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cindys1021, I can feel your pain in your words, you had a very bad day yesterday. I still have bad days and it's been 2 years for us. And I know of other mothers on this Circle who have shared their bad days with me. Our son was taken from us in an instant, one minute he was here, the next he was gone. He passed away from a rare heart arrythmia that affects young people. The hoplessness I felt was that I couldn't protect him from harm, and isn't that what mothers do - protect their children from harm? In your case you couldn't stop your daughter's illness or death, you couldn't protect her as we mothers feel so strongly that we must do. You had to sit by and watch all this happen and you couldn't do anything about it. Feelings of hoplessness are a natural part of the grieving process, and I'm so glad you're able to share them, letting them out is healthy. Nothing can prepare you for what you are experiencing or what happened to you and your family. It's painful and there's no getting around it. It's the worst kind of pain a parent can ever experience. Please don't feel badly that you can't see the good in all of this right now, you're in intense grief. As I said to you, be gentle and kind to yourself right now, you deserve it. My heart goes out to you and you and your family and your beloved Kristina have been lifted up in prayer. May Our Heavenly Father bless you and your family and ease your pain. Anytime you want to post please do, the journey of grief is a hard road to go down.
Luv Sandy
Luv Sandy

Sandi . . . I'm very numb today - but thank you for your prayers. God bless you and your family.
Cindy

Cindy if you're feeling numb today, that's OK, we'll do the praying for you and know that you are in my thoughts and my prayers.
Luv Sandy

Cindys1021 I lost my son 2 years ago to a horrible car accident that killed four men he was 21 and was the only child I had Jason was my life so I can truly understand how you feel. Our prayers are with you and I have asked God to place you under his wings . The wound is very fresh and I don't want to discourage you but it will get tougher but God will one day put some relief in your painful heart, we as mothers want so to protect our children and I know myself that I feel like I have failed. God understands the pain that we go through and even though we question his will he still leads us and guides us every step.Your daughter is in the hands of the Lord now where she has no more pain or suffering be thankful for that even though I know it is hard to let them go and that we suffer so without them. Be easy on yourself and rely on God to get you through the hard days and remember we are here for you anytime of the day and we will talk with you and pray with you. My prayer for you is Lord place your tender care on this mother who is suffering so keep her under your wings, place those angels all around her, give her peace and understanding when she needs it the most and watch over her precious daughter and allow her daughter to watch over her mother .

Jem2199 and Sandy - Thank you for your words and prayers - I truly don't know how you survived the loss of your sons. I will pray for them tonight when I pray for my dear Kristina. Peace to you.
Cindy

Hi Cindy, I pray that my words and JEM2199's have helped you somewhat. The whole truth Cindy is that i didn't think I would survive my son's death, I wanted to go home too and be with my son during those awful dark months after his passing. But I'm still here so God must have other plans for me. Slowly and slowly, day by day, I was able to come out of that dark period with the help of prayer and Our Lord, but it's taken me 2 years to get there and as I said, even now I have bad days. My son is always on my mind, but the good memories are starting to overtake the bad ones, such as the funeral, etc. So just hang in there, it's very tough at the beginning, it's very painful, but eventually you will emerge and be at a more accepting place in your life. I know that sounds impossible right now, I wouldn't have believed it myself during the dark times, but as I said, it slowly happens. The emptiness and the longing for my son's physical presence will always be there until I pass on, but at least now I can live one day at a time and find that the happy days are more frequent than the bad ones now, whereas at the beginning of my grief journey the bad days were all and I couldn't bear to look at any future. So there is hope, Cindy, as JEM2199 has also said, it just takes a lot of time. And as JEM also said, rely heavily on Our Heavenly Father, He knows of our pain and He knows how you feel right now, so just talk to Him. And of course here, anytime you want! Don't listen to well-meaning people who try to console you by telling you that you should be 'over' it by now, it's been very recent for you and as I said, it takes a lot of time. Thank you Cindy for your prayers and know that you and your family and Kristina are in mine!
Luv Sandy

Cindy try to lean on God as much as you can he truly will weather the storm and bring you through the valleys it will take alot of time for healing but as Shaner said you will find assurance again and also like Shaner said do not let people tell you that you should get over this because those people don't have a clue about losing a child. Remember Christina is still with you every minute of everyday as my Jason is with me and as Shane is with Shaner only there presence is not. Think of all the good things about her and all the wonderful memories you shared, no one can take that away. We have to be thankful that we had our children as long as we did, remember it is better to have loved than not to have ever loved.Cindy we know how hard this is on you that's why you need to talk things out with people that have been in your shoes. I know that no matter what I say right now is going to mean much to you but remember we are here to help . This site is the only thing I can say helped me because I was able to talk with Shaner and she new exactly what I was going through so be kind to yourself and you will be in my prayers everyday!!! Thoughts and Prayers Dar

IF TEARS COULD BUILD A STAIRCASE AND MEMORIES COULD BUILD A LANE I WOULD WALK UP TO HEAVEN AND BRING YOU HOME AGAIN. UNKNOWN AUTHOR

JEM2199, Dar, what a beautiful poem and oh how so very true! Thank you for posting it!
Luv Sandy

I cannot fathom anyone's loss here because I am not, have never been, and shall never be a parent. But, I fervently believe that we should thank God for all that he has given us, that we have, and that we once had and no longer have. God gave many who have lost a child very special gifts: the opportunity to breathe life into another being, the opportunity to rear a child who loves the Lord, and the opportunity to love and praise the Lord after the child's passing. Just as we breathe life into a child, God breathed life into His Word, the Bible, a living document. Please honor your loved one's loss by the legacy, that which lives. You'll find a wonderful joy and peace.

Thank you to all for your words of hope and encouragement. Heavenly Father, grant peace to those of us who grieve for our angels in heaven, and to those who share their words of comfort and support. Rest in peace sweet angels!

boots1961, Thank you for posting here, even though you are not a parent, you took the time and trouble to offer us some comfort! I myself, and I know I'm not alone, thank Our Heavenly Father all the time for the gift of my son, better to have had him for 24 years than not at all, for he enriched our lives and love tenfold. And know we have a special advocate for us in Heaven and we rest in the knowledge that we will be reunited one day!
God bless

cindys1021, Cindy, thank you for your sweet prayers, we all need them to cope with what has happened to us and I know how strong the power of prayer is! I truly hope that our words of hope and encouragement have helped you even a little, God bless you and yours and remember that the love you shared with Kristina never dies, it's still a strong bond between you and her and always will be! May Our Heavenly Father give you some peace and know that He loves you very much!
Luv Sandy

Cindy thank you for your prayers as Shaner says we all need them.Cindy your encouragement will come in time so whatever you are feeling is very normal . God has truly placed his hand in my hand and walked me through every step because I couldn't do it on my own .If you feel like you need to talk about how you are feeling or what you are going through please let us help you through because there are people that do not understand but we do. Thoughts and Prayers Dar

March 15th . . . it's been 3 months - doesn't seem real. I know she is with me, but I ache to hear her voice, run my fingers through her hair, rub her feet,like I did in the hospital. Oh dear Lord, help me survive this day . . the tears are still constant and the pain so sharp. Shaner - I know the 15th will be hard for you you too - I will pray for you and Shane this day also.
Cindy

cindys1021 - Cindy, God bless you, yes this is a hard day, you're marking the 3rd month of Kristina's passing and yet it doesn't feel 'real' to you yet. Today we mark Shane's 27th month of passing and now reality has set in for us. This will be a hard day for you, BUT you will survive it. Our hearts ache so for the loss of their physical presence in our lives, and nothing can fill that loss. I could say the standard things to you right now, such as you know she's out of pain, in a better place, etc., but it's not going to make you feel any better, because you long for Kristina to be with you again right now. So what I will say to you today, is let the tears come, go to Kristina's gravesite if it brings you comfort, be around loving, supportive people if you're in the mood, if not, that's OK too. If you just want to sit all day and remember Kristina that's OK also. Whatever you do today will be what is best FOR you. It's only been 3 months and your pain and tears are still very raw, numbing, and fresh. Our Lord will help you get through this day, you are in my prayers and thoughts, and thank you for your prayers also. God bless you Cindy and know that Our Heavenly Father cares about you and knows more of your pain than anyone else. It must have been difficult to post today, but I am so happy that you did. Our prayers are with you!
Luv Sandy

My dear son who was 42 years of age when he passed away suddenly in his sleep one year ago today on June 15, 2001. My sorrow overwhelms me but the memories of Rick are always with me. I carried him beneath my heart before he was born; now I carry him in my heart. Please pray for me.

Sandra62 I am so sorry for the loss of your son you are right when you say you carry your son in your heart all of us that have lost our children do. God has a way of getting us through l more day or one more year it has been the hardest thing in my life as I am sure it has been for you. My Jason has been gone 2 years and 3 months and it still seems like yesterday when his accident happened. I ask God to place his hands on each one on this site my he give us peace, encouragement and understanding and hope which each one of needs desperately. Take our hands Lord Jesus and walk each one through these days and be with our sons and daughters who are in your kingdom .Lord you know the pain and sorrow we endure give us the calmness and acceptance we need. Thoughts and Prayers Dar

Sandra62, I am also very sorry to hear of your son's quick passing, and today must be a difficult one for you - his 1st year Anniversary. You must be very sad and reflective today, as you honour his 1st year passing, but you're absolutely right, you carried him beneath your heart and now he is forever in your heart, the love that you and your son shared never dies, and that's a comforting thought. I am so honoured that you posted today also, even in our grief I find it comforting to reach out to those who understand what we are going through. For it seems that only another mother can really relate to our grief, longing and sorrow. Our son passed away on the 15th of March, but every 15th of the month brings sad memories, as it does to other mothers on their respective anniversaries. Know that you have been prayed for and may Our Lord keep you close by His side as you get through this day and the many more to come. God bless you.
Luv Sandy

Hello Cindy I know how hard today is for you so I have ask God to place his hand in yours and to see you through the day and night, through tears and laughter and just to give you peace !!! You are in my thoughts today May God Bless Dar

Dear Lord, before I sleep, I ask you to please bless Shane, Jason, Robby, Damon & Kristina, and their wonderful mothers who miss them and carry them in their hearts forever.

cindys1021 , - Cindy, thank you so much for your prayers and asking God to bless our beloved children, and your kind words to us, they go right back to you too!!
Luv Sandy

To the fathers in this circle and those 'behind' the scenes, I know that today is a hard day for you also, may Our Heavenly Father bless you and know that all of you are in our prayers also. God bless you all!
Luv Sandy

Hello all, My name is Lou, I live in England and cam across your site the other day whilst looking for some poems to have to give out to the bereaved families that I see through my job. I am a bereavement officer and I help families through the first difficult days following a loved ones passing.
I did find this poem that I would like to share with you, that many families appreciate, I think it is lovely, I hope you all do too.

Their Journey has just begun.

Don't think of them as gone away,
Their journey has only just begun.
Life holds so many facets,
This earth is only one.

Just think of them as resting
From the sorrows and the tears,
In a place of warmth and comfort,
Where there are no days and years.

Think of how they must be wishing
That we could know today,
How nothing but our sadness
Can really pass away.

And think of them as living
In the hearts of those they touched,
For nothing loved is ever lost,
And they were loved so much.

Author Unknown


God bless you all.