Dear Noahschild~ I am sorry to read about the loss of your precious son. Yes, time does have a way of
moving on. And so do we, as we slowly begin to learn ways to live with our pain and loss. In time, God
does move the unbearable grief that we feel during those first few years. As we move along, He helps us
to recall the beautiful and fun memories during those precious peaceful moments for which we pray. I
agree that God has a master plan for everything and everyone. :) And in time, He reveals how each of us
fit into His master plan. :) Thank you so much for your post and please know that I will keep you and
family in my prayers.
Godís Ultimate Plan
Long before He created this world that we know
God spun the ultimate plan
Designed to bring us through this wilderness
Back to the promised land
From the very beginning He already knew
The crosses we would have to bear
He knew the ones we couldnít bare alone
He knew He would have to be there
To help each of us through the days ahead
as only He can do
He calms the seas of grief and pain
He gently brings us through
Then gently by way of the Holy Spirit
He helps each of us to see
The ultimate price that Jesus paid
When He died for you and me
So when you are burden give your grief to the Lord
Feel His presence and strength as I do
Have faith is his power ... He wonít let you down
God is with you ... He will see you through
by Verna R. Clay
My prayers are with you and your family every day. I have had some experiences that really made me think about Life itself. I almost lost my husband 13 yrs ago this past October 15th ~ he was burned 80 percent of his body which they gave him a 15 percent chance of survival ~ I thought for sure I would be alone with 3 young children. He did survive thru the grace of the Lord!
Then I have lost a great-nephew at the
age of 7 yrs old to cancer~ I had never been to a childs funneral ~ it was so hard. Now my sister needs alot of prayers as she is saying there is NO GOD ~ she is filled with so much anger even tho she has many other grandchildren that she has distant herself from since this happen. May all of you please say a prayer for her and also my niece that is ending up getting a divorce in the process of all this!!
She is such a strong person ~ she also has the responsiblity of her daughter too! What a challenge to go thru in Life!
Also I had to take my daugther to a
funneral for a girl that was 15 yrs old last year that went to confirmation class with her. She died in a car-accident ~ the guy who was driving was drunk ~ not sure if she had been drinking or not! The other girls who were in the car along with the guy survived. The school that this girl attended brought the whole class to the funneral ~ I have never seen so many young people cry even the guys were~but if it helped save some Lives out of that experience it was well worth it!
All I could do was think how that
could of been my daugther.
Right now I am having a hard time as
our oldest son who turned 27 has turned back to useing drugs and I feel sometimes like it is a slow death right in fron't of me and I don't know how to handle it!!! I keep telling myself "LET GO AND LET GOD" ~ but there are times I find myself asking "What can I do Lord"?
Please pray for our family as we go
thru this again ~ I thought after his car accident four years ago that almost killed him ~ he would never go back!
He has been thru alot~and I pray he will turn to the Lord for help.
Well,I can see this is getting very
My prayers are with ya'll in all of your circumstances~that the Lord will give you peace of mind and heart ~ that Life will go on ~ but the loved one who is gone now will never be forgotten~and to look forward to seeing them again!!
Love In Christ To all of you.
Thank you Verna for your very kind words, and I also love everyone who posts here, I am truly honoured that Our Heavenly Father uses me to help other moms, and everyone else who posts here at this Circle. When I first started it, I never dreamed it would one day evolve into such a wonderful, loving site, going from page 1 in the very beginning, to now page 47! God has truly blessed me through His Son, and nothing feels better than to give back. I cherish each and every post on these 47 pages, for they came from the hearts of good, kind people, who were in extreme pain and were looking for prayer, and a place to tell their story.
I also thank Beliefnet for keeping this Circle going, without their support of this site, it wouldn't be here.
To all that post, I send my love and my prayers, and look forward to continuing the work that Our Father chose for me to do. God bless you all!
Hello ANGEL, thank you for your prayers, and mine are with you also. I'm so sorry to hear about your husband, but very happy to hear that he recovered from such a horrendous injury!
Our Lord was definitely at work in your lives. I'm also so very sorry to read about your little grand nephew, so young to pass away, it's very painful for your family, especially his mother and grandmother, your sister. Being angry with God is a very natural emotion when one is grieving, and in pain, and that's what your sister is experiencing right now. I know you're giving her your support and love, and that's what she needs right now, plus plenty of time to come to terms with her loss. So don't worry too much about that, eventually when the pain isn't so bad, she'll come back.
Losing a child puts a very big strain on a marriage sometimes, men and women grieve differently, I don't know the particulars of your niece's situation, but losing their little one has taken a heave toll on them, emotionally and spiritually. Losing a child turns your world as you knew it upside down, and changes you forever, so I know how difficult this must be on both of them.
We'll all pray here for a reconcilitation, and also prayers for your sister. Your sister will eventually come around to her other grandchildren also, perhaps it's very painful right now for her to be around them, while she's in pain. All of you will be prayed for, that Our Lord brings your family back together, gathering everyone into His loving arms, and letting them see that they need the comfort and support of each other, especially now. They are blessed to have you, you've posted here out of love for them, and I know that no prayer goes unanswered. I'm also very sorry to read about your daughter's friend, just fifteen years old, but I know that all those classmates who showed up for the funeral were a comfort to the parents, giving them support in their time of need. Yes, if anything good comes of this, it will be to show young people the dangers of drinking and driving, make them stop and think themselves before they make an unwise choice in life.
I'm truly sorry about your son, it must be so hard to see a beloved child going through what he is, and as you say, feeling helpless to stop it. Life is so hard today for young people, but I know that God loves the prayers of mothers, and I know He hears yours! I pray that he gets some help, and that he does turn back to Our Lord, He is always there waiting for us to reach out to Him.
Don't apologize for your post being long, you and your family have a lot on your plate at the moment, and we will storm Heaven with prayers for you and your's. May God bless you and your family, bring all of you out of despair, and please post back whenever you feel like it, we all care here!
There is an urgent Prayer request,A 5 year old Woodstock Va., Girl was run over by Her Mothers Truck, She was flown to Fairfax Hosp. in critical condition...Her Mother Has tremendous Guilt for running her over There is an info line for updates of her condition 540-331-7589, There is a fund set up For the medical Bills Kessa Hawkins Fund
John Coleman, Church Treasurer at 142 E. Court Street, Woodstock Va. 22664
Thank you for joining Our small community in lifting Her and her Family to the Lord Such a tragic accident...They will update the phone line in the AM and PM... God Bless all those who read Pray and pass this On! Vik
Dear vik, thank you for posting here for prayers, we all join together to pray for this little girl, her parents and family, that Our Lord will touch this small child and heal her, and give comfort and peace to the parents, especially the mother. They're all in our prayers. Please let us know how she's doing,
Dear Verna,thank you so for thinking of me.I love you so for caring for me.I care so for each person that has posted here.I still read the posts each day.There is so much grief here and i pray for God to help each one.I pray,I talk to my God and i know he will never forsake me but i just can not shake the sadness i feel.I cry so much when i am alone.I keep hearing the first three years are the hardest to get through.I do pray it gets easier to bear.Tomorrow we are going to the cemetary to take spring flowers to put in my babys vase.And make sure it is neat there.Then we are going to the roadside where they have her memorial and put new flowers there.Verna,i still find pennies and i know they are from my angel.Thanks again for all your prayers.You are special to me.Love,Barb
To each and everyone that has posted here since i have.I want you to know that my heart goes out to you all for your losses.I know the pain is so hard to bear and the grief is so strong.I pray that our Father will be with each one of you and give you peace and comfort.Even tho i haven't been posting i have read each one and i have been praying.School is out for spring break and since i will be off work for a week i am going to spend a lot of time with God so i can get myself back on track.Know that i love you all and deeply care for what you are going through.Love,Barb
Dear Vik,I will be praying for this precious child and also for her Mother and family.What a terrible tragedy.I know that the Mother is hurting so much,but she is not to blame,it was an accident.We just have to keep lifting up this family in prayer.God will be with you all,just lean on him.Love,Barb
Dear LOVE2U (Verna):
Thank you so much for your kind words for me and my family. I hope you know how much they mean to me. Sometimes I don't feel as if I should post here because I feel as if my loss is so insignificant compared to the many other parents that do. I just feel drawn to this site. Every day when I get home from work I want to come here to make sure that I haven't missed some other parent in need of prayer for their family.
I know that I have been blessed since my miscarriage. To be honest with you,
I don't even remember exactly when it happened. My daughter Kaitlyn was born March 4, 1999 and my miscarriage was approximately 1 year before that. I remember all of it, but it was very early-stage and I guess my mind just didn't want to record facts.
Thank you for putting Rhonda's family in your prayers. I wish that I had kept in contact more with them and with her fiance, Travis, more often than I do. Sometimes, when I see her dad, I feel guilty about bringing it up. I know when he looks at me he remembers us growing up and all of the "girly" stuff he went to with us. Her father is a wonderful man with a very prominent body shop in our hometown, so I know it is very hard for him to see a lot of the people that grew up with her that still live there. So many of them still do. I pray for him everyday!
I really hope that you realize what a wonderful poet you are. I can't begin to tell you how much I hope that you publish a book of poetry soon. You are so gifted! If they touch other people's hearts as much as they touch mine, then it would be a bestseller!
Love always and remember you and your family are forever in my prayers,
Lord bless you for all of the loss that you have had to bear in your family in such a short amount of time. I can only imagine your pain. Please know that everyone here will pray that you and your family find comfort and peace. The people that post here are wonderful people who truly care about you and want to help you deal with the tragic situation(s) that you are going through.
Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Oh Lord how I pray for this little girl and her family. I just called the hotline to get an update and they said that the feeding tube is a good sign, but the fever could be a sign of infection. Please know that Kessa and her parents, Mike and Shannon, are in my and my family's thoughts and prayers. I have already made out a check to donate for the fund to help out for her expenses.... believe me I know how much this must cost because my son had a minor surgery when he was 5 weeks old that can be no where near what this is going to amount to. But whatever the cost, these parents are going to do whatever it takes to help their child and they have a wonderful (friend or family member) in you to thank for caring so much about them. Please post again to let us know how Kessa and her family are doing.
Dear eudora (Barb):
I just wish I could take away your pain.
Lord bless you and your family for all that you must go through. I pray for you so much, but I know that the hurt you must feel will never subside. Please know that I think of you and your family daily and hope that some comfort comes to you.
Miss Barb, I don't know what you are referring to when you talk about pennies. I either missed that post or do not remember reading it, but earlier when I was posting to Verna, my daughter handed me a penny that was under my computer chair. I honestly know that it was not there before because me and my husband are so careful about that with a 3 year old and a 9 month old. They think everything is candy right now. I didn't think anything about it until I read your post to Verna. Now I am sitting here typing to you and knowing that I have been given some sign. I don't even bring my purse into this room. I will forever leave this penny on the computer desk to remind me that I found this site for a reason and that the people that I have met here are an inspiration to me for all that they have had to deal with. You have touched my life in so many ways!
Dear Hothoosiers~(Tammy)~As I read your post to me, my eyes filled up with tears. :) Then, I read your post to Vik , and eudora,(Barb)
that was when I felt the anointing. Thatís what my daughter Cheryl calls it when you feel a kind of chill
in the upper arms and chest. :) I can only imagine what emotions your post will cause eudora to feel!
You see, that penny that you mentioned, is one of the signs that Carol sends to comfort her ( Moma) when
she is having a valley day. :) Moma; thatís the way eudora says Carol always spelled Mama. :) Thatís the
way my Cheryl spelled it in an email to me, just a few days after I read eudoraís comments at her Carolís
memorial site. Something wonderful is going on in this prayer circle! :) God bless you and your precious
little girl! :) God is already using her to do His work! :) Please give her a big
((((( HUG))))) for me. :) You know, Tammy, that penny, in my opinion, is a sign from God, to let you
know just how important the work is, (that you are doing) to all of the bereaved moms who are carrying
the heavy weight of their cross of losing a child. Not many people would take the time to show the kind
of compassion that you have shown to all who post here, as well as those who have yet to find our
wonderful prayer circle. I will use the words that both you and Sandy used not too long ago in a post to
one of our bereaved moms. That is; I donít believe in accidents. :) That certainly does apply in this case.
I believe eudoraís Carol asked God to placed that penny there for your little girl to find and give to you,
for several reasons. :) First, they both wanted you to send a message to eudora, to let her know that she is
not alone, that she is being prayed for, and that her precious Carol misses her, and wanted to let her know
that she will always love her, and that she is still with her in spirit! Second, God wanted to let you know
that He is the one who placed it on your heart to do the wonderful work that you are doing here in this
prayer circle! I know I speak for all the moms who post here when I say that we treasure your posts more
than you will ever know! Third, and now the tears... :) You are not going to believe this, but, when I
signed on tonight, I signed on to look up your email address, because I had found a poem on line last
night, that reminded me so much of you, and the wonderful work you are doing here, God placed it on my
heart to send it to you. :) Now, just to let you know how God sometimes reveals things that He wants us to
do, let me share this bit of information with you: :) I emailed the author to get permission to share that
poem at our prayer circle here and at the circle that I created in my daughterís memory. The author of
this poem emailed me, giving me permission to share the poem along with instructions concerning giving
due credit. I emailed him a thank you note, and made a copy of the poem so that I could share it with our
prayer circle. But, I wanted to send the poem to you first, from that site, (because itís such a beautiful
site) along with a note to let you know that the poem reminded me of YOU!!! :) Thatís when I
remembered I needed to go on line to get your email address. Once on line, I began reading the post that
had been submitted since I last posted. After reading your posts, THERE IS NO DOUBT IN MY MIND,
:) THAT ALL OF THESE LITTLE LINKS, (AS I LIKE TO THINK OF REVELATIONS FROM GOD)
WERE, FROM GOD! :) In addition to the poem, I will fwd. the emails-- to, and from the author of the
poem, so that you can check the times and dates. :) Now, you can see why I am always saying, ďIsnít God
wonderful!Ē And, for the record, thatís not a question,-- Itís a FACT! :) Once you read the poem, I pray
you will never again have a doubt about just how much we need your post and also how pleased God is
with the work you are doing! :) Yes, God really is soooo wonderful! :)I will email you in a few! :)
LOVE2U & Family,
Hothoosiers~(Tammy)~ I forgot to thank you for your encouraging words about the poems that I share from time to time. As you know, they are given to me by God, and they come straight from my heart. :) Hopefully, I will have them published soon!
And, a comment about your dear sister-friend's father; even if it's still too emotional for you to share your feelings on how much you still miss Rhonda, I would like to suggest that you might send a thinking of you card to the family, telling them in your own words just how much you still miss and love your sister-friend. :) Just let them know that you still miss her, too! :) I know for a fact that if one of Diane's friends would share how much they still miss her, even after all this time, I would be most grateful. In fact, one of her best friends saw me in the mall about two years after Diane was killed, and expressed how sorry she was that she had not been over to check on me. She just shook her head and I could tell that she was about to cry, so I just gave her a big hug and told her that I understood, and that I knew how much Diane meant to her. :) You see, we know that others miss our children, but we want them to know that it's really o.k. to let us know! At least, that's my opinion. :) So, pray about it, and if God says do it,...
DO IT! :)
To all the wonderful, kind, and compassionate people who post here, the following poem is the one I
mentioned in my post to Hothoosiers~ (Tammy), in my post to her above. As promised, I am also posting
the email from the author, whom I thank from the bottom of my heart for allowing me to share this
touching poem. :) I think it would be so kind to email the author to let him know just how much we
appreciate this wonderful poem. As Sandy would say, -- It speaks volumes to me! :) I am also posting
the website address where I found this beautiful poem, so that each of you can go there and see the
beautiful way the poem is presented. :) And now, the poem:
~ ~ ~ It Only Takes A Moment ~ ~ ~
It only takes a moment
to reach out to be a friend,
but to the one who needs you --
the memory never ends.
A simple act of kindness
to a person you donít know
may plant a seed of friendship
that for them will always grow.
We sometimes lose perspective
of the difference we can make,
when we care more of our giving
and care less of what we take.
So remember that your actions
may help change a life someday.
Always think about the person
that you meet along your way.
For it only takes a moment
to reach out to be a friend,
but to the one who needs you --
the memory never ends.
c 2000 ~ Tom Krause
All Rights Reserved
Used with permission.
If you like Tomís verses, you will love his new book
ďTOUCHING HEARTS-TEACHING GREATNESSĒ.
Please visit his website at
Positive People Presentations
or you can purchase his book at your major bookstores.
ďThe time is always right to do what is right.Ē
~ Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.
This is a copy of the email giving me permission to share Mr. Krause's poem :)
Subj: Re: It Only Takes A Moment
Date: 3/22/02 2:22:27 PM Central Standard Time
You may use the poem. Please cite author, copyright, and "From, Touching Hearts-Teaching Greatness, pubished by Andrews & McMeel Pulbishing."
And this is the web page:
VERNA CLAY would like you to see this Web page:
It Only Takes A Moment
Click below to see this page and to join the Ishaah mailing list:
To just visit the recommended page, click here:
To all bereaved moms, please know that I am always remember to pray for all who have lost a precious child, and I will catch up on individual post just as soon as I can. :) Just continue to lean on our Father, God, and know that He loves you, and so do I, and all the other moms who post here!
Tammy, don't you ever feel hesitant about posting here, as I told you before, I consider you a great blessing to this Circle, and as you can see, other moms agree! Our Lord led you here Himself, you have a very keen insight about how it must feel to lose a child, and always post so compassionately to everyone here. You are also doing His work for Him! So once again, I'm telling you how blessed we are to have you here, praying for everyone, offering kind, heartfelt words, and letting His light shine through you! They are all so appreciated, and I can feel the love behind them! So, please, continue to post here, you're right at home! God bless you, sweetie,
Dearest Eudora, I know what pain you're in right now, you have your daughter's Anniversary coming up this Friday, and it must be weighing heavily on your heart and mind, as our Shane's 3rd recently did for us. You're absolutely right, the first few years are the hardest, they're spent in shock and disbelief, but gradually reality sets in and then we deal with the next phase of grieving, accepting our child's passing, realizing that it's final. This can be more painful in some ways than the first years, because the numbness that we felt has worn off, and the blow we've been dealt is keenly felt. But it's all part of moving slowly along our Journey of Grief, it's normal and it has a pain of it's own. In time we learn how to live with that sadness, but each of us moves slowly towards that at our own pace. So be kind to yourself this upcoming week, the anxiety over your daughter's 3rd year Anniversary is weighing heavily on your heart as I said. The kind support of friends and family, and all the wonderful people here at this Circle helped us through Shane's Anniversary, and I know that they will help you with Carol's day also. What a beautiful gift, Carol's Anniversary falling on Good Friday! Our Lord overcame the world on that day, giving us all eternal life, so please, hold onto that thought as you think of Carol, you will once day see her again! What a wonderful, comforting thought that is, that one day we will all be reunited once again with our children, never to be parted again!
How blessed you are to be experiencing the phenomena of finding pennies! I can't begin to tell you how many other parents who've lost a child have experienced this unique happening also!
God is SO good to us grieving parents and I give Him thanks and praise for helping to ease a parent's broken heart, through this unique phenomena, so lovingly sent by Him, allowing our child to connect with us again. I know from talking to other parents, how overjoyed they are to find them, and I know you are too! How awesome is our God that we serve! We can't begin to measure His love for us, and He is so good to grieving parents, He knows more than anyone what pain we feel so deeply.
So take heart, eudora, and spend this week with God as you indicated in your post, and know that we will be praying mightily for you here! You will get through the painful day of your Carol's Anniversary. Our Father will see to it!
God bless you, and I know He's holding you especially close to Him right now,
Dear Tammy,I had to get myself together to write to you.The tears were falling and my heart was overflowing with feelings to read of your precious daughter finding that penny.God is so good.He knows just what to do for our hurting hearts.He sent someone so special in my life to help me and comfort me and that is you sweet girl.You don't realize how it blesses my heart to hear from you.God gave you such love and compassion for people.He knew we needed you here.For the sunshine you bring to my life i am grateful.Please don't ever throw away that penny.God put it there for a reason,for you to know you are to be here where you are needed so desperately.Some may think i am crazy about the pennies but i don't care.I know when i am so down i don't think i can go on,i will find one and i know it is Carol saying,"it's ok Moma i will always be with you,i love you and i want you to be happy.We will be together again one day." I always feel things she says to me.Sometimes when the wind blows gently against my face,that is a kiss from my girl.That is just the way i feel.Like Verna said,something wonderful is going on in this prayer circle.I am glad i am part of it.I love you,Tammy and your sweet family.I am so proud you have two beautiful children.They are such precious gifts from God.Love,Barb
Dear Verna,thank you for explaining to Tammy about the penny.You are so right about it being a sign from God to her.How very proud her mother must be to have such a kind caring daughter just like we used to have and still have in our hearts because those memories of our girls will never leave us.And you,you are such a blessing here and to me.Your words of comfort just when it is needed and those beautiful poems are so dear to me.It touched my heart what you said about Carol and i do believe God placed that penny to be found by Tammys daughter.Verna i am not real good about putting down in writing the way i feel but if i touch just one person with something i say then i know my God has used me and for that i am thankful.He is so precious to me.My heart is full to think of what he brought me from and what he brought me through.I would not have made it without him and i know he brought us all here to be there for each other.He is an awesome God.I love you.Barb
Dear Sandy,I just read your post and some of the things you said hit home.Maybe i am coming out of the shock of losing my Carol because i have come to realize it is final.She is not coming back and before it was like a dream i thought i would wake up from.But its not a dream and i have to go on without her.And you know that is the toughest thing we have to face.Going on without our kids.It is so painful.You have also been in my prayers.I know what you just went through and i prayed for peace for you.I hope you are doing better.I am grateful for the support of family and friends and the wonderful people here.Sandy,what you said a while back,something about this prayer circle still going on.Well it is because of you.God sent you to us.He knew we all needed help to cope with all these overwhelming feelings,someone to talk to.Someone that had been through what we had and knew the grief and felt the same pain.Someone with a heart for people and a love for our Lord.I thank him for you.I pray this circle just keeps going.Even if i don't post i will read and it will keep my heart tender.I know my daughter and Shane and Diane and all the other children are so happy for their parents to have found each other.My heart fills up thinking of all those precious kids up in Heaven holding us a spot.God loves them all so much.He will care for them til we can see them again.I went to the cemetery today and by the roadside.The flowers we put out are so beautiful.I also put my baby a little Easter bunny out there.She probably smiled when she seen me do that.Carols third anniversary is April 2nd but for some reason i had to go there today.I just could not wait.Well Sandy i better get off here and fix something to eat.Take care and God bless.I am so thankful for all your prayers and love.I love you,Barb