Prayer Circles

My s/o's son tragically was killed in an auto accident on 7/2/09. There is bitterness with his son's mother and grief is very overwhelming. I am there for him but he refuses to open up to me with his feelings. I know he hurts but I don't know what to do to make anything better except to be here. I don't think he realizes how much this has hurt me too. I'm not trying to be selfish in my own grief, I'm trying to understand his. I'm sorry for all of your losses, and may time heal your heart one day at a time. ... I thank you for allowing me to express my thoughts.

Lord, Father God, We call upon Your Holy and Righteous Name for our brothers and sisters who have buried their children. Give them peace, as only YOU can, give them strength to go on, give them YOUR never ending love and compassion. Strengthen their faith even now as they have unanswered questions just knowing that YOU are the ONE TRUE GOD and let them know that through their sorrow, YOU are still in control, YOU are still good and YOU do not make mistakes. Although we may never understand the why of it all, continue to bless and keep them and help them to know that those of us who are praying for them are standing in the gap for them. Thank YOU, GOD for never leaving us alone. Thank YOU for YOUR PRECIOUS SON, OUR LORD AND SAVIOR, JESUS CHRIST. Thank YOU for the blood HE shed for us on Calvary. Thank YOU for the promises in YOUR WORD and we know that we WILL see our loved ones again one day!!! Forgive us, LORD of our sins. Cleanse us from all unrighteousness. We love YOU, LORD, because YOU first loved us...we worship YOU LORD because YOU are so worthy...we praise YOU LORD for all that YOU have done, are doing and will continue to do for us. Thank YOU for seeing beyond our faults and supplying all of our needs. We know that if YOU never blessed us another day, YOU'VE already blessed us enough. It's in the matchless name of JESUS CHRIST OUR LORD AND SAVIOR that we do pray!! AMEN

parents, don't worry, don't stress, god, heavenly and almighty will surely take care of all your children, for the ones who've passed on suffer anymore.... god is taking care of them, and they are happy and smiling and watching over you erach and every day!!!!!! they love you and so does god so keep yor faith, hold on, and mostly stay strong!!!!!!! i love you as well, and my heart goes out to you.... i give you a candle image as a symbol of my love, and prayers to you.

Verna (love2u): Diane Aug. 31, 1996 (HD)


SPECIAL DATES LIST FOR SEPTEMBER:
Joyce (Alpal) Allen Sept 1, 2007 (HD)
Connie (connienevada): Derrick Sept 2 (BD)
Phyllis (prayerbunny): Rhonda Sept 3, 2005 (HD)
(kejowise): CHAUNCEY Sept 4, 05 (HD)
Sarah kay (lktigergirl9406) Gabriella Hope- September 4th 2006 (BD)
(najadaki1952) Lawrence Lane September 6, 2007 (HD)
(trisha99) Garrett Sept 20, 1979 (BD), 1999 (HD)
Chris (smile713): Stephanie-Sept 24, 1982 (BD)
Chris (smile713): Stephanie-Sept 25, 2003 (HD)
Lisa: Aaron Sept. 26, 2002 (HD)
Alexandra (miss4mary): Kristian Sept 29, 2003 (HD)
Phyllis (prayerbunny): Nikki Sept 29, 2005 (HD)

love to all Chris

Lord be let all who have lost a child know you are beside them. This is one of those things in life that is very difficult to understand. Help each one of them to trust in you Lord. Comfort them in there time of grief. Reassure them that before their kids where theirs they belong to you Lord, and you will take care of them. Lord give them piece Lord. Help their family Lord to understand just how to be of support to them Lord In Jesus name AMEN

Verna (love2u): Diane Aug. 31, 1996 (HD)
Thinking of you today! Chris

Good Morning Angel Moms. I thank you Chris, and all other Angel Moms for the prayers and for remembering me and all Angel Moms on their special dates. Right now, I am in ANGRY, in tears, and wheezing up a storm!!! I have been sitting here trying to sign in since around 5 AM. It is now 8 AM here in Louisiana. I do not understand WHY BELIEFNET MAKES IS SO DIFFICULT TO SIGN INTO THIS PRAYER CIRCLE!!!! IT IS ALWAYS DIFFICULT TO SIGN IN NO MATTER WHAT I DO OR HOW MANY TIMES I TRY! PLEASE EVERYONE ... CONTINUE TO PRAY FOR ME BECAUSE I REALLY DO NEED YOUR SUPPORT AND PRAYERS! I AM SOOO SORRY ... MY INTENTIONS WERE TO COME HERE IN A BETTER MOOD BUT THIS SIGNING IN PROBLEM HAS REALLY MADE THAT DIFFICULT! I HAVE A SPEAKING ASSIGNMENT THIS MORNING [ON DEALING WITH GRIEF] AT 10 AM, AT WHICH I Had intended to tell everyone about this GREAT PRAYER CIRCLE. I GUESS I HAD BETTER WARN THEM THAT THOUGH IT IS THE BEST PRAYER CIRCLE FOR PRAYING FOR ALL WHO HAVE LOST A BELOVED CHILD ... THE SIGNING IN IS DIFFICULT.

WHILE TRYING TO SIGN IN,THEY MADE ME TRY SO MANY NEW USERNAMES AND PASSWORDS, IT'S NO TELLING WHAT WILL SHOW UP WHEN I CLICK ON SUBMIT. SO FOR THE RECORD, MY NAME IS VERNA CLAY, AND I'VE LOST BOTH MY ADULT DAUGHTERS - THOUGH YEARS APART. MY FORMER USERNAMES WERE: LOVE2U, MISSV OR MISSVCLAY, AND LOVE2YOUFOREVR.
LOVE AND PRAYERS,
VERNA
MOTHER OF 2 ANGELS
HEAVENLY DATES:
DIANE: 8/31/96
CHERYL: 3/13/09
FOREVER IN OUR HEARTS!

Part One of a VCLAY Rambler …

Hello dear Angel Moms and hopefully Angel Dads who may come here to read. I know from my own personal experiences that most - not all - Angel Dads seldom find it necessary to share their feelings of loss grief and healing with anyone. and as sad as it makes me, I do understand and respect the rights of all Angel Dads to express or not express their grief in their own way and in their own time. Having lost both my adult daughters now, this husband of mine whom I have been married to for the past 49 years is reacting in pretty much the same way as when we lost our oldest daughter our first born on Aug. 31, 1996, at age 36. If it had not been for the help I received from God, the Holy Spirit, all the Angel Moms here who prayed for me and with me; other family members and friends and some strangers I met along the way who had walked in my shoes so to speak ... I KNOW I would not have made it this far. Then after years of praying for others both here in this wonderful and loving prayer circle and for angel moms/dads all over the world; doing volunteer with MADD-Mothers Against Drunk Driving; joining up with DUI-LA; ... having survived double by-pass heart surgery; while in the hospital suffering with a condition known as COPD ... I stood watching from my hospital room on the 5th floor as an ambulance turned into the ER area right beneath my window! I simply said, "Lord, have mercy on the victim!" I would learn a few days later that was the driver of the 18 wheeler that had been involved in the crash in which my Rue - my baby- girl was killed! “Lord have mercy on me”!

I began to worry and wonder why my baby daughter my Rue]:) Cheryl, had not arrived yet with the pajamas I had requested that she bring or send by her daddy. In the meantime, her daddy was waiting in the parking lot at ROSS; the store where she was a front area manager - to give her the money to purchase the pajamas I had requested. He was worried because she had not arrived and not contacted him by phone and he did not get an answer when he tried to contact her on her cell phone. He had checked the parking lot for her car, but no Cheryl. He felt something was wrong. He then called her husband, James. James had not heard from her and also had not gotten an answer when he tried calling her cell. James was at work, so David told him he would first check in the store with the head manager. If he had not heard from her, he was going to check the route she traveled to see if maybe she had car trouble. After checking inside with the store manager and finding out she had not called ... he then headed out to see what the problem was; because this was so unlike Cheryl not to check-in with us on a daily basis. He checked the route she normally traveled from home to work. As he approached the intersection to turn into the neighborhood where they lived, he noticed a crew cleaning up an area where there appeared to have been a bad accident. "Lord, have mercy on me!" I must go take my “Holy Spirit ride now!: Part 2 will follow …
Love2youforever,
Verna
Mother of 2 Angels now ...
Diane - 8/31/96
Cheryl - 3/13/09
Thanks to all for the much needed prayers! Praying for all who have lost a beloved child or children. - Verna
Also - Thanks to Beliefnet for making it easy for me to submit this post today! :) I must have done something right for a change! :)

Part Two: As he turned on to the street where Cheryl and James lived, he saw a police car parked in the driveway or in front of the house [I can't remember which.] When David parked his truck and got out, the police officer asked who he was and asked for identification. The officer then asked if he knew Cheryl Williams. David answered, "Yes, she's my daughter." That is when the officer paused, then said, "I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but your daughter was involved is an accident and she didn't make it." WHEW! God willing, part 3 will follow. :(

Part 3 - My husband is a retired military man; Army, Korean Conflict Veteran who has never once talked about or shared his inner most feelings about anything. So I knew I was taking a huge chance to question him further about how he responded after being told that our baby girl had been taken from us in suddenly and tragically; the same as our first born Diane; no chance to say good-bye! But I asked anyway. His response [as tears swelled up in his eyes was; "Verna Rae, when that man said that, felt like shooting myself. I just said GDI ... GDI, over and over as the police kept telling me how sorry he was ... Then, I finally went in the back yard and tried to catch my breath and just breathe again and then ... I thought about you. I didn't want anyone else telling you about what had happened because that was my job, my responsibility." ... And, what a responsibility he had on his hand!!! :(
Lord have mercy on me! :( Grandson Steven and James just walked in so part 4 will follow later as time permits. This is therapy for me to share what happened as a result of my baby girl's demise. It is all a part of part 2 of the book that I hope to have published any day now. Since tomorrow is not promised, I've decided to go ahead and included part 2 of Chain Reaction in the manuscript I've already finished. BTY, I have already made it clear and made my grandson and son-in-law to promise to see that my book gets published someday just in case God calls my name before I get finished with everything. As always, Love2youforever, my dear sisters :)
You are all in my thoughts and prayers!

This post is to Joyce, Connie, Phyllis, Chauncey, and Sara: I just wanted to let each of you know that you were in my thoughts and prayers throughout your special days. I know the same is true of the other angel moms even if they were not able to sign in and tell you so. I know for a fact that our love and prayers and compassion for each other goes on 24/7. Once you’ve walked in our shoes God does not allow us to forget those who walk with us, behind us, or [God forbid] may walk with us sometime in the future. In the name of our Father, I pray for all who have lost a beloved child and in some cases more than one child. May God give you His peace that passes all understanding! May it always help to know … You will NEVER WALK ALONE!
Love2youforever,
Verna & All Angel Moms who continue having problems signing in and submitting prayer post here. I am typing this in MS Works, so I hope this copy/paste gets through

Part 4 - I still don't remember James version of where, when, and how he found out, but will share once it comes back to me. I do recall Steven telling me that James, David, and their Pastor, Dr. Rick Laton came to Parkway High School to tell him the sad news and then check him out. Next on the list of persons to be informed ... WHEW!!! :(
lOVE2YOUFOREVER!

Part 5 - Thank you for allowing me to share - it takes a little of the sting out of my grief and sorrow! The minute they walked into my hospital room without Cheryl [my Rue}... I knew she was gone. So I asked that we have a family hug and pray. We did. Then after telling me to sit down, I asked where is Cheryl? No answer, just blurred vision. That is when I leaned over looked towards the door and said, "Cheryl's gone isn't she?" No words. Just quietness and a hand raised towards the ceiling.
I ask that you please keep our entire family in your prayers!
Love2youforever,
Verna

God be with your family Verna! I'm glad your sharing, it helps me feel your pain.

A while back I had you all pray for my friend. Her son was very sick. Well he is better. But now I ask you to pray hard for his grandfather. He is dying from cancer. It is progressing pretty fast. Please pray that he goes fast and without any pain. He had a very good life . There wedding ann is Sept 8th, 53 years. God bless their family may they have closure. Chris

Thanks Chris, We really need Him now. Hubby is recovering from a fractured rib. He had a wreck a week or so ago in his truck. I spent Diane's HD in the ER with him, but I think he will be okay. When satan is on the attack, nothing helps like prayer. I will pray as you requested above for your friends grandfather and the whole family. It is good that God blessed him with a very good life. I will also pray that their anniversary is peaceful and free of pain and that God gives them closure in the days, weeks, months ahead and that the family will remember all the fond memories they shared.
God's peace and blessings,
Verna

najadaki1952) Lawrence Lane September 6, 2007 (HD)- Sorry I could not get here to post on yesterday but I thought of you and said a special prayer.
God's peace and Blessings,
Verna

najadaki1952) Lawrence Lane September 6, 2007 (HD)-
I see I was almost a minute late submitting my post above. Sorry!

Need all your prayers for my son. He died in a tragic car accident on the 4th of july 2009. He was going to get his son some fireworks and never came back. The whole family are so defastated that with everyones prayer will get us through this..

Need all your prayers for my son. He died in a tragic car accident on the 4th of july 2009. He was going to get his son some fireworks and never came back. The whole family are so defastated that with everyones prayer will get us through this..

Well good night or morning everyone. I just lost a post I'd been working on for hours. usually I type in MN Works and copy paste; which was what I was trying to do but I made the mistake of deleting the parts that I pasted below.

then when I clicked on submit, it did not take and something happened like another post like the one above was submitted instead. So sorry, because I worked really hard trying to give good advice to our 2 angel moms who posted about their losses that happened in July of this year. I will still try to submit the last part but it probably won't make much sense. I mean I had typed one of my vclay ramblers Sandy; just like you told me in an email you :)
did and lost. Love and heartfelt prayers to all' especially our newly bereaved.
Verna

Here's the last part angel moms who posted about losses in July of 2009 ... :( Since the last part of my post took me to a new page, I was afraid I'd lose this if I clicked back to check your user names.
That and all the prayers that are being prayed for me is what gives me the strength to keep going even when I feel like giving up. For a while I couldn't pray because I was so very angry! The same thing happened this time; only more so because I felt I had paid my dues! But the prayers of others have continued to go up to God and those heartfelt prayers have helped me tremendously! With most of my anger out of the way for now, I can pray and ask God for help in dealing with losing both of my children. We only had these two daughters. I have a wonderful step-daughter who lives in Texas, and some step grand cuties; but for hubby and I our two beautiful, kind hearted and compassionate talented and God fearing daughters are gone forever. A part of Cheryl lives on in her son Steven she left behind. However, they both will live on in our hearts forever until they greet us at heavens door! :) Please know I will keep both of you and your families in my thoughts which places you in my heartfelt prayers!
Love and Prayers,
Miss V.
Mother of 2 Angels
Heavenly Dates:
Cheryl 03/13/2009
Diane 08/31/1996
Forever In Our Hearts!


If either of you ever want to vent or ask me some personal questions please don’t hesitate to send me an
Email: rae52441@yahoo.com

To the newcommers, I pray for your grief as it will very hard (to say the least) for the first year, and all the first's (like first Christmas without your loved one, first birthday, ect) You will make it through to the years following with god's help. It's the only way many of us make it through day to day. God bless you. Chris