Prayer Circles

Dear Deborahpoo, ~ I'm just checking in to let you know that you and your family are in my thoughts; which places you in my prayers. You have created a loving memorial for your Michael, and now this prayer circle in him memory. I know that our Lord and Savior has his loving arms around you and your family and He will give each of you the strength and courage to make it from day to day. Right now, you are dealing with the grief and pain of acceptance, and that is so very, difficult. I know that God will answer my prayer, and stay right by your side and allow you to lean on Him for as long as you need to. When my daughter, Diane, was killed in a chain reaction wreck Aug. 31, 1996, I had so much pain inside, and I had no idea what to do or how to get rid of it. I kept waiting for it to eventually go away. I had no idea that a person could go on living with the kind of pain I was forced to live with on a daily basis. The first three years were almost unbearable. The fourth year, I bearly made it with God's help. It took a long time for me to finally accept the fact that the indescribable grief I felt over losing my daughter was not something that was going to go away! This past Christmas was the very first holiday that I finally felt a kind of peace from within. Since that time, I have tried to maintain this peaceful state for longer periods day by day. I still have days when I don't feel like trying, but most of the time, I can now look at my daughter's picture without feeling sad. I can tell you that no 2 people grief is exactly the same. Each parent has to move on at their own pace. The good news is, it will become easier to bear. Your grief is still so new. So pamper yourself and rest in the knowledge that someday, the pain will become easier to bear! Take all the time you need to grieve, and I will continue to pray and ask God to give you precious moments of peace throughout today, and in the days ahead. In Jesus' name I pray, Amen
LOVE2U
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Dear Debby, I've said what comforting words I can at my Bereaved Parents Prayer Circle that you've posted at, and it's so lovely to see a Prayer Circle in memory of your beloved Michael. This is a good way of honouring his life, and helping you with your grief. Michael must be so happy and honoured that you started this memorial prayer circle in his name!
As Verna said, you're entering into the grief stage of realizing it's final, and that stage is the hardest, because the shock and disbelief over your son's death is over, and the reality and finality is settling in now for you. That's one of the biggest reasons why you're feeling such pain right now. When it first happens, we can't accept the death, and we go into a state of shock, and don't want to believe it. It's God's way of helping us cope during those first couple of years. Then, and this is individual, we all enter into the next phase of grieving, as I said, when we realize for the first time that it's final, we're never going to see them come through the door again, or hear their voice, or see their smiling face. Everything you're feeling right now is very normal in the grieving process. We've all felt the feelings that you're experiencing. Everybody grieves differently, but we all at one time or another experience the same feelings. We all had our own special realtionship with our child, and that is what we grieve over. But take heart, with a lot of help from prayers, and leaning on Our Lord yourself, in time it will lessen, and you will learn once again to smile, and laugh, and your days of peace will outnumber your days of tears. I know that's hard to believe right now, if someone had told me that two years ago, I wouldn't have belived them either. Be very kind and gentle with yourself, grieve at your own pace, there is no timetable for grieving, so take as long as you feel is necessary. A big part of ourselves does go with our child, but in time and with a lot of help, we learn how to live with it. Many, many prayers and blessings to you, as you slowly come to terms with Michael's passing. As I said, he's still watching over his beloved mom, and still loves you very much, so remember that when you're missing him the most. Love is eternal, it never dies, so you're still connected to Michael. God bless you sweetie, and love and prayers to you,
Luv Sandy

hi shaner, thank you for your prayers. i read them this morning and your comforting words helped me today. i was able to have a smile on my face all day and didn't space thinking about michael so much. thank you so much. i went to church a couple times after michael passed away but it was so hard at first being all new to me that i felt every one was looking at me and talking about my family, but i think i will try again this sunday and maybe i wont feel the same way. i'm going to give it a try. GOD BLESS YOU FOR YOU HAVE THE SAME PAIN AS ALL THE MOTHERS I'VE BEEN READING ABOUT AT THIS PRAYER CIRCLE. LUV DEBBY

DEAR LOVE2U, I WANT TO THANK YOU TOO FOR CHECKING UP ON HOW I'M HANDLING THINGS. THANK YOU FOR THE PRAYER TOO. I'M SORRY ABOUT THE LOSS OF YOUR DAUGHTER. WHEN I FIRST CAME ON IN THE PRAYER CIRCLE I WAS SCARED BUT I FEEL COMFTABLE NOW AND PUT MY FEELINGS ALL OUT ON THE TABLE. EVERYONE HAS BEEN SO KIND AND THE PRAYERS AND WORDS HAVE HELPED ME. I CAN'T WAIT TO GET UP IN THE MORNING TO LOG ON AND THEN I CAN'T WAIT TO COME HOME AND LOG ON. MY HUSBAND CAME HOME THE OTHER DAY AND I TOLD HIM ABOUT THIS PRAYER CIRCLE AND HOW I'M ABLE TO GET MY PAIN OUT. HE THINKS I CAN JUST TALK TO HIM BUT I TOLD HIM I NEEDED TO TALK TO OTHER WOMEN WHO ARE OR HAVE GONE THROUGH THIS AWFUL PAIN. HE IS SO UNDERSTANDING. HE IS STILL HURTING IN SIDE FOR WHEN MICHAEL WAS IN THE HOSPITAL HE COULDN'T BARE TO SEE HIM THAT WAY AND ONLY CAME THE DAY BEFORE HE PASSED AWAY. WE HAD TO MEET WITH THE DR'S. I KNOW HE WISHES HE HAD SPENT MORE TIME BUT IT BROUGHT MEMORIES BACK WHEN HIS GRANDMOTHER WAS IN THE HOSPITAL HOOKED UP TO A BUNCH OF STUFF. HE WAS VERY VERY CLOSE TO HER. AT LEAST WE TALK ABOUT MICHAEL TOGETHER ALOT MORE THAN BEFORE. SO I KNOW HE IS OPENING UP. THANK YOU FOR LISTENING TOO. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. I WILL KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYERS. LUV DEBBY

GOOD MORNING MICHAEL, HOW I MISS YOU O MUCH. THE SUN WAS SHINING YESTURDAY SO I KOW YOU WHERE BEAMING ON ME WITH LAUGHTER. IT'S RAINING TODAY SO I HOPE YOUR NOT SAD. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. FOR I WISH I HAD THAT ONE CHANCE TO SEE YOU AND HOLD YOU AGAIN. I THOUGHT ABOUT YOU ALOT YESTURDAY FOR IT WAS SUCH A BEAUTIFUL DAY AND I KNOW HOW YOU LIKE SUN SHINNY DAY. LOVE AND MISS YOU, YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY HEART... LOVE MOM

GOOD MORNING MICHAEL,

HOW W MISS YOU SO MUCH. TOMORROW CHRIS WILL BE 19. IT'S HARD ON HIM KNOWING YOU WENT AWAY WHEN YOU WHERE 19. DAD BOUGHT HIM A TRUCK FOR HIS BIRTHDAY. HE WOULD OF LOVED TO BEEN ABLE TO DO THAT FOR YOU. I WISH YOU COULD BE HERE WITH US DURING THIS HAPPY TIME. I DO BELIEVE YOUR WATCHING OVER OUR SHOULDER AND HELPING US TO MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE, EVEN FROM AFAR. WE LOVE AND MISS YOU SO MUCH. LOVE MOM,DAD, AND CHRIS.

hello michael, i've been doing alot of thinking about you. how i miss you so much and wish you could be here with us. your always in my thoughts and prayers alot these days. i love you. love mom

GOOD MORNING, I'M SITTING HERE THINKING ABOUT THE FUN TIMES WE HAVE SHARED. I KNOW YOUR WATCHING OVER US AND LEADING US TO THE RIGHT WAY. I MISS YOU SO MUCH. PLEASE HELP ME TO HAVE STRENGHT AS THESE HARD DAYS ARE COMING AHEAD. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU SO MUCH. LOVE MOM

GOOD MORNING MICHAEL, JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW THAT I'M THINKING OF YOU AND MISS YOU SO MUCH. WE LOVE YOU !! LOVE MOM

HI MICHAEL, YOU THOUGHT OF SO MUCH ON SUNDAY DURING CHRIS'S BIRTHDAY PARTY. HOW WE WISH YOU WHERE HE WITH US. I KNOW YOU ARE WATCHING OVER US AND GUIDING US TO FIND THE STRENGTH BUT SOME DAYS ARE SO HARD. IT WILL BE SO HARD THIS MOTHERS DAY AGAIN WITH OUT YOU HERE. I WILL BE THINKING OF YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL EYES WITH THAT BEAUTIFUL SMILE AND HOW HAPPY YOU USED TO MAKE ME. I MISS YOU SO MUCH. I LOVE YOU. LOVE MOM XOXO

hi michael, how i wish you where here with us. chris will be graduating in two days. we should of been going to your graduation first. i want you to know he did all of this for you since you were not able to finish all that you had set out to do. i know he is thinking of you alot these days and wishes you where right by his side during these happy times. we love you and miss you terible. love mom xoxoxo

hello my son, how i wish you where still here. chris will be graduating tomorrow and we will all be thinking about you. how we miss you so much. your laughter your silly jokes and how you loved to clown around with little ricky and us. i picture you all the time and all the happy and sad things we have gone through. you where my sunshine so when the sun is shining up above i know your shnning down on me. i love you so mch and miss you. love mom xoxo

HI MICHAEL, I JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW I'VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT YOU SO MUCH. I KNOW YOUR WATCHING OVER US BUT IT'S NOT THE SAME. IF YOU WHERE HERE YOU WOULD BE SO PROUD OF CHRIS. HE GRADUATED LAST NIGHT AND EVERY ONE THOUGHT HE WAS YOU. I KNOW IT BOTHERED HIM SOME. ALOT OF THE PEOPLE WHO WHERE THERE KNEW YOU. HE LOOKED SO GOOD IN HIS CAP AND GOWN. WE MISS YOU SO MUCH. I LOVE YOU BUD. LOVE MOM OXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOOXOXXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

good morning michael,
these days have been very hard for me keeping a smile and being so happy for your brother. deep down i'm still feeling the pain of you not here with us. i try to keep real busy but it doesn't always work your still in my thoughts all the time. how i miss you so much. i love you michael. love mom

DEAR MICHAEL,
YOU ARE ALWAYS IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS. I WISH YOU WHERE HERE WITH US RIGHT NOW. HOW I MISS YOU SO MUCH AND LOVE YOU. DEAR MICHAEL PLEASE PRAY FOR ME SO I CAN HAVE THE STRENGH TO PUT A SMILE ON MY FACE EVERY DAY. LOVE MOM

HI MICHAEL,
THESE LAST COUPLE OF DAYS HAVE BEEN REALLY HARD ON ME, BUT I KNOW YOU WILL HELP GUIDE ME IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. I HAVE BEEN HOME WITH CHRIS AND SPENDING SOME TIME WITH HIM. WE HAVE BEEN HAVING SO MUCH FUN. HOW I WISH YOU WHERE HERE WITH US. I KNOW YOU ARE WITH US IN SPIRIT. WE LOVE AND MISS YOU SO MUCH. LOVE MOM XOXOXOXO

GOOD MORNING MICHAEL,
I'VE BEEN DOING ALOT OF PRAYING THESE LAST COUPLE OF DAYS TO YOU AND FOR DASCERIE. I FEEL MY PRAYERS HAVE BEEN ANSWERED ALOT. THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME. IT'S BEEN RAINING AND THUNDERING THESE LAST COUPLE OF NIGHTS. SOME ONE IS NOT HAPPY UP THERE. I HOPE YOUR HAVING A BLAST WITH YOUR NEW FRIENDS THAT YOU HAVE MADE. TELL GRAM I SAID HI AND GRAMP TOO. IF YOU SEE CAROL AOR SHANE WILL YOU TELL THEM THAT THEIR MOM LOVES THEM AND MISSES THEM SO MUCH. I LOVE YOU MICHAEL AND THINK ABOUT YOU ALL THE TIME. PLEASE WATCH OVER ALL OF US. LOVE MOM XOXO

HELLO MICHAEL,
I'M SURE YOU ALREADY KNEW THAT THE TUMOR THE DOCTOR REMOVED FROM DASCERIE WAS BENIGN AND I BELIEVE BECAUSE OF ALL THE PRAYERS AND YOU THAT EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE WITH HER. THANK YOU SO MUCH . I LOVE YOU MICHAEL. YOU KNOW YOUR IN MY THOUGHTS ALL THE TIME AND I'M PRAYING ALOT TO YOU AND HOPE YOU ARE ENJOYING THEM. FOR EVER LOVED. LOVE MOM

DEAR MICHAEL,
I KNOW I HAVEN'T BEEN POSTING TO YOU BUT YOUR ALWAYS IN MY THOUGHTS. I KNOW YOUR WATCHING OVER ME AND SEE I'M BUSY GOING TO SCHOOL AND I KNOW THATS WHAT YOU WHERE SO PROUD OF . THAT I WENT BACK TO SCHOOL JUST LIKE YOU WANTED TO GET YOUR GED AND DIDN'T HAVE THAT CHANCE BUT CHRIS DID FOR YOU. HOW I LOVE AND MISS YOU SO MUCH. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE MY SWEET BOY AND I'LL ALWAYS HAVE YOU IN MY HEART. I LOVE YOU MICHAEL. LOVE MOM

DEAR MICHAEL,
I JUST WANTED TO WISH YOU A HAPPY FATHERS DAY. I KNOW YOUR WATCHING OVER YOUR DAUGHTER FROM UP ABOVE. GUIDE HER THE RIGHT WAY AND UNTIL WE ALL MEET AGAIN YOU ARE SO DEARLY LOVED. LOVE YOUR MOM

DEAR MICHAEL,
HI HOW ARE YOU? SORRY I HAVEN'T POSTED TO YOU IN A WHILE. I'VE BEEN BUSY WITH GOING TO SCHOOL AND HAVE A BIG TEST ON THURSDAY. I MISS YOU SO MUCH AND I THINKOF YOU ALL THE TIME. I KNOW YOU HEARD ME TALKING TO YOU YESTURDAY WHEN I CHECKED YOUR BOX AT THE CEMETARY. YOU HAVE SO MANY BEAUTIFUL FLOWERS. I KNOW THEY ARE NOT REAL BUT THEY STILL MEAN THE SAME. WE LOVE AND MISS YOU SO MUCH LOVE MOM.

GOOD MORNING MY SOM,
HOW I'VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT YOU. I WENT AND BROUGHT YOU SOME FLOWERS AND I HOPE YOU LIKE THEM. HOW YOU LOVED THE SUMMER. DAD AND I WENT TO THE LAND YESTURDAY AND JUST SAT AROUND LISTENING TO THE NATURE SOUNDS HOW PEACEFUL IT WAS. I KNOW YOU WHERE WATCHING OVER US. WE LOVE AND MISS YOU SO MUCH. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU MY DEAR SON. LOVE MOM

dear michael,
as the days go by you are missed so much. i will never stop thinking or loving you for you are my special son. mom loves you so very much and miss you too. you are in my thoughts daily and are truly missed. love mom

GOOD MORNING MICHAEL,
I MISS YOU SO MUCH. I JUST WANT TO SEE YOUR SMILING FACE AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL BLUE EYES. YOU ARE IN MY THOUGHTS ALL THE TIME. SOME TIMES WHEN I'M DRIVING I SPACE OUT THINKING OF YOU. HOW I WISH YOU WHERE STILL WITH US DOWN HERE. I LOVE YOU! LOVE MOM