Prayer Circles

Hello skptmp, my heart goes out to you as I read your post! I'm so sorry you lost your son, and of course you still grieve for your little one. Men and women do grieve differently, but abuse is not one of the ways! I beg you to get some help, talk to your Pastor, Minister, etc., your friends, your family, and even a Counsellor. No one should have to put up with verbal, emotional, or PYSICAL abuse!! I pray you reach out and get the help you and your children need, and that your husband also gets some help. We will definitely pray for you, please post back and let us know how things are going, our thoughts and prayers are with you,
Luv Sandy

SKPTMP~I just finished reading your post. I had just signed on to post prayers and comments that I worked on last night. After reading your post, I just had to stop and post this very minute. First let me say how sorry I am that you lost your precious baby son. That alone is enough to make my heart go out to you. But for you to be abused in addition to that is almost too much for me to bear. My eyes are filled with tears. And I have already contacted God with heartfelt prayers for you and what you are going through. Sweetheart, please, please seek professional help immediately! I am no expert; just a 60 year old bereaved mom. But I know enough to tell you that you don't deserve to be abused by anyone!!! let alone someone who is supposed to love and protect you! And I am sure that you will hear from others who may be able to advise you on what steps you need to take. Right now, I may not be the best person, because I am angry! Just the thought of any human being being treated is such a manner shatters my heart. I hope you seek professional advise and I hope you do it soon. And, if possible, try to remove yourself from that invironment immediately! No one; I mean no one, should put up with that type of treatment! Please know that all who post here will storm heaven with prayers for you! I pray that God will send you a guardian angel to watch over you! May God wrap His loving arms around you and keep you in His care!
Prayerfully yours,
Verna

maggierose4 (Joni)~I just wanted to let you know grateful I am that God chose you to help me rid myself of a lot of unacknowledged grief and pain. So, please don’t feel bad about the sad memories your post brought to mind. Your first and second posts helped me to take my own advice and acknowledge the grief. After I did, I felt sooo much better. Then, I could hardly wait for the chance to move on again, doing what I enjoy doing the most. I love praying for others just as I know others love praying for me and others. God bless you! God is already using you to help me as well as all the other bereaved moms, and also many others who have not lost a child but post prayers for those who have. I want you to know that I thank God for leading you to our wonderful and loving prayer circle. You are a very special blessing to us
all! May God bless you, and provide you and your family with moments of peace today, and in the days ahead.
Much Love,
Verna

shaner~ Hi Sandy, Thank you for always being there for all of us. I feel so much better now that I have
acknowledge some unexpressed grief. I must say it again, those of us who post here are all spiritually connected. :) There is so much love on these pages and that’s a blessing to all, even as we grieve our own losses. The book, and the book of poetry are coming along fine. I still have much work to do on both, but I will not stop until both are finished.:) Thank you again, Sandy, for your encouraging words and for giving us this wonderful prayer circle. I know I speak for all who post here when I say I feel drawn to this very special prayer circle; to pray for others, and I appreciate the prayers that are prayed for me. For, we
all need them. And, as always You and your family are in my thoughts, which places you in my prayers.
Love,
Verna

pun82224~ I was so touched by your post on 2/26/02. I wanted so badly to post back to you that night, but I got so emotional after reading all of the back posts I decided to wait until I could post without tears. :) First, let me say how sorry I am about the loss of your precious son, Kevin. Like the other moms who post here, I can relate to what it feels like to lose a child. I also agree with what hothoosiers (Tammy) said in her heartfelt post to you; God must have had a hand in you posting on your son’s anniversary date. I know from experience that it had to be a most difficult day for you, as all special days are when it comes
to our deceased children. But God knew what you were going through, so He led you to this very special prayer circle, so that you could receive all the love and support that He knew would be given to you because you are His child; just like the rest of us, and He loves you just that much! That’s just how God
works; He may not always supply our wants, but He always supplies our needs! The poem that you shared was simply beautiful and so touching! I know it touched others because it describes the kind of undying love that mothers will always have for their departed children. So, thank you so much for sharing it and for your prayers. Please know that we welcome you with open arms, and you will be prayed for here. I pray that God will give you moments of peace that only He can provide; today, as well as in the days
ahead.
Love,
Verna

pun82224
Woops! I missed clicking on the image for your post! :)So here it is!

hothoosiers (Tammy)~ Thank you so much for your kind words. I thank God for directing you to our prayer circle. Make no mistake about it, God sent you to us. :) As pointed out so vividly in the poem “Don’t Turn Away” that Sandy posted not long ago, many times it saddens us when friends and sometimes family members don’t seem to know how to acknowledge our needs as grieving parents. It’s as though they think we expect them to take away grief. Some act as though they are doing us a great service by not mentioning our children’s names or recalling fond memories of our children. And, in some cases,close family and friends don’t even acknowledge those special days that we speak of from time to time. If
they only knew how much that hurts! Every time I read one of your compassionate post; and I believe I
have read them all, unless I missed some of your posts at memorial sites, I always smile and thank God for sending you to us. I see it as a special calling that God has assigned to you, to help take away the pain we sometimes feel when others unknowingly seem to ignore that such a need exists. Your words are not only filled with sincere compassion, they are also filled with such wisdom! Every time I read your post to plapfm, I feel so much compassion, and I pray even harder for her. I believe in the power of prayer! I was sorry to read about your miscarriage, but grateful that God has since given you two precious children.
Even your precious little girl has brought tears to my eyes by her show of compassion for others. :) I was
so inspired by her comments until I have begun lighting a very special candle, every morning and every
night, as I pray for moments of peace for all of us; as well as remembering to pray for peace on earth. So, give yourself and your little girl and the rest of your family a (((((BIG HUG))))) for me. :) It just goes to show that we never know how our words and/or actions may affect others. :) I’m going to try not to write a book to you; :) (I knew it was going to be difficult to keep this one short, because it’s long overdue! :) I
wanted to let you know just how much I appreciate the overall contributions you have made to our prayer circle. Again, I appreciate all of your kind comments about the prayers, poems, and other thoughts I sometime post; especially my favorite: “Isn’t God wonderful!” :) It feels good to know that God is using me to bless others even as I am blessed by Him through all who pray for me. Please keep sharing your compassionate posts with all the bereaved moms! Only the Lord knows just how much they are needed! God bless you and your sweet little family!
Love,
Verna

Good Morning Lord! : )

Oh how I thank You for this day! Thank You for family and friends. And, as always, thank You for using each of us in Your service, as we pray for each other. And, thank You precious Father for revealing to each of us that the best things in life really are free! Lord, had I known this during the morning of my life, I wouldn’t have wasted so much time! :) Oh, I know You have forgiven me, because You told me so
in Your Holy Word. :) And, I thank You for that. But, I just wanted to let You know how grateful I am that You decided to use me in Your service in spite of all the time I wasted, as well as all the mistakes I made. Maybe the wasted time and mistakes I made were learning experiences to get me to where I am today; in Your service. :) You know Lord, sometimes I still find it hard to believe that You would choose
to use me in Your service in spite of all my faults, but I thank You for using me anyway! I love You, Lord! And I love reading what Your Word teaches us about the power of love! Lord, I believe I found it in 1 Corinthians...Yes, that’s it. I have my bible right in front of me now...

1 Corinthians Chapter 13: 1-13 says:

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing. Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether
there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part
and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away. When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known. And now abide faith, hope, love, these
three; but the greatest of these is love.

LOVE2U, Lord,
& LOVE2 All!

At the ripe, young age of 16, the good Lord called my son to heaven. There is no other loss in the world worse than your child leaving this world before you. My heart goes out to all Mothers and Fathers that lose their children before their time. My son accidentally took his life with a gunshot to the eye, which shredded his brai. He was an organ donor and with his beautiful body, there were 5 lives spared, so something good did come out of it, thank God. Lord, let him be at peace in your kingdom, waiting for his family. I have my own personal guardian angel. Rest in peace Jeremy, my baby. 1979-1995. Love, Mom

Dear skptmp:
I sincerely hope that you listen to the other posts hear urging you to get the help that you so desperately need and deserve. No one should have to deal with the pain (physical and emotional) that you have dealt with. Your husband is deeply hurting as well, but that is no excuse to take it out on you.
I am so sorry that you have lost your child prematurely. I will definately pray for you and your entire family. Please though, don't allow this abuse to continue. You must talk to your clergy member or the police soon.
Love always,
Tammy Cooper
jaycee5@bellsouth.net

Dearest LOVE2U (Verna):
Thank you so much for your kind words.
I so much enjoy reading your posts. As I said before, you are so gifted.
God bless you and your family! I am honored to be able to communicate with you. You have brought so much peace, comfort, and advice to me that I need and appreciate.
Love always,
Tammy Cooper
jaycee5@bellsouth.net

Dear Jeremy_T16:
I am so sorry for the loss of your 16 year old son. Please know that I will pray that you and your family find comfort. I believe that your son is most definately in heaven and that he is an Angel!! Look at the lives that he was able to save....
God bless you and your family and I am so glad that you found this site. It brings such comfort to so many of us.
Love always,
Tammy Cooper
jaycee5@bellsouth.net

Dearest Tammy,I am so happy that i had a part in turning your life in a new direction.And i am very grateful to God that you have not had a loss in your family.We need you at this site.You have such a heart for people.I also love you.Your very special.I am sorry i haven't been posting and i am so sorry for the loss of all the new people that have posted since i have been here.I've just been down in the valley.Carol's anniversary is coming up and it is so heavy on my mind.As i said at her memorial my daughter died on Good Friday.It was such a terrible day for Jesus and a heartbreaking one for me.But now Jesus is alive and i try to think that if she can't be with me,i am happy she is with him.He took her earlier than i wanted.I know i am selfish because i keep hearing she is in a better place and i know she is but that doesn't keep me from wanting her.I am sorry,i don't think i am making much sense so i will close.I love everyone here and please know my prayers are with you all.Love,Barb

Dear Carol (eudora):
Please don't be sorry for being down. All who post here know that everyone will have their "valley" days. I cannot imagine going through the pain that you do and not having them. This just means that you need an extra prayer and I will most surely do that.
You must take care of yourself and cry if you need to cry, break something if you need to break it, and most definately pray when you need to pray. We are all here for you when you need us.
I love you dearly and will be thinking and praying for you!
Love always,
Tammy Cooper
jaycee5@bellsouth.net

P.S. I decided to start a memorial for one of my best friends that I lost to a car accident during college. This happened in 1991, so it has been a while, but she was a dear friend to me and the inspiration came from all of you. Please visit if you like. I am going to add pictures later (I have to ask my husband how because I am ignorant when it comes to computer stuff). Thank you all again for everything.

oh gosh Barb, I am so sorry! I just read my post and realized that I addressed it to Carol. Please accept my apology. I didn't mean to do that.
Tammy

Again I do not know what is wrong with me! I guess you cannot visit a memorial unless you have the name of the person. Her name is Rhonda Wells. I have a lot on my mind and am not thinking straight. Sorry
Tammy Cooper
jaycee5@bellsouth.net

Hello Jeremy_T16, I'm so very sorry to read about the loss of your son, Jeremy.
You're so right, there is no pain in this world that can compare to a parent losing one of their beloved children. That was so wonderful of you to do; donate Jeremy's organs so that others may have life or sight! Imagine, five other people benefitted by your selfless love -filled act! Yes, now you have your own special Angel in heaven, watching over his loving family until one day when you'll all be re-united again. Thank you for your prayers, and ours certainly go out to you, May God bless you and your family,
Luv Sandy

Dearest Barb, (eudora), I know somewhat of what you're experiencing, Shane's Anniversary is next week, and I can feel the anxiety building up already. Every Anniversary relives for us that last day with them. It plays in my mind like a movie reel, in real time. I can still 'see' Shane coming down the hallway, sitting on the couch, watching his beloved music station, listening for his favourite songs. He's everywhere in this apartment, and here is where he passed away. So I know the feelings you're having over your own daughter's Anniversary coming up. Together we'll make it through those rough days ahead. You're in my prayers,
Luv Sandy

Dear Tammy,Thank you so much for your support and your prayers.I sure need them.It helps me when i come here to know that i am cared for,i can always feel the love here.It's okay that you called me Carol.Honest mistake.And i will check out your friends site.God bless you.Love,Barb

Dear Sandy,Bless your heart.I know that you know how i feel.We lost our children so close to the same time.For someone that has not lost a child the feelings are indescribable.What you wrote about your precious Shane,seeing him in your mind,it just made me cry.Why does it have to hurt so bad?But i can also see Carol like that.She was the happiest in the kitchen.Could that child cook.I taught her when she was younger but she could out cook her Moma any day.Everyone loved to come to eat at her house.My family misses that.What i miss most is her touch.Just to feel her arms around me saying,I love you Moma would be so wonderful but i know its not to be,not yet.I still thank God for this prayer circle.Before i had to keep these feelings inside,i had no one to talk to.But now i have my friends here and that is priceless.My prayers are also with you,Sandy.I know Shane was such a special young man.I can see that in you.Love,Barb

Hi Barb, (eudora), I guess it's a tough time for us both right now, isn't it. Oh boy yes, what I wouldn't give to feel Shane's arms around me again, hugging me, or feel his lips on my cheek, giving me one of his kisses, wow, we know that they're enjoying their heavenly reward, but it doesn't stop us from missing them physically and their upcoming Anniversaries just drives it home for us that much harder.
I'm so happy that you found this Prayer Circle too, Barb, yes, you can say what's in your heart here and be understood and accepted and loved.
I bet you miss Carol's cooking, when you make her recipes now, I know it's just not the same, but it brings a happy memory of her to your mind, and we have to hang onto those happy memories! Love to you Barb and may God bless you also,
Luv Sandy

Dear Eudora,~When I first saw your post, at Dianes memorial site, my eyes filled up with tears. I was feeling so very sad because of what I know both you and shaner are going through; and to
think that you would take the time to post such a compassionate letter to my Diane, I just had to take a chance and not worry about misspelled words, (and boy did I make some)! :) I just wanted
to let you know then and there just how much I appreciate your thoughtfulness! Barb, you are a very special lady, and I know that your Carol and my Diane are looking out for us, and asking our
Lord and Savior to help us make it through these painful periods. Sometimes, like during one of those special days, I don't feel that I want to go on for even one more day! Then, just as it says in the poem, Chain Reaction, God picks me up and makes me strong, and uses me to help someone who just can't bear their cross alone, when to life's trials they see no end, I say to them,...I'll be your friend!:) And, that is exactly what God wants us to do (in time) for others who are hurting! :) So thank you again, my dear friend. And, please know that I will be here for you to help you make it through the valley days. I will always remember to pray for you and ask God to
provide those precious moments of peace that we so desperately need; especially during the special days. Thanks again, Barb, for your friendship and love. I am trying to practice writing shorter posts :), so I am doing a cut and paste from a longer one that I will leave at Carol’s memorial site. At least, that is what I hope I am about to do! :) I still have a lot to learn about the computer! :)
Love2u
Verna
vclay100@aol.com

Dear Father,~Tonight I pray a special prayer for two very special friends; shaner and eudora. Both have special anniversary dates coming up soon. Dear Lord, I ask that You comfort them
during their special days, and help them to recall the good memories; the fun times each of them shared with their precious children for whatever amount of time they shared before You welcomed them back into heaven. Father, help each of them to find moments of joy,even if it's only a few precious moments at a time. I ask that You wrap Your loving arms around them, Lord, and allow each of them; in their mind, to peep inside the heavenly gates, and see their children,... happy and alive forevermore! Thank You, God, for assuring them both, that they will see their precious children; as well as other loved ones and friends again someday, in The Land of Beginning Again! It is in Your Son Jesus' name, that I pray this special prayer
on behalf of all the bereaved Moms and others who post here. :) And, thank You, Father, for answering our prayers! Amen

Thank you Verna, for your wonderful prayer. May God bless you,
Luv Sandy