Prayer Circles

I have put up with being cussed at since I got married at 17 and have been married 32 years. When we are not arguing we have a beautiful. loving marriage but when we are fighting and he is calling me those terrible names, I just want to leave the face of the earth it is so bad. I created this circle to hopefully gain support and someone to talk to that is going through the same thing. At times it gets so bad I do not know what to do. I pray constantly and ask God WHY, and he seems to calm me down and the fighting stops, sometimes, but other times it goes on and on, and when he says shut up and I try to shut up he starts asking me questions and gets mad if I do not answer. So it is like there is no solutiuon. We have talked this problem out a zillion times but we get no results. Right now he is calling me sweety and honey and being the man I adore but wait until this afternoon. Something petty will set him off and it will be a nightmare again. I have tried leaving and he says he would die without me and have no reason to live. He knows I have a real weak spot for that kind of talk but I would still leave if the opportunity ever arises that I have no alternative, but I do not know if that is the thing to do. I am so confused. I hope there is someone out there that can relate to my story and we can help each other through this. I know marriage is a holy matrimony and I have devoted 32 soon to be 33 years of my life to it and he can be such a wonderful man. I just do not know how to cope when he gets so out of control. He was raised in a very abuse household and his brother is also very abusive and lost his wife bacause of it. So if there is anyone out there going through the same thing I would love to hear from you.
I know we can always turn to God and he may not answer us quickly enough but he will answer. God Bless you all!!

Hi dear one. I too was tortured with verbal and physical abuse when I was married the first time. He called me every name in the book. He said I was nothing and that nobody else would have me. He verbally abused our 3 kids and now they only know how to scream at their kids. I have prayed with you before and I lost your email address. I lost the only son I had and I know that he was taking a lot of abuse from his father before he got sick. He was so degrading and mean to him I just have a hard time forgiving and I know I will never forget.
Heavenly Father,
I come to you tonight in prayer for all the women and men that go through this kind of abuse. I pray God that you would let the abuser see what he is doing to his loved ones. Father take care of the ones that are being abused. Lord please take care of them and keep them safe. Lord you know that we can't do it by our selves. Lord we are nothing without you but Praise God we are something with you. We can rise above all the shame of our abuser and know that WE ARE A CHILD OF THE KING. AND WE KNOW THAT, THAT CAN NOT BE TAKEN AWAY FROM US.Lord you said you would never leave or forsake us and we take You at Your word for You do not tell untruths. Thank you Lord for being my Savior and thank you for the Home you have waiting on high for me. Praie you Father for all you do for me. Bless these precious children of yours and keep them in your will. Amen

Thank YOU SWEET lINDA FOR POSTING HERE. YOU REMINDED ME OF HOW MY CHILDREN WERE RAISED.MY SON HAS NO SELF WORTH--HE IS STRUGGLING SO BAD NOW AND i KNOW IT WAS NECAUSE OF THE WAY HE WAS RAISED. i DO NOT ENTIRELY BLAME MY HUSBAND, BECAUSE i SHOULD HAVE INTERVENED--i DO NOT KNOW WHY i DID NOT EXCEPT i drank alot back then and that may have contributed to it but that is no excuse.
I HAVE TO USE ALL CAPS BECAUSE THESE KENTUCKY ROADS ARE SOOO ROUGH.
I GUESS I NEVER LET MYSELF THINK WHY IT IS HE IS HAVING SO MUCH DRUG PROBLEMS EVEN THOUGH HE TOLD ME HE CANNOT GET HIS DADS APPROVAl no matter whaT HE DOES AND HIS DAD IS THE ONLY ONE THAT BRINGS HIM TO TEARS.HE CRYS AS SOON AS HE GETS AROUND HIM AND THEY HUG AND ALL BUT IT IS NOT SINCERE ON MY HUSBANDS PART.AS SOON AS MY SON LEAVES HE STARTS IN ON CUTTING HIM DOWN, HE IS DOING IT WITH MY DAUGHTER NOW.
I GET SO ANGRY WHEN I WRITE THIS AND I KNOW I CANNOT LET MY ACTIONS AND THOUGHTS BE CONSUMED BY ANGER. IT ACCOMPLISHES NOTHING.
DEAR GOD, PLEASE INTERVENE INTO MY HUSBANDS HEART, MIND, BODY AND SOUL, AND ALLOW HIM TO SEE HOW WONDERFUL AND GREAT THE GIFT OF RECEIVING GOD INTO HIS HEART IS, AND ALLOW HIM TO SEE THE GOOD IN PEOPLE INSTEAD OF ALWAYS LOOKING FOR THE BAD IN EVERY PERSON HE MEETS. GIVE HIM WISDOM TO KNOW HE IS ONLY HURTING HISSELF BY CARRYING SUCH A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE AROUND. GIVE ME THE STRENGTH TO ALWAYS PUT YOU FIRST LORD, AND NOT TO BE DRUG INTO WRONG THINGS OR BELIEVE BAD AND WRONG THINGS BUT TO BELIEVE IN YOU LORD AND WHAT YOU HAVE TAUGHT ME. HELP ME TO KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO BRING MY HUSBAND TO YOU DEAR LORD. HE SAYS HE IS SAVED BUT HE STILL CARRIES THAT NEGATIVE, ABUSIVE LANGUAGE WITH HIM WHEREVER HE GOES AND HE STILL HAS BAD THOUGHTS ABOUT EVERYONE HE MEETS. I FEEL BAD FOR TALKING ABOUT HIM, BUT I KNOW HE HAS GOODNESS IN HIM IF ONLY HE HAD NOT BEEN ABUSED WHEN HE WAS GROWING UP PERHAPS HE MIGHT NOT FEEL THE NEED TO ABUSE OTHERS.
IT TRULY SEEMS LIKE SINCE I TYPED THE FIRST WORDS TO START THIS CIRCLE HE HAS NOT CUSSED ME OR CALLED ME HIS NORMAL TERRIBLE NAMES, WE HAVE HAD LITTLE TINY MISUNDERSTANDINGS BUT NOTHING LIKE THE EVERYDAY FIGHTS WE WERE HAVING THAT I THOUGHT WAS LEADING TO MY DEATH.
THANK YOU GOD VERY EVERY SECOND OF EVERY MINUTE YOU GIVE ME WITH PEACE AND QUIET AND NO ARGUMENTS I AM SO SO GRATEFUL DEAR LORD.
PLEASE BLESS THIS CIRCLE GOD, BRING MANY PRAYER WARRIORS HERE TO ALLOW US TO CONSOLE EACH OTHER WHEN THE TIMES ARE SO BAD. ALLOW US TO FORM A GROUP OF SUPPORT SO WE CAN HAVE YOU IN THE MIDDLE OF IT DEAR LORD---I ASK IN THE NAME OF JESUS, AMEN

Dear Heavenly Father, Bless this day for my husband and myself and all that enter this circle. Guide our mouths today Lord. Keep us from evil and meanness and allow us to enjoy one of the few days left on this earth. Keep me from talking back, hold a shield over my mouth so I do not add to the arguing. In Jesus name I pray, amen.

Now I know why I started this circle.
He is so mean and nasty. Now the clicking on this machine is setting him off. I got my first f------ b---- in a few days. I think that is the longest I ever went without one. But I kept my mouth shut and sat back on the bed and hopefully he will run out of air. He jerked this laptop out of my hands one time, I pray he does not do it again, I am trying to type real, real lightly.
Dear God, please enter my husband's mind and give him compassion and love where there is hatred and meaness. Remove all the evil, dear God. I ask in the name of Jesus, amen

JESUS WE COME TO ASK YOU TO SILENCE OUR HUSBANDS TONGUES WHO RIDICUE US USING FOUL NAMES THAT TORMENT US.. WE ASK FOR YOUR COMFORT.YOU CAN TOUCH THERE HEARTS AND SILENCE THERE TONGUES , LET THEM LOOK ON US WITH LOVE,CARING ONLY USE GENTLE WORDS WITH US. WE THANK YOU FOR YOUR COMFORT.. IN YOUR NAME AMEN..

Dear sweet Kathy, you deserve so much more. You know it is probably our hardest challenge, "HUSBANDS." My first husband drand, smoked weed and occasionally, did coke. When he smoked weed, he was very mello, but let him drink and HE WAS MEAN!!!!! His mouth could make me cringe. He would talk the same as your husband, and it was awful. I would probably still be married to him today, I loved him very much and we had wonderful times, but VERBAL ABUSE is just as bad as physical abuse!! My mom and step dad gave me the courage to make him leave, it was very hard, but I did it. I can't believe that God would expect that we are to let ourselves and our children live in a relationship that is abusive and destructive. Honey, you ever need to call me do!!! WK 1-346-8702, ETX. 243!! As Mary has said we are here for you!!

Father, I lift Kathy and all others that are being abused, to you in prayer. Lord, enter the hearts of the abusers; soften them; let them hear your words of love, caring, gentleness. Let them instead live a life full of tenderness and love. Father keep those that are being abuse safe, let your arms wrap tight around them so that their abusers can not reach them. Lord, hear our pleas, in the name of Jesus AMEN.

Dear kathy if you are somewhere please post here or otheer circle let us know you are safe and , Les says he loves you you are his princess. please call him.. LORD WE ASK YOU TO SEND RIGHT PEOPLE TO MINISTER TO KATHY GIVE HER STRENTH SHOW HER HER WAY. KEEP HER SAFE LET HER BE IN TOUCH WITH US JESUS. GIVE HER COMFORT, PEACE.. SHOW HER ALL THE LOVE EVERYONE HAS FOR HER. KEEP HER WELL, SAFE FROM ALL HARM.. IN YOUR NMAE WE ASK, WE BELIEVE YOU ARE THE KING OF KINGS. WE THANK YOU .. AMEN

Sweet One, We are searching for you, and the Lord is watching over you. I know that things get really rough, I've been there.If you can would you call me. I don't care if you call me collect. You can call my cell phone and it will be cheaper. 1-704-798-1714 now my home phone # is 1-704-279-8281. Sweetie if you are in trouble or you are afraid please call me. We can work out something. I promise you are in my prayers and you know God will keep you safe.
Our Father, Creator of all things I come to you in prayer to thank you for loving me. Father you gave your only Son so that me sins would be covered my His blood. I praise you and give You all the glory.I pray for this dear lady that is feeling so alone and needs Your guidance today. Father take her heart and mind and make her feel love and safety. She is your child and she needs to know that right now. Lord I pray that whatever she needs that You will give it to her. Let her know that You are there for her and that You and only You can calm all storms. No matter what kind it is. Give her rest in the shelter of Your arms and remind her that she is the child of a King. That sits on high and reigns the world of saved people and that she is no better than anybody but just as good as anybody. Let her spirits be uplifted and know that we as her friends and prayer family are praying for her and Lord let her know that You are in control no matter what.
I ask these things in Christ name through His blood and the Father's love, Amen and Amen

Next To A Stranger


It was a hazy sun
that shone through the window
and onto the floor
It was a hazy marriage
and in her childhood dreams,
she had hoped there was more

He crashed through the chute
like a brute
looking for someone to crush
And there was his wife
like a mouse in the house
and turning to mush

Another hell, he was yelling
and shaking his fist
which she kissed
With her eye turning dark,
he was barking and hitting her hard

She fell to the floor
like a doll in the hall,
he continued to curse
Kicking and screaming,
he shattered her dreams,
It could never be worse

What happens to dreams
when you wake up
in the middle of a nightmare?
What happens to hope?
Well, you know,
it’s got to go somewhere

People are cruel,
but a fool will stay where there’s danger
What happens to love
when you wake up next to a stranger?

It’s a hopeful sun
that shines through the window
and onto her face
With her past fading fast
on a bus she is winning this race

She runs like a deer without fear...
At last she is free
And somewhere beyond lies the promise
And her dream





Are you experiencing Domestic Violence or do you know someone who is?


MYTH: Domestic violence does not affect many people.

FACT: A woman is beaten every 15 seconds. (Gelles and Strauss, Intimate Violence , 1988)
Over 2 million women report being beaten every year. (Ibid)
Between 1.5 to 3 million children witness domestic violence
Females experience over 10 times as many incidents of violence by an intimate partner as males. (Bureau of Justice Statistics, 1994)
Women age 20 to 34 have the highest rate of violent victimization committed by intimate partners of any age group. (Ibid)



Some wonderful links on Domestic Violence

|National Domestic Violence Hotline|
|"Artemis" A site for Survivors of Domestic Violence|
|Let's Stop Domestic Violence|
|Domestic Violence and Abuse Information|
|Walking on Eggshells|
|Yes To Love| |Survivor's Unite Against Domestic Violence|
|For Women - The Ultimate Information, Support And resource Site

Lord grant those that are under these kind of abuses to be held safely in your arms, to find the strength within to seek help, and get out of this unsafe environment. Father, no one should have to endure such horrible treatment from someone that they have put all their trust and love in. In the name of Jesus, Amen.

My dear Kathy, I still haven't heard from you and I know that you are very scared and tired. Just know that we are here and that we are praying for you. I miss our chats and talking to each other through email.

Father in Heaven,
I come to You tonight to ask for Your help. Lord I want to ask You to take care of Kathy and allow her to be able to contact one of us, her friends and prayer warriors. Lord it is good to see the ones that I have been praying with now for over a year. I thank You for that year for I have been blessed so many times by my sisters and brothers in Christ. Lord I know that all things are possible though Christ who strengthens me. Romans 8:28. I ask all these things in Your name. Father I ask for Your love and grace be close to me and Kathy at this time. I have been not feeling well but I realize I haven't left in Your Hands. Father I leave at the alter and forgive me for not doing so sooner. Take care of Kathy and comfort her and thank you Lord for loveing us. I ask all these things in Christ name, Amen

Has anyone of my friends, prayer warriors heard from Faithfulness?
Lord I lift up my friend in her time of need. I pray that you take care of her and pray that your will be done in her life. Please Father lead her in her life to walk in your path and do your will. Bless all of us your children and forgive us all our sins. We praise your sweet name, Jesus, Heavenly Father we praise you, Amen

It is really sad, so many spouses don't even think that they are abusing thier wife/husband. There is more than just physical abuse, there is mental abuse, that can be just as devasting as the physical abuse. Add both kind together, and there is a bomb waiting to explode. I know that the Lord did not create man and woman to treat each other in such degrading ways. It strips a person of all dignity, self worth, self respect. Lord, bind those that would want to cause such pain to others; heal thier hearts to want to be loving, caring, compassionate human beings. Teach them self love, for then they will know how to love others. Teach them the rule, ' DO UNTO OTHERS, AS YOU WOULD HAVE OTHERS DO UNTO YOU' In the name of our Lord, Jesus Amen.

I AM SAFE MY DEAR SWEET PRECIOUS FRIENDS--THANKS TO ALL YOUR PRAYERS MY HUSBAND DID NOT KILL ME. HE WILL BE HERE TOMORROW AND I WILL BE GOING TO THE DOCTOR WITH HIM I THINK, PLEASE PRAY I WILL BE SAFE AND HE IS NOT GOING TO HARM ME ONCE WE GET ALONE. I HAVE FAITH IN GOD HE WILL WATCH OVER ME, HE HAS DONE SUCH A GOOD JOB SO FAR--PLEASE PRAY HE BRINGS ME BACK TO MY Dughters and leaves me there safe and sound,I love you all so much I cannot even express it in words--thank you, thank you--hugs, kathy

God, Please watch over Kathy and protect her, as you have done. Please touch her husband's heart and help his misplaced anger diminish. Please protect your children from harm.
Amen

JESUS HELP ME I BEING PHYSICALLY AND VERBALLY ABUSE. THE VIOLENCE AS ESSCUTLATED AND JUST TONITE I WAS BELTED ACROSSED THE SIDE OF MY FACE. LORD HELP ME. HELP ME, HELP ME!!

Please help me Jesus, I have been verbally and physical abused by my fiancee, who I have been with for over 2 years. I have left him & recived legal protection so he has to stay away from me. This man is in much need of profesional help but will not ask for it because he insist on believing that there is nothing wrong with abusing me and his family. Please pray for him and his family that they will seek the help they need.