Prayer Circles

Hello Delilah..Your story is much like my own Ny 10 year relationship is over..My 2 children and I are very sad and hurt. I am so powerless. I will pray for you and your family, families belong together. Here is a prayer for you..In the sacrament of marraige, you bound us together in love.Help us to overcome all strife,all selfishness,all resentment,that our home may be filled with love and our children be happy now and also when they are grown. Bless You Delilah. Kristin (LostLion)

Hello Delilah,
I am so sorry to read about what is going on in your life. I will pray for you and your children, as well as your husband. Not too long ago I was in the same situation that you are in. I was married and also have two children. My marriage was not a happy one, and involved alot of mental abuse and alot of my husband's family intrusion into our lives to disrupt it basically. We did not get married for the reasons that you are supposed to get married for. It was because of pressure by others and because of we already had two children together. I believe that it is what god wanted for us, but my husband and I didn't even know ourselves let alone know each other and what god wanted for us. Needless to say, our marriage lasted 6 years(although we had been together for 10) and as the years went on, there was so much hurt commited by us both. I asked god to please help us and stop all the anger, bitterness, and hostility, and if that meant for one of us to leave then please let it happen because life was getting too hard for all involved. God answered my prayers and I did end up leaving with my children and although things were hard and there were days that I felt I couldn't go on, god provided me with strength that I didn't even know I had! I took one day at a time, and I eventually got to the point that I was even able to pray for my husband. I held alot of anger and resentment towards him, and when I gave all that up, and just put myself in god's hands and let god take over (let his will be done)things started turning around for me which to this day, I realize just how great god is and how he hears your prayers. I do believe that families belong together, but when everyone is getting hurt, you need god's help to stop things from continuing on a destructive path. I am not saying to give in and go to divorce mediations with your husband or to get a divorce, but what I am saying is to just hold on and ask god to guide you. Let his will be done. I never thought that I could ever be friends again with my husband because of the hatred that we showed one another. When I asked god to please stop all the hurt and to take one of us out of the house, I never thought that while he did answer my prayers, that he would work on me individually, as well as my husband individually. It is was like we had to be seperated in order to let god work in both of our lives and then you know what, god eventually over time brought us back together. Only stronger and more committed than ever. Although we did get divorced,we started talking to one another as "friends", once we realized that we really didn't have to hate one another. Once we both started "communicating" (something that we had never really done while we were married)we realized where all the hurt had stemmed from and although it was painful to go into the past, it was necessary. First of all, we realized that because we got married young, it was done for all the wrong reasons. Today however, (3 years later) we are now talking about getting remarried. If you pray and continually seek god's guideance while you are going through anything in life, he will answer you. God has a funny way of sometimes answering you and giving you just what you want, so be careful what you ask for, but if you are asking that his will be done in the process, he will turn things around for you. I hope that this message makes sense to you, and I will certainly pray for you and your family. Please continue to be strong and never underestimate the power of our lord because although things seem like they are all wrong and you may be depressed and not know in which direction to turn, god is just waiting for you to turn to him, confide in him, allow him to take over. He does everything for a reason, and most of all you have to trust in him Delilah. God bless you and take care.
bye for now~Shanika (Sunshine28)

i will be praying 4u deliah my sister n law is going through the same ting her husband and her have been together 4 19 yrs he started cheating on her about 10 yrs ago things cooled off 4 a while he came home the other nite and told her that he is running around again. please pray 4 her.

Deliah, I to suffered what you went through. My ex-husband and I never had the marriage that God intended.He was not a believer. I stayed married to him for 22 years.
We had three sons together. He was not physically but mentally abusive.
I was miserably unhappy.
he treated all the men or his dad with respect but not women.
I asked God for years for help . I guess he was waiting for me to look only to him for trust. I held on to
hope and love of Jesus to meet all my
needs. He never let me down once!!!!!!!
When I stood up to my bully ex Husband
he tried to block me from any move. Jesus created supernatural circumstances.
That all seems lke a million years ago.
Two terrific books that helped me. Dr james Dodsons - Love must be tough.
Help and healing in divorce.
Maybe the Lord has a different ending for your story.
Whatever it is- Trust in him with all your might and lean not on your understanding. He will show you why and when. Six years later, I am remarried to a man who treats me with respect.
I would like to say that because I stood up to abuse I taught my sons how to be real men and not abuse women

It is terriable to break up a home and family, but sometimes the most loving thing to do for yourself and the children is to get away. It should be the LAST option, but if you are being treated badly, it is not fair that you continue. Your children will grow up thinking it is ok to behave in the same manner. Keep your children close...forever ... and seek the will of God in all things. Jesus wouldn't want you to be a doormat. Suggest he join "Promise Keepers" at your local church: Men who are men, and love their wifes and families.
"Husbands, Love your wifes as God has loved His church" (His "church" means HIS PEOPLE).
Pray for healing of your depression - and know that with Springtime comes renewal - not just of the earth, but of the human spirit. I pray for a quick resolution. God Bless You!

PS: You mentioned "depression" twice in your letter. If you can, get Christian counseling through your local (or a )local church if you are not attending one at this time.) Medications are easily obtainable thru drs. but I would strongly advise AGAINST them. (Very adverse (unreversable) effects on the human brain and body!)Prozak has the same chemical base as LSD! True!

hi delilah, after losing my only child at two months old i was so sad, devestated and confused. now i see, slowly, that all is for a reason, though painful to us and we don't get it. god always knows our fate, god knows what is best for us, what we can endure, and what we cannot. i thought i'd never stop crying and tearing apart inside, from the sheer shock of my baby's death. but time and god have been good to my broken heart. people used to say to me, you are so strong to go on like you have.( i was only 19 when this all happened.)and i'd say back to them what choice do i have? either i can give up or go on. after two years of hurting and tears and so so much anger inside, i finally looked at myself for who i was, who i could be, and i decided to go on. i know you can too, if that is what is meant for you. we are all survivors, one way or another. bless you.

Hello Delilah, I feel for you I will
pray for you and your children and never
for get the Lord is always with you he
will never leave you have faith and take care of your self