Prayer Circles

Hi all angel moms and dads today is a better day i am bieng more thankful for the things i have but still having my bad valley days it is so inspirational to see all the love here but i guess that is what are lord wants us to do share something so wonderful i have been praying for you Selva and sending sandy strengh for us all i thank god every day for you Sandy Shaner was so lucky to share his life with you i guess we were all lucky to have our own angels all through life i see all angel moms and dads going through all their own feelings so i never feel out of place i pray ever day for all of us angel parents asking each angel child to protect theor loved ones saome days i feel so possessed with overwhelming feelings of saddness so i take a minute from work to be here sometimes just to visit and not talk but it has been a daily thing even when i am not at work i have asked god to guide me through my trials and i am also thankful for the prayer of the day i pray for all your lonliness and to fill it with memories i also think that is a good thing to write myself a letter from my son i remember the last thing he told me oh mom you know i love you and gave me a big hug the best memory ever i still feel his hug i miss him so much i just sometimes don't know what to think or how just trying to get through like all of you i love all you angel moms and dads for your support and Shaner for making this possible for me to heal Shaner you are certainly an Angel kid sending lots of angel hugs and kisses and prayers daily

I just had the weirdest thoughts, my mind is a bit nuts right now so you can giggle about me :o)

I just thought that if somebody how didn't loose a child would come here and read all the support he or she would get jealous that they 'are missing out'.

I guess I just want to say how happy I am I found you ladies here to share my pain.

God bless,
Love
Sou

Hi dear Lisa, hope you had a terrific, comforting time at Comp. Friends, dear Sou and Miss V gave you good advice on what to write - what you had already written here! We had to do something similar once at the Support Group that I go to, but it was write a letter to your child, and our Bereavement Counsellor had made these beautiful cards with Butterflies on the front, inside was blank, and that's where we wrote. I still have that Card, and it sit's on top of our China Cabinet, reminding me of all the Joy, Love and happiness that Shane brought into my life. So it's good to do these things, write down all the sights, sounds, memories surrounding your child and also writing a letter to your child - you can pour your heart out, putting all your feelings down on paper is a very therapeutic way of beginning to heal, and something to treasure and look back on years from now,
Love & Angel Hugs,
Sandy

Hi our dear Miss V, beautiful prayer for all once again, and I pray that your MADD meeting went well too, you've turned a negative into a positive, with God's help, and i applaud you for your brave efforts and all the good you do!
As our sister Sou said to Lisa, "you go girl", ha, ha!
Much love & Angel Hugs,
Sandy

Hello my dear sister Sou, wow, you check your Circle first thing, and then often during the day? That really warms my heart to hear that, uh-oh, even I don't check it that often, maybe 3 x a day for me! Guess I should smarten up, huh, ha, ha! When you read this in the morning, you may be a little stiff and sore from your night at the Gym, :-) you'll have to tell us how it went. YES, I so agree, quite often I check other Boards here at Beliefnet, not just my own faith one's, but other's also, and there's so much arguing and name-calling, yikes, I would love them to come here and see how much love there is here, you're right, they don't know how blessed we are here, to have such wonderful people at this Circle!
Ah, thank you AngelMom Sou, for your prayers for me, I NEED them too, and i am deeply grateful to you and everyone else who pray's for me too - no better gift could we give someone!!
Well, dear AngelMom's Sou and Lisa, I did share last week how painful it was for me to go through all our Photo Albums for my sister, so I'm just like the rest of you and have my bad valley times too. So *boo hoo*, *sob*, *cry* nobody posted back to me, poor me huh, ha, ha, I'm just kidding, all of you are in the deep pain and grief that I know so well myself, but because it's been longer for me, it is different now, just like Miss V says, a quiet sadness settles in, and we learn how to live with it, which is my prayer for all of you one day too! Well, it's 1am here, time definitely for bed, so my dear sister, God willing, talk to you in the morning!
Much love & Angel Hugs,
Sandy

Hello dear AngelMom Sharon, (pretty bird), I'm so happy to read that today was a better one for you, yesterday was a hard one, and I hope that all our prayers and love helped you to get out of it and be a little more peaceful today! Oh, that's so sweet of you to say my sister Sharon, but I am very lucky and blessed to have had Shane in MY life, he taught me lessons I had to learn, and only brought love, joy and happiness into my life, he was his mother's son, and yes I still miss him and always will, and you dear mother of Benji are so blessed too, and I know that your dear Benji is so proud of his much-loved Mom! No, you'll never feel out of place here at your Circle, everyone experiences the same feelings of pain and grief, and the best thing we can do for each other is what we're already doing, loving, supporting, and praying for another! I think that's a terrific idea dear Sharon, write that letter to Benji, put down your very special and last memory of him, hugging you and telling you he loves you, and you know he still does, even though you can't see him right now. Thank you too for your prayers for all, and you know that you are prayed for daily too, dear AngelMom! Praying for more days of peace in your aching heart, and sending you
Much love, prayers, and lots of Angel Hugs,
Sandy

Hello to all, I spoke with Nancy today, our sister Selva's own sister, and she told me that they brought Selva to the emergency at another hospital in Miami, a different one from where Solange had been brought, they admitted her, the x-rays showed that she has 2 fractures in her Pelvis, and that's why she couldn't walk and was in so much pain! Nancy feels they will keep her in for a few days, and then it's two weeks of complete bed rest at home. I knew all of you would want to know that and keep our dear sister in our Prayers and love,
Sandy

Sweet dreams to all my brothers&Sisters

Iv gotten a chance in the last few days
to really get soom rest and some great times w/ our Lord God, He wants peace & happyness in our lifes. With all that is going on in my life at this time, I needed to slow down and stop to be able to hear His words. Gods kindness and His love are w/ us all at all times.

SO I remind you all to take a step back and listen to His word. Just for a moment,and He will give you His love and fill you with the holy gost, just ask and you shall recive

This is my prayer to all
Angelo

Good morning AngelMoms and Dad,

Sandy, I remember now reading your post with the fotoalbum. Although I didn't post that much last week, I was praying for you when I read it. I just couldn't get myself together to let you know. Last week was really bad for almost all of us, I wonder what was up with that. Probably the full moon?? When I think back now I pray that we never fall that deep again. As for me, it hit me like a slap in the face, I didn't expect to have such a bad day again. But thanks to God, we seem to do a bit better now, even our AngelDad Angelo! :o)
Happy to see you feeling better brother Angelo, I hope you will continue on your path to ultimate healing!

Well, my gym went very well. I swam a few laps (only 6) and then I joined a senior group in aquaerobic, I am about half their age and they still did better than me... hahahaha! I became so stiff within the last year I don't recognize myself, it was about time to get moving again!

We are planning to go again today, I can't wait!


I wish all of you a great day! May God shower us all with his blessings today and make us go a step forward and none backward!

Love
Sou

Hi dear AngelDad Angelo, it's great to see you posting again, we've missed you around here! I'm so happy you're feeling a little better, hope your blood pressure is in a good range now, and you're taking care of yourself. God is comforting you through His Word, His love, His Hand, what an awesome Lord we love and serve, His peace to you too dear Angelo,
Love & Angel Hugs,
Sandy

Good Morning my dear sister, I know, last week was a very difficult one for all, and still continues to be for so many dear Moms, oh, I understand sweetie, you were among those having a terrible time, I was just joking with you and Lisa, :-) and once again, I am very grateful for your Prayers, AngelMom Sou, they're the best gift as I said, I need them (don't we all!) and I'm very blessed to have people praying for me! Oh yes, sometimes the pain will hit out of nowhere it seems, and you experience the 'first days' all over again, but thankfully now they don't last, you got through them, and I pray too that you and all keep moving forward, as slow and as long as it takes everyone.
Sounds like you had a terrific time at the Gym last night, and you enjoyed yourself, that's wonderful! Wow, you did a lot better than I would have, I couldn't swim 6 laps right now, even though we have a swimming pool here, I very seldom use it, so my swimming isn't up to par, :-) and I'd be in the same class as you, aqaurobics for Senior's, ha, ha, so don't feel badly, at least it's a first step for you and in no time you'll be swimming and exercising like the pro's! Tonight when you go, you may just be able to do a little more, if your muscles aren't too sore, :-) You sound so much better this week my sister, and I'm very happy for that, may God continue to pour down His blessings upon you too, and keep you moving forward each day, enjoying more moments of peace in your heart,
Much love, Prayers, & Angel Hugs,
Sandy

Hello regalmap (dear Pam), I went to your beautiful daughter's website, it's a wonderful tribute to her life and your great love for her, you've written about how your loss affected you, and I and so many others can relate to it, thanks so much for posting it here, I know your Heather is very proud of you,
Love & Angel Hugs,
Sandy

Hi Angel Moms & Dads,
My compassionate friends meeting last was very good even though I didn't write a letter I did share a little of what I thought I would put in the letter if I had. Other people read their letters and it was so emotional for everyone. But I think it brought us all a little closer. I was not the only one who didn't write...there were some others. Thanks a bunch for all of yall's support.
Sandy, have you heard from Nancy? I can't get Selva off my mind. Is the bed rest all she will need to heal? Gosh, I bet she is in a lot of pain...poor thing. I am still storming heaven with prayers for her and the rest of us.
Love to all,
Lisa

Hello all angel moms and dads today is beutiful i took my break to be here and it is just a very peaceful feeling just reading the prayer for the day and visiting with all my angel brothers and sisters yes you are right we are family we are all unique in special ways but share all the same pain i am going to go see Benji i have been ignoring the fact to go because it still gets hard i bought him a candy cane and had all family members sign it you would not believe this but the last time i went there it was like he knew i was there i got off my car and i had to walk in because during winter they close the cemetary the first thing i heard was chimes clear across the graves words come out of my mouth Benji you know i am here of all graves there Benji had foot tracks all around his grave and no where else and the snow was undisturbed all around him i did not know what to think i have had exsperiences but have not seen him do you think that they actually come back i would like to know if i am really going to see him before i go to heaven Sister Selva i have been thinking about you lately and asking god to guide you through this time of need in your life and to all my sisters and brothers i am wishing you all a very beautiful day and happy thoughts praying for all our angel family love Sharon Prettybirdluvesu ALL

Sandy and all angel sisters and brothers i am asking for prayers tommarrow is going to be my first day at therapy so wish me well because i feel it might be a tough one asking for strengh

Dear Angelmom Sharon,

What a nice experience you had at Benji's grave! You know, I am muslim and there is an islamic teaching that says that if you visit a grave, the spirit of the person in the grave comes down and stays there until you leave. So that's why we feel their presense when we are at our childrens graves! I love to go to the cemetery, I am longing for Sunday every day and can't wait to go!

I wish you the best at your therapy tomorrow. I had my first last Sunday morning and it was great. I was scared before but she is such a nice lady, I just poured everything out, I talked and talked and she broke it out for me. She assured me that I am normal in my grief and that I am on a good way to healing, God willing. So pour everything out, they are trained and know how to handle it, they don't judge you and cry with you.

Love,
Sou

Dear Angelmom Sharon,

What a nice experience you had at Benji's grave! You know, I am muslim and there is an islamic teaching that says that if you visit a grave, the spirit of the person in the grave comes down and stays there until you leave. So that's why we feel their presense when we are at our childrens graves! I love to go to the cemetery, I am longing for Sunday every day and can't wait to go!

I wish you the best at your therapy tomorrow. I had my first last Sunday morning and it was great. I was scared before but she is such a nice lady, I just poured everything out, I talked and talked and she broke it out for me. She assured me that I am normal in my grief and that I am on a good way to healing, God willing. So pour everything out, they are trained and know how to handle it, they don't judge you and cry with you.

Love,
Sou

Hi dear Lisa, it sound's as though you had a very good sharing with the other Moms at your meeting last night. If you couldn't write it down, then at least you were able to verbalize what was in your heart, and that's important too. I love my Support Group, I know they're not for everybody, but in my group we're always breaking down and crying, whether I'm sharing, or listening to another Mom in great pain.
I know, Lisa, our poor sister Selva, good gosh, she's been through so much, all I know is what I posted today, I'll write Nancy tonight and see if there's any changes,
Much love to you, AngelMom, & Angel Hugs,
Sandy

Hi AngelMom Sharon, prettybird, (I love that username!) I'm so happy for you that today was a beautiful day, yesterday was a difficult one, so you deserve so much to have a very good one! I like the Prayer of the Day too, I get it delivered to my e-mail, and sometimes print them out, so many are beautiful one's, whether they're from my faith or another. I'm very happy that you find it peaceful here, and yes, we are one big family, each of us with our own individual loss, but joined together in love and prayer, united by our loss, and all the emotions we experience together. Oh gosh yes, it must be so hard to visit your child's grave, God love you, but the Candy Cane that all your family signed is so special, and I know it'll look great there, filled with everyone's love for dear Benji, and I also know that he'll love it too! Without a doubt, dear one, I believe you had a profound spiritual moment, a Divine connection with your precious Benji, I have been blessed to have them myself, they are so profound and move you to tears of happiness. Benji was letting you know that he was there, his love for you and God's love for you allowed you to experience it! Some Moms have had 'visitations' from their child, and others haven't, but I believe that they do show us 'signs' to help us with our grief. I had a 'dream' where Shane came to me, it was very real, not like a dream at all, it happened 2 years ago, but to this day I can tell you exactly what it was like, how happy he looked, we hugged, I was so happy to see him, and then we talked, some of the questions I asked him he wouldn't answer, he tilted his head as if to say, I'm not allowed to answer those, but one of the things he did tell me was that he was very busy, and happily so! I'll never forget that 'meeting', it will stay with me the rest of my life! My Bereavement Counsellor, Rita, was fortunate enough to have a vision of her son, she was sleeping, and suddenly awoke, and there was her Gord, shimmering with light, and he had a very peaceful look oh his face. It lasted only a few moments, but it was enough for her, there is really no such thing as death, we shed our bodies, but we still live on. Good for you my sister Sharon, going for Therapy, I agree with what AngelMom Sou said to you, pour everything out, they are trained to deal with this, and I know you'll find a great deal of comfort and help seeing one! Of course we will pray for you, and I ask Our Lord to send you to the right one for you, dear mother of Benji, once you get there and start talking, you'll feel more comfortable.
Much love, prayers, and Angel Hugs,
Sandy

I have a Doctor's appt. in the morning, so I may not be able to post to anyone until around noon, I carry all of you in my heart, love and prayers,
Love Sandy

I want to share one of my favourite Prayers with all of you, it could apply to any faith really;

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love,
Where there is injury, pardon
Where there is doubt, faith,
Where there is despair, hope,
Where there is darkness, light,
Where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much
seek to be consoled as to console,
not so much to be understood as to understand,
not so much to be loved, as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
it is in dying that we awake to eternal life.

What a nice and true prayer Sandy, it had goose bumps running down my spine!
Very great said!
Love
Sou

I just want to pray for all of the greiving parents, including myself and my husband. Also I want to pray for other family members of the lost chld. The grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. May God bless all, and may peace come into everyone's heart. Amen.

Dear Tertule,

Thank you very much for your prayers. May God the Almighty guide you and your family to peace and may He let us live a life to achieve the honor of meeting our loved ones who passed.

I don't think you ever posted here. Would you like to also share your story with us?

We look froward to hear from you again.

God bless
Sou