'm going there after I've done posting there, add my own prayers and thoughs, as others will also! Our continued thoughts and prayers for you Yvonne, and our love, I know you're busy, but please post back whenever you get a chance,
Luv Sandy

dear fiffi9- i feel the pain you are going through in the loss of your son. i too lost my son at the age of 19 from and automobile accident 20 months ago after his 19th birthday. i found comfort in god and being with family and friend and talking about it.the pain will always be there but buy praying i found the strenght to take day for day, please continue praying and i will keep your family in my prayers.

DEAR LOVEU2
WHEN MY HUSBAND AND I LOST OUT SON 20 MONTHS AGO I TOO WAS WORRIED FOR MY HUSBAND AND OUR OTHER SON. BEFORE MY SON PASSED AWAY MY HUSBAND REDID MY BATHROOM OVER JUST SO HE DIDN'T HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT. BUT AT THE FUNERAL HE REALLY BROKE DOWN AND I WAS SO SCARED FOR I HAD NEVER SEEN HIM LIKE THAT. TODAY HE REALLY DOESN'T TALK ABOUT IT MUCH. BUT HE DOES BRING HIS NAME UP ALOT SO I KNOW HE IS OK. MY OTHER SON IS DOING GREAT. EVERYTHING HE DOES HE SAYS IT'S FOR HIS BROTHER. HE WILL BE GRADUATING IN MAY AND WE ARE SO PROUD OF HIM. I WILL SAY A PRAYER FOR AND FOLLOW DR'S ORDERS.

Hello deborahpoo, I'm so very sorry to read of the passing of your son, only 19 himself, and not all that long ago. I know how the pain is still fresh, and it still hurts, but I'm happy to read that you found comfort in God, and also your family and friends. It's so important to have a support system around you, people to talk about your son, and how you're feeling, it puts you on the path of letting some of your pain out. Ans as you posted to LOVE2U, it's very normal for moms and dads to grieve their loss of a child differently, a lot of moms here on these pages will also attest to that.
Congratulations of your son graduating, that's a wonderful event to look forward to, and I know his brother will be there with him in spirit, rejoicing with him on his special day. I'm so happy that you poated here, our prayers are with you and your family,
Luv Sandy

Hello Yvonne ~ (Dovesfromheaven) ~ Thank you so much for praying for me. :) I am doing my best to follow doctor's orders and get plenty of rest. It's good to have you post again. :) I know how it feels when I'm not able to post as often as I would like to. I always find such peace and comfort on these pages. It's no wonder it's so hard to miss it when I can't post. But, like you and the other moms, I always continue to pray for everyone, even when I can't post as often as I would like too. :)

Congratulations on your son's upcoming wedding! :) What a wonderful and challenging thing you are doing making all those dresses for the upcoming wedding! I know this will be an expression of love for your son and his bride to be. :) God bless you as you begin this expression of love for your children. :) I know our Lord and Savior will bless each and every tiny stitch from the first to the very last stitch! :)
I know in my heart that your Joseph will be sitting right there with you in spirit as you devote much time to this loving labor of love. Joe will also be with you all in spirit on the day of the wedding. :) I pray that God will give you and also your son, Aaron, a sign to let you know he is there in spirit. :)

Please know that we will be praying for you and family, and we will understand when you can't post. We know that you will be praying for all of us and thinking of us, just as we will be praying for you and family. I pray that our Lord and Savior will keep His loving arms around you and family. Thanks again for your prayers. :)
Love,
Verna

Dear God ~ I come to you at this time to pray for the family of Michael Wasilewski. Father, I ask that you will give each of them precious moments of peace throughout this day and in the days, weeks, months, and years ahead. Lord, please help each of them to take it one day at a time. Let them feel Michael's spirit around them each and every day. Give them a sign to let them know that their precious Michael is alive and well in heaven, and that he is now their guardian angel. Father, help them to find peace and comfort,through family and friends, and to know in their hearts that others share their pain; even if they don't have the words to express it, and they are praying for them daily. Thank You, Father, for answering my heartfelt prayer for this family. In Jesus' name, Amen

Dear Deborahpoo, ~
I am so sorry to read about the loss of your precious son, Michael. I visited your son's memorial site very early this morning and posted my prayer for you and family there, also. Losing a child is a parent's worst nightmare. We moms here on these pages agree that part of us goes with them. Only 20 months has passed since your Michael's passing. Your pain is still so new! You must give yourself a lot of time to grieve.
Having been on this journey since Aug. 31, 1996, I can tell you that it never goes away completely. But, I can also tell you that the indescribable grief I felt during the beginning stages did become bearable, in time; and I do mean [TIME] :) I didn't have this prayer circle back then, and Lord knows, I thought I was losing my mind! But, even then, somebody was praying for me. They had to be; because there were times when I couldn't pray. Like most moms have shared in some of the past posts, I thought I wanted to die! I had to learn through reading and counseling and support groups, (eventually) that I was not alone; that other moms had felt that kind of pain! I almost didn't make it! That's why I know someone had to be praying for me! :)